Kylemopar Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 So I've been talking to this girl for a few months now. She says I'm perfect, but she's in a situation where she's stuck on her ex who treats her like crap. She says she doesn't want to be in a relationship. But sinceshe told me that she started opening up to me and telling me that she wants to have sex with me. That's the problem. That's all she wants, she considers herself a slut or a maneater. This is no girl I should be going after. her ex has been trying to patch things up with her, but she doesn't trust him after he cheated on her. She has told him that if she were to take him back that she wouldn't be able to stay true to him, that she may want a new relationship. I asked her if she would ever cheat on me if we were together and she said she wouldn't. She trusts me and I trusts her. She likes watching a video I sent her of myself talking to her. She has sent me pictures which she says she doesn't do. The thing is I just don't want to do it with her and leave it at that. I want her to be my girl. Is there anything I could do when we do hook up that would make a maneater like her want to stay with me?
Stage5Clinger Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 All you can do is hook up with her and see what happens. A girl like this though you're not going to tie down... as much as I'd love to be in your position right now she might break your heart. Proceed carefully and know that the single weakest point of failure is your feelings at this point.
katiegrl Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 (edited) But since, she started opening up to me and telling me that she wants to have sex with me. That's the problem. That's all she wants, she considers herself a slut or a maneater. This is no girl I should be going after. I want her to be my girl. These two thoughts/feelings are diametrically opposed to each other. Can you explain the dichotomy? Edited October 15, 2015 by katiegrl
Author Kylemopar Posted October 15, 2015 Author Posted October 15, 2015 Well I know that she's pretty much a risk...but omg you should see her! I want her to be mine and only mine. I'll take the risk of heartbreak of the reward would be getting her to be my girlfriend. She's perfect in the inside as well. She makes me laugh so much and so hard.
katiegrl Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Well I know that she's pretty much a risk...but omg you should see her! I want her to be mine and only mine. I'll take the risk of heartbreak of the reward would be getting her to be my girlfriend. She's perfect in the inside as well. She makes me laugh so much and so hard. Even though she's a self-proclaimed slut and maneater? Okay dude, whatever floats your boat! Good luck with that.... lol 1
Stage5Clinger Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Well I know that she's pretty much a risk...but omg you should see her! I want her to be mine and only mine. I'll take the risk of heartbreak of the reward would be getting her to be my girlfriend. She's perfect in the inside as well. She makes me laugh so much and so hard. Dude, you are so "in for it"...
Author Kylemopar Posted October 15, 2015 Author Posted October 15, 2015 Well she has said that she would never cheat on me. She's honest...too honest. She tells me everything...she told me she rubbed herself out to one of my pictures during a conversation about broccoli. She says I'm a good man.
Author Kylemopar Posted October 15, 2015 Author Posted October 15, 2015 Will do. But honestly I was hoping for a little help from you guys. Like let me deal with the consequences. I know what's at risk. Just tell me what there is I can do to nudge her into being mine you know? Anything will do.
Stage5Clinger Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Will do. But honestly I was hoping for a little help from you guys. Like let me deal with the consequences. I know what's at risk. Just tell me what there is I can do to nudge her into being mine you know? Anything will do. A girl like that wants one thing; sex. It's clear. You need to bang her well. You'll probably be her flavor for a while but when the sex well runs dry (or starts to get bland) don't be surprised that you become the ex.
joseb Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 You can't do anything to "nudge her into being yours" If you want to have some fun sex then go ahead, but forget about any kind of relationship (other than **** buddies)
Mysteryman9110 Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 This reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where Jerry discovers that his GF is into threesomes and he doesn't want it. " This is like discovering plutonium by accident ! " 1
mortensorchid Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Whatever the case may be, this does not sound like a healthy situation for any party mentioned. If you just want sex out of her and she of you? So be it. But is that all you REALLY want? It doesn't sound like it. As for the thing with the ex bf? Sounds pretty strange to me. I was with some guy years ago who was hung up on his ex gf, stalking her in every way possible (presents, letters, phone calls, drive bys, etc.) and had no problem sharing all of this with me as his "girlfriend". It was a pretty codependent situation, which this sounds like. I'd just bail on this. What is it giving you?
Shanex Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 She only wants sex? Give me her number, pal. Ill grant that request. 2
mystikmind2005 Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 She only wants sex? Give me her number, pal. Ill grant that request. Handing out that number will result in a very similar looking situation piling up at her front door just like the wall around Jerusalem in the movie World war Z!!! 1
jam.over.jelly Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 She's hung up on her ex. Exes just have this power that can't be explained. It's ridiculous I know, but I have been there. I met an incredible guy a couple years back, but the timing was just wrong when I had just broken up with my ex of 3 years. I thought I liked him, well I did, but my mind was clouded by thoughts about my ex. We had sex, he wanted more, but I was so emotionally unavailable at that time. I ended up hurting him pretty badly, twice. Trust me you're only gonna get hurt in the end. Guard your heart, if you think you can have sex with her without getting attached, do it, but if not, I suggest you to just leave her alone, and spend time on someone who's available to you and wants the same thing you do. Good luck!
Author Kylemopar Posted October 15, 2015 Author Posted October 15, 2015 She's hung up on her ex. Exes just have this power that can't be explained. It's ridiculous I know, but I have been there. I met an incredible guy a couple years back, but the timing was just wrong when I had just broken up with my ex of 3 years. I thought I liked him, well I did, but my mind was clouded by thoughts about my ex. We had sex, he wanted more, but I was so emotionally unavailable at that time. I ended up hurting him pretty badly, twice. Trust me you're only gonna get hurt in the end. Guard your heart, if you think you can have sex with her without getting attached, do it, but if not, I suggest you to just leave her alone, and spend time on someone who's available to you and wants the same thing you do. Good luck! That's her exact situation...3 years with the guy. He was her first love. She says she wants to move on but she's just not ready emotionally. She says that not only does she want primal sex. She says she wants to make love.
Shanex Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 (edited) Wrg thread Edited October 15, 2015 by Shanex nvm
jam.over.jelly Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Damn. He was also my first love. First true love. First love is definitely very, very hard to get over! You can't compete with her ex. I'm so sorry but it's true. You will just be the rebound guy. The timing is bad. If you met her at another time when she hasn't just broken up with her ex, things probably would have been different. It took me a year to finally get over my ex, I did date 3 guys during that year but nothing serious, I was still hurt and in love with my ex, I just couldn't give those guys a fair chance. You aren't doing yourself any favor here if you stick around, you WILL get hurt. Trust me, there are other great girls out there for you who aren't still hung up on their exes. 2
LostOnes05 Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Bro, if you've already got feelings for her I'd suggest you move on. You're only setting yourself up for a disaster. As soon as she said she couldn't get over the ex, that was your cue to exit stage left. Basically tell her when you get over those residual feelings give me a call. Now if you do decide to bump uglies, be prepared for her to give you the cold shoulder fairly soon if you continue with the relationship talk. Why? Because you want the opposite of what she wants. And she'll feel like your invading her space and freedom. I personally don't know how people have sex without an emotional attachment, but if you can then go for it! Best of luck! 1
SSM3 Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 I am in the same boat with my girl. She doesn't want a relationship due to her ex. The sex we have is out of this world and just gets better and better! I'm starting to notice her becoming alot more affectionate now when we are having sex compared to when we first got together. Mine too is stunning. It's a dangerous game but I'll play it.
Author Kylemopar Posted October 15, 2015 Author Posted October 15, 2015 I am in the same boat with my girl. She doesn't want a relationship due to her ex. The sex we have is out of this world and just gets better and better! I'm starting to notice her becoming alot more affectionate now when we are having sex compared to when we first got together. Mine too is stunning. It's a dangerous game but I'll play it. YES! At least someone gets it! I know the risks. The reward is much greater than heartbreak, so worth it the risk.
RecentChange Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 As a female who has - and enjoys "sex only" relationships... Why don't you respect the boundaries she has set, and just have sex? Don't get all sprung on her, or get emotionally attached - that's not what she is looking for. She is looking for sex (sounds like she has enough going on already in the relationship department). I can tell you the moment an F' buddy wanted to girlfriend me, it killed the whole arrangement. 2
Omei Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 (edited) She's not over her ex and is Dtf. If you cant do that move on because she will only be ready for a relationship when shes ready on her own so don't think your gonna be so awesome shell be ready she needs time. Ps here's a tip, if you do become fwb when shes ready to have a relationship she wont seek you because you'll long be labed the **** buddy and not boyfriend material. So if you ever want a sliver of hope in the future be a good friend for now. Edited October 16, 2015 by Omei
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