GreenEyes_88 Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 I'm currently going through a break up. We were together 1 1/2 years. We were on a break because my boyfriend couldn't make up his mind. Something always brings him back. He said we were great but something was off. Two weeks ago he said he doesn't feel that deep connection your supposed to have so this is now an actual break up. We're like best friends though and both of us don't want to stop talking to each other. There was no drama in the relationship and the sex was always good. I think things with us became predictable. We know each other's schedules. I always text things like "good morning", "how's your day going" or "Whatcha up to" hoping to start a good conversation that way depending on what he says. He tries to change things up a little bit but I have trouble with that for some reason. He likes texting throughout the day and I remember a comment he made in the beginning of our relationship saying he doesn't know how people stay together if they don't. What are interesting things to randomly text someone to start deeper more meaningful text conversations? Someone you already know to reignite some of the fun and excitement felt in the beginning.
PrettyEmily77 Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 My first reaction was : why text? Wouldn't calling him make having a deeper conversation easier than doing it by text? 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 I agree with PrettyEmily. You can't really have a meaningful and deep conversation with anyone over text. It just doesn't translate well. If that is what you're trying to develop then you need to make more of an effort to engage with him in person and see how it goes. 1
mbee Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Honestly, texting and having conversations with him is predictable. It's comfortable. Obviously you probably can't tell because you are the one who didn't want the break up. He broke up with you for a reason, and its likely because he views you as a best friend and not a sexy, romantic partner. I've been through this several times to tell the difference so I know it hurts to hear BUT the good news is there's a way out if you are willing to do it. Do something different and keep him out of it. Nothing will attract him more then seeing you live your life. Try a new hobby. Do improv comedy, join a sports team, try painting more, dancing, whatever you are into. Book a holiday somewhere fun and go solo or with your girlfriends. Work on being healthier and adopting a new attitude on life. You texting him all the time is just making it harder for you. Again, you probably can't tell since you probably love talking to him and the attention but all these texts is only reminding him that you will always be around (and not in a good way) and will just kill the attraction. Start having your own independent life and being happy without this guy. Trust me, he will notice and he'll be interested and the spark will begin again because he'll be interested in getting to know the new you. As a side result, you'll feel happier too.
stillafool Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Personally I wouldn't bother trying to reignite a spark with this guy. After 1-1/2 years he still doesn't feel a connection there is nothing to reignite. The spark doesn't sound like it was ever there. OP you should spend your time meeting new guys. I don't think this guy is going to change his feelings about you. It sounds like you have been friend zoned.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 Personally I wouldn't bother trying to reignite a spark with this guy. After 1-1/2 years he still doesn't feel a connection there is nothing to reignite. The spark doesn't sound like it was ever there. OP you should spend your time meeting new guys. I don't think this guy is going to change his feelings about you. It sounds like you have been friend zoned. I have to agree with the above. OP, I think it's probably too late. He already ended it. If he'd brought this up before, I would give different advice. But because he has actually broken up with you, I don't see much benefit in trying to reignite anything. i think that will only prolong the hurt for you.
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