Tressugar Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Here's a long story short. My husband cheated on me with another woman. He moved in with her and he found out she was pregnant before they met. She's still trying to claim that the baby is his. I don't think he's buying it. Her due dates keeps changing. Somehow she got a hold of my number and now she keeps texting me all these threatening nasty messages. I'm thinking why in the hell is she texting me and not spending quality time with my husband? She got what she wanted. I've since blocked her. As she is about to give birth and needs to focus on her baby. What's really going on here? I'm confused. 1
ShatteredLady Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Are you still talking to him? Do you have children with him? Just because she's 'got him' doesn't mean she's not incredibly hormonal & jealous of you & your relationship with him. If you don't have kids why not block him too? Just get both of them out of your life & move on. That sounds like such a messed-up situation! Will you take him back when he knows the baby isn't his & he's had enough of the crazy? I hope you're stronger than that for your own sake Keep copies of the texts just incase it gets really nasty & you have to report her.
purplesorrow Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Who knows? Maybe she thinks you're doing what she did. You must be talking if you know what's going on over there.
Author Tressugar Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 I love my husband even though he's caused me tremendous heartbreak. We don't have any kids together. We still have to divide up the property. I would like to think God has somebody that's better for me...at this point I'm not sure.
Author Tressugar Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 No. He says that he loves me not her. I told my husband we need to help her. She's a single mother. I told him that I'll help raise the child if he wanted me to. He flat out said no.
Author Tressugar Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 Although he talks to me in a 'cloak and dagger' way. I feel he's planning on leaving her. I feel she's somehow feels threatened by me. I'm not sure why.
stillafool Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 What is she threatening you with? Why haven't you blocked her?
Author Tressugar Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 She's been blocked. To those who believe in God...the Creator has just answered my question. This woman believes that my husband will to do her what he's done to me. Well...she's has a lot to worry about. 1
Author Tressugar Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 (edited) She is also contacting my mother and is threatening her. My mother takes pity on regardlessys she's a lost soul. I feel bad for her too. As weird as this sounds, I'm going to pray for her so she has peace. I want the both of them to be happy. I forgive and love the both of them. Thank you LS for your support and responses regarding my situation. Edited October 14, 2015 by Tressugar 1
purplesorrow Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 She is also contacting my mother and is threatening her. My mother takes pity on her and says she's a lost soul. I feel bad for her too. As weird as this sounds, I'm going to pray for her so she has peace. I want the both of them to be happy. This whole thing is weird! You already know why she was contacting you. I'm afraid to ask, but wth... How exactly did the creator answer your question? Was it like an internal whisper or some external sign?
Author Tressugar Posted October 15, 2015 Author Posted October 15, 2015 Never be afraid to ask. I'm intuitive. The answer always comes to me as a faint inaudible whisper. Almost like an inner knowingness. You're right the whole situation is extremely weird! But somehow I'm at peace with it all. I'm actually happy. I'll be honest and tell you it wasn't always this way.
Mrs. John Adams Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 how did this "other woman" get your number? your mom's number? Block her and do more than pray...get a restraining order 3
ShatteredLady Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Quote - "Although he talks to me in a 'cloak and dagger' way. I feel he's planning on leaving her. I feel she's somehow feels threatened by me. I'm not sure why." Can I hazard a guess that she feels "threatened" because she has EVERY cause to be! Women are often pretty intuitive. She's threatened because "he talks to (you) in a 'cloak and dagger' way. (She) feels he's planning on leaving her." Regardless, it's very wrong of her to be sending you & your family those messages. Given her behavior & hormonal roller-coaster please be careful. Unstable can turn full-on crazy pretty fast. If she's been lying & manipulating your H her demons are about to come home to roost. I'm assuming there will be DNA tests when the baby is born. Is she planning on putting your H on the birth certificate? What is your H planning to do about that? Has he clearly given you the impression that he's only with her because she's heavily pregnant & vulnerable? I don't really understand what's going on. Have you & your H been intimate physically or emotionally since he's been with her?
Author Tressugar Posted October 15, 2015 Author Posted October 15, 2015 I'm not sure if a DNA test will be done as I am not privy to my husband's situation. From the very beginning he did tell me that she will get a DNA test . But as time has worn on she has became a very manipulative liar . Yes she would love for my husband's name to be on the birth certificate . She has already given the child my husband's name. I believe my husband has doubts about the paternity. The only reason why I say this because he is not claiming the child anymore at least in July he wasn't. But he keeps going back and forth so the last I spoke with him (last week) he claimed the child. Yes he told me he was not in love with her and that he is only with her because he's trying to do the right thing. They have a tumultuous relationship a lot of arguments, a lot of drama between the two of them . I stay far away from their drama. But periodically she tried to drag me into it . Before I blocked her she was sending me text messages telling me to take my husband back because he was blaming her for his cheating. We have not been intimate. She has multiple partners and I don't want to catch anything from him. 2
Author Tressugar Posted October 15, 2015 Author Posted October 15, 2015 how did this "other woman" get your number? your mom's number? Block her and do more than pray...get a restraining order Nobody knows how she got mine and my family's numbers.
HereNorThere Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 It doesn't sound like anyone has their head on straight here. You're talking to invisible spirits, offering to raise your husbands affair partner's kid. She's stalking and harassing you and you family, cuckolding your husband and disrespecting you. And let's not even get started on what a monster your ex is. Change all of your phone numbers and get into some intensive therapy. There's a long road ahead of you, but there is help out there. 5
HereNorThere Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 Nobody knows how she got mine and my family's numbers. Most likely from his phone or personal effects. 1
Author Tressugar Posted October 16, 2015 Author Posted October 16, 2015 (edited) It doesn't sound like anyone has their head on straight here. You're talking to invisible spirits, offering to raise your husbands affair partner's kid. She's stalking and harassing you and you family, cuckolding your husband and disrespecting you. And let's not even get started on what a monster your ex is. Change all of your phone numbers and get into some intensive therapy. There's a long road ahead of you, but there is help out there. I may not have my head on straight according to you, but I believe in the Higher power.I have peace. I must be doing something right. Most people would not be able to survive what I've been through. I have a spiritual counselor I see frequently and it's helping in this process. Thank you for your concern. Edited October 16, 2015 by Tressugar 1
Lois_Griffin Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 No. He says that he loves me not her. I told my husband we need to help her. She's a single mother. I told him that I'll help raise the child if he wanted me to. He flat out said no. This guy is a real snake. First he DESERTS you for what he thought was a 'better deal,' then once he got what he thought he wanted, he finds out its not the Shangri-La he thought it was and starts his smarmy bullsh*t back up with you. A smart young lady would have been at her laywer's office scraping this POS off the bottom of her shoe, not 'loving' this lying, manipulative loser and swallowing her pride just to get him back. I told my husband we need to help her. She's a single mother. I told him that I'll help raise the child if he wanted me to. He flat out said no. Please see a therapist. Please. Why are you disrespecting yourself to THIS level? 1
Author Tressugar Posted October 17, 2015 Author Posted October 17, 2015 Lois, I like your style. I'm in therapy with an excellent therapist. That's what I would've done then, not now. Healing is aprocess. It seems like everyday I get a little bit stronger and see my situation from a non emotional perspective. There are days I back slide, but gracefully to work my strength right back before the back sliding.
World's.Edge Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 I may not have my head on straight according to you, but I believe in the Higher power.I have peace. I must be doing something right. Most people would not be able to survive what I've been through. I have a spiritual counselor I see frequently and it's helping in this process. Thank you for your concern. Many people have been what you have been through and survived much much worse. This whole thread seems wonky at best, really not sure what to make of it.
TaraMaiden2 Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 One: Advise your ex to insist on a paternity test, or he walks and she can fight for his presence. Two: Block him, block her, and deny either one of them any contact with you, access to you or connection with you, your life or your family. Three: focus on yourself and on gaining some kind of emotional stability, whatever that means to you. Reading this thread as a continual account, you really do sound all over the place, and as if you're feet are not firmly on the ground. 2
Author Tressugar Posted October 20, 2015 Author Posted October 20, 2015 Thank you Tara. I'm getting stronger as the days pass by. I no longer see myself as anybody's doormat. It's not my concern what goes on outside of myself.
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