Ex left me for ex and now wants me back - but can this be consider GIGS UPDATED!

[MINDSHIFT]

It is his life and he decides for it, yes you get rid of cancerous cells, but you have every right to go back to the hospital and burn those cancerous cells, you can spit on those cancerous cells, you can do whatever you want to do with them, after all they were the ones who had plagued your life...

 

Love this, best Quote or should i say paragraph of my time on loveshack

[Blanco]

I have spent much of my life being vengeful toward those I have perceived to have done me wrong. I can honestly say that in the last eight or nine months, I've done a lot of soul-searching and introspection about my life as it's been and as it might be going forward. I've come to realize that my life has never been markedly improved by holding grudges or wishing ill onto others. That's not to say that some people don't deserve comeuppance. It's just that I've realized it isn't my place to facilitate this retribution.

 

All that holding onto hope that bad things would happen to people who have hurt me has done is kept me chained to the past and unfocused on the present. I'm not going to lie and say that I've freed myself of these past urges. It's just that I no longer wish to foster and nurture these feelings. They've served no positive purpose in my life. If anything, they've been a barrier between me and a more fulfilling, rewarding life.

 

I'll bow out of this thread now, as it's clear I'm a minority voice on how this situation should be handled.

[quattrob]

I have spent much of my life being vengeful toward those I have perceived to have done me wrong. I can honestly say that in the last eight or nine months, I've done a lot of soul-searching and introspection about my life as it's been and as it might be going forward. I've come to realize that my life has never been markedly improved by holding grudges or wishing ill onto others. That's not to say that some people don't deserve comeuppance. It's just that I've realized it isn't my place to facilitate this retribution.

 

All that holding onto hope that bad things would happen to people who have hurt me has done is kept me chained to the past and unfocused on the present. I'm not going to lie and say that I've freed myself of these past urges. It's just that I no longer wish to foster and nurture these feelings. They've served no positive purpose in my life. If anything, they've been a barrier between me and a more fulfilling, rewarding life.

 

I'll bow out of this thread now, as it's clear I'm a minority voice on how this situation should be handled.

 

Blanco, minority voice or not, I agree with what you have posted in this thread however it's pointless to continue as OP has his mind deadset on what he wants to do. I can't have said it better myself in regards to getting revenge on others doing harm to you/giving you pain. All I can say is if people head down that path, they would only harm themselves and are usually no better than the person that hurt them/caused them pain. It is quite immature in my eyes.

[Samuel_22]

Blanco, minority voice or not, I agree with what you have posted in this thread however it's pointless to continue as OP has his mind deadset on what he wants to do. I can't have said it better myself in regards to getting revenge on others doing harm to you/giving you pain. All I can say is if people head down that path, they would only harm themselves and are usually no better than the person that hurt them/caused them pain. It is quite immature in my eyes.

I don't think we have to be any better towards those who have caused this pain, and I don't practice bible verses, since I have come to understand God has got nothing to do with our lives, Someone slaps you, you slap that person twice, someone takes your eye out, you take his heart out... if someone killed your family, would you go forward and tap the person in the back, and shake hands with him? or would you walk away reading bible verses,'' vengeance is all mine.''? either way you would be a coward. It is not about being mature or immature, it is easier and better to let people run away without a scratch for some, for me? no no...they have to laugh, they have every right to do so, but they have to watch their backs as well, this one is not my business... they have to watch their backs themselves!

The axe forgets, the tree remembers!

 

Go on mindshift be her favorite hello, make her fall in love, and then be her hardest goodbye.... it is legal, legitimate and sweet...

As for me I have a feeling Karma is taking care of my case, she is really in love with her ex, the day she wanted to leave I turned to sky and said,

I would wish you love

and he is even more amazing than the past

and for you to love him

so much you would not be able to breathe without him

and he would walk away...

Sweet Karam is taking care of my case, you were not that lucky, you have to stab her in the back yourself

Edited October 18, 2015 by Samuel_22

[frigginlost]

You need to take emotion out of everything regarding her.

 

I gave you my example of what is happening with my ex earlier in the thread. In the last 24 hours she has absolutely started ramping up the chase. Wanting to now get together, now wanting to fix me dinner, etc. I in return have given her nothing about what is going on in my life. I'm just being myself with her.

 

She left me for another guy. She dumped him 2 months later and came running back. I told her to pound sound. She ran right back to him (which I new she would, but I knew it would not last). I let her live in a false sense of love with the dude for a year. You know what I did? I friggin' healed. Mass tears, mass anger, mass sorrow. Then I woke up and started chasing tail again.

 

Now she was dumped (just like I knew she would be, because the dude is polar opposite of her) and she is absolutely driving hard to the net with me.

 

Will I take her back? I have no idea. Does it bug me she left me for another dude? Not really as there has been plenty of time since then, and I went out and had some fun. Anything regarding her and I is a new relationship. Do I think she learned a lesson? Oh hell yes.

 

If I was in my mid 20's or early 30's would I be considering getting back with her. Probably not...

 

 

Not my thread, but an update regarding the above mentioned ex.

 

Saturday morning, she texted me that she wanted to meet. We did and had a really good time (she rarely paid for anything when we were together as I always enjoyed picking up the bill. She would have none of it Saturday morning, and paid for everything). We got back from breakfast and she flat out hit me with it; "I miss you and miss us" then kissed me.

 

I'm completely indifferent about her, so I'm just gonna see where it goes. First red flag I see, I bounce. Simple as that.

[sandylee1]

Blanco, minority voice or not, I agree with what you have posted in this thread however it's pointless to continue as OP has his mind deadset on what he wants to do. I can't have said it better myself in regards to getting revenge on others doing harm to you/giving you pain. All I can say is if people head down that path, they would only harm themselves and are usually no better than the person that hurt them/caused them pain. It is quite immature in my eyes.

 

I pretty much agree with Bianco.

 

If you OP weren't still holding out hope, you'd be out there with the girl you're interested in having fun. Your Ex is certainly back in it with her Ex.

 

Notice how she was back with him within 24 hours and didn't care much about your feelings, but she's being really careful not to upset him. Why do you think that is? It's so that he doesn't think too badly of her in case they get back together again.

 

If you don't see yourself as Plan B, that's up to you.

 

She sees you as stable enough to start a family with. If (and I hope you don't ) you end up with her.......years down the line when she cheats/leaves you and you ask "Why?" Her response...........

 

I was never in love with you.

I knew you'd be a good dad.

Your safe and I knew you could provide security.

 

Let me tell you .....a woman who loved you, would not treat you like this....no ifs, no buts, no maybes. She just wouldn't do it.