How do I make sure I don't get in the friendzone with this girl?

[Mark1]

-Met a girl in class

 

-I am 26, she is 32, we are both returning students

 

-We talked, flirted a bit and I asked her for her number

 

-She said she had a bf, but I can have her number for class/hmwk

 

-Over the next few weeks we talk a lot in class/studying together

 

-LOTS of sexual jokes (mostly by her), flirting, touching, laughing etc

 

-She invtes me over to study for a test

 

-While we study, she’s flirty, funny and very sexual. She told me how she’s great at oral sex, and described them to me, her breasts etc.

 

-She even told me she had a sex dream about me and I was really good. (I would have made a move here, but she has a boyfriend)

 

-A week later she tells me in class she broke up w her boyfriend

 

-That weekend she tells me she’s going to a party and that if I came with her it would be weird because “i just broke up w my bf, and then ill walk in with you, but you’re not my boyfriend. but then ill get drunk and be all over you. and everyone will be wondering what im doing. But, we can hang out on Halloween if its just plutonic, for now.”

 

 

 

So Ive gotten some signals she likes me (flirting, sexual jokes, sex dream, “id be all over you”) and some that she doesn’t “plutonic, for now.”

 

How do I leverage this into a hookup? She knows I dig her, she’s single, we flirt etc.

 

How do I make sure I don’t become her shoulder to cry on while she’s going thru this breakup?

[Gloria25]

Make a move and see how she reacts...

 

Try to kiss her and/or when she does one of her sexual jokes, flirting, etc - escalate it.

 

Like give us an example of a flirt, sexual joke, dream, etc. she'll bring up and I'll tell you how to escalate it.

 

And when you escalate it and/or try to kiss her, if she flinches, comes up with some bs story as to why she can't (i.e. she just got out of a RL), then don't get angry, don't plead/beg. Just start being "busy" when she calls you up. Don't make time for her anymore. Then wait...

 

After you put that distance in between you, check in with her now and then. Maybe ask her out on a date and go from there.

[Mark1]

Make a move and see how she reacts...

 

Try to kiss her and/or when she does one of her sexual jokes, flirting, etc - escalate it.

 

Like give us an example of a flirt, sexual joke, dream, etc. she'll bring up and I'll tell you how to escalate it.

 

And when you escalate it and/or try to kiss her, if she flinches, comes up with some bs story as to why she can't (i.e. she just got out of a RL), then don't get angry, don't plead/beg. Just start being "busy" when she calls you up. Don't make time for her anymore. Then wait...

 

After you put that distance in between you, check in with her now and then. Maybe ask her out on a date and go from there.

 

 

Some jokes she says...we'll be studying together and she'll get up to use the restroom and say, "Ill be back, don't look in my backpack, there's a huge dildo in there." or "this is going to be hard....the test I'm talking about, not your dick" etc. Just wild stuff.

[oldshirt]

good lord dude, does she have to suck your dck and stuff it into herself before you get a clue??????

 

 

What more are you wanting here, a cosigned affidavit and notarized invitation into her pants?

 

 

You make sure you stay out of the friendzone by getting a clue and riding her like Secretariat.

 

 

Jeesh!!!

[Gloria25]

Some jokes she says...we'll be studying together and she'll get up to use the restroom and say, "Ill be back, don't look in my backpack, there's a huge dildo in there." or "this is going to be hard....the test I'm talking about, not your dick" etc. Just wild stuff.

 

Wow...where do I begin?

 

The dildo comment can to me isn't flirty. Now, the hard/d*k one can go both ways...either she's teasing you that she turns you on (which is how some cruel chicks who friendzone guys like to tease) or she really could be flirting with you.

 

I'm trying to give you a clever response without coming off as a douche...

 

About the dildo one. Maybe you can say, "Well, maybe it's time you get rid of that dildo and let me help you out in that department". About the hard-on? Well, you could probably say "If I have a hard on it's cuz I can't help getting excited over a chick I'd like to take out for date sometime - so, what do you think, wanna go out?"

 

Hope that helps...gotta think on your feet and seize the moment.

[GunslingerRoland]

So she's telling you that she wants to be platonic but if she has a couple of drinks she'll be all over you...

 

Personally I've known women like this... and they are trouble, stay away if you want anything more than a one night stand.

 

But if you really want to go for it, then just be straight up, tell her that you know she just broke up but you want to be more than friends, and you need to take it to the next level. She'll either say yes or keep teasing, and then you have your answer.

[basil67]

She wants you as a F*ck buddy. If you want a relationship, find someone else.