Karine26 Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 I have been hearing these stories a lot lately. I have always said the less a girl cares the more a guy does. I guess its right. You would think this situation would be every guys dream. But I'm coming to find out by hearing different variations of these types of stories that a lot of guys are just all talk :lmao: She may come around or she may not. People tend to want what they can't have so maybe if you don't let her know how into her you are and tone it down some she will feel threatened she might lose you and begin to re think the situation. I wish you the best!!
RecentChange Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 I have been hearing these stories a lot lately. I have always said the less a girl cares the more a guy does. I guess its right. You would think this situation would be every guys dream. But I'm coming to find out by hearing different variations of these types of stories that a lot of guys are just all talk :lmao:! Oh so much this! From my experience at least, great F buddy situations have all eventually gone sour because of his feelings (wanting a GF, or eventually feeling 'weird" about the unattached sex, or getting clingly etc). Anyway OP- IF and only if! You can separate sex from emotion (a lot of people don't / can't), and can go into this thinking only with the little head and not the big one - I would say have sex with her.
lino Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 DO NOT make a girl like this your girlfriend. You'll deeply regret it. If you want some easy sex do just that, otherwise ignore.
Hope87 Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 (edited) So I've been talking to this girl for a few months now. She says I'm perfect, but she's in a situation where she's stuck on her ex who treats her like crap. She says she doesn't want to be in a relationship. But sinceshe told me that she started opening up to me and telling me that she wants to have sex with me. That's the problem. That's all she wants, she considers herself a slut or a maneater. This is no girl I should be going after. her ex has been trying to patch things up with her, but she doesn't trust him after he cheated on her. She has told him that if she were to take him back that she wouldn't be able to stay true to him, that she may want a new relationship. I asked her if she would ever cheat on me if we were together and she said she wouldn't. She trusts me and I trusts her. She likes watching a video I sent her of myself talking to her. She has sent me pictures which she says she doesn't do. The thing is I just don't want to do it with her and leave it at that. I want her to be my girl. Is there anything I could do when we do hook up that would make a maneater like her want to stay with me? Let's reverse the roles here, if you had a sister or a loved one who told you she had been talking to a guy who is a self proclaimed "man whore" or "slut", only looking for casual sex, and wanted to make him "hers", what would you advise her to do? I think you're drawn or attracted to the challenge of "taming" or subduing this bad girl and having her all to yourself. But you must know, that she most likely does not possess the traits or at least is not in the frame of mind to commit. Have fun if you must, but the gains of kinky hot sex will never outweigh the pain and grief of heartbreak. Pretty sure you'll be on loveshack in a couple of months lamenting about how much of a bitch she is for maybe screwing another guy or something. Good luck with your adventure. Edited October 16, 2015 by Hope87 1
Strength in Healing Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 (edited) I have been hearing these stories a lot lately. I have always said the less a girl cares the more a guy does. I guess its right. There's deep-rooted psychology in this. And it goes both ways. That's why "nice guys" fail so hard, for starters. To the OP, I've been where you are. Gorgeous girl, abusive relationship. I bet my life that you're going to get hurt. You're being naive, willfully, and foolish. If she wanted to be with you, she would be. You're creating a fantasy reality in your head and it's just not in line with the actual reality. Cut your losses or get accustomed to feeling fire, because you're going to deeply get burned. She wants to use you as a tool, and it's a very dark dead end path that you'd be walking. Sex isn't worth that. So many guys will act hard and say "this sounds awesome!" But they're either ignorant, naive, pretending, or stupid. This will end badly, with you in a lot of pain, feeling as if you're now missing something. I cannot stress this enough. Edited October 16, 2015 by Strength in Healing 1
Hope87 Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 Handing out that number will result in a very similar looking situation piling up at her front door just like the wall around Jerusalem in the movie World war Z!!! There's deep-rooted psychology in this. And it goes both ways. That's why "nice guys" fail so hard, for starters. To the OP, I've been where you are. Gorgeous girl, abusive relationship. I bet my life that you're going to get hurt. You're being naive, willfully, and foolish. If she wanted to be with you, she would be. You're creating a fantasy reality in your head and it's just not in line with the actual reality. Cut your losses or get accustomed to feeling fire, because you're going to deeply get burned. She wants to use you as a tool, and it's a very dark dead end path that you'd be walking. Sex isn't worth that. So many guys will act hard and say "this sounds awesome!" But they're either ignorant, naive, pretending, or stupid. This will end badly, with you in a lot of pain, feeling as if you're now missing something. I cannot stress this enough. Could you please elaborate on the italicised sentence about the deep rooted psychology behind the "Men want what they can't have" theory? I personally think it's a dysfunctional way to approach dating. I mean during the initial stages I can see why that line of thinking would make sense eg playing hard to get and not being too easy. But, in terms of building a long term, committed relationship, vulnerability is key which will inevitably diminish the novelty and mystery and all that jazz you have at the beginning of a relationship. Really want to understand the deep rooted psychology behind it and how realistic it is? Thanks 1
Author Kylemopar Posted October 17, 2015 Author Posted October 17, 2015 Okay so I turns out that she has some feelings for me deep down inside. She just really hates showing emotions. She says that I've been all she can think about. That she has wanted me more than she has wanted anyone else. She only sticks to her ex because he was the only boyfriend she has ever had and doesn't know how to be in a normal relationship anymore. She says she's a sex fiend only for me. She's only had 2 sex partners before but she considers herself a slut because she really craves sex. I have asked her if she would ever let me take her out on a normal date and she said yes. She has sent me tons of xxx pictures with me even asking. And she keeps posting things on Facebook like "Kind of have feelings...but also kind of heartless. Balance is key." And keeps liking things I post about relationship...maybe I'm reading to much into it...I don't know.
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