imtheone Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 so i posted on here before and come to the conclusion i was the rebound guy for my ex who is now back with her previous ex. i have decided not to contact her again, i do still want her back but its best i let her go cause if we do reconcile then im sure it will be another vicious cycle where she goes from guy to guy. im two days in with NC, but im finding it really hard not being in communication with her, we are still friends and our last conversation ended on good terms. i havent checked up on her on social media or anything which has helped me alot, because before i would obsessively check her feeds and it would just drive me crazy for some reason even when we were together, it was totally unhealhy for me, but like i said ive stopped and its helping me move on. but i still long for her, i cant help the way i feel. is there any other ways to not have these thoughts in my head? ive been out with friends and have been talking to other women but i dont want to have any other girl but this one, she is on my mind 24 freaking 7! 1
d0nnivain Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 You can't control what thought pops into you head. All you can do is acknowledge that it's there then redirect yourself. Do something active. Post here. Call a friend. But do not call her.
Ami1uwant Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Without know the details...length of relationship, how the break up happened, et all...it's hard to say how long. It will take more than a couple days..ut could tajes were ks yo months.
MzLady Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 So.. I'm going through the same thing myself right now.. well kind of. My boyfriend ghosted me and I have had a very difficult time with it. I haven't contacted him in 2 weeks now, but I still have some difficult moments. A friend suggested to me to go onto YouTube and look up "Guided Meditation" It's on there for all kinds of things, anxiety, break ups, better sleep, etc... What it basically is, is someone walking you through meditation and relaxing. I know it may sound a little strange, but it has helped me so much. When I feel like I'm getting anxious or feeling depressed, I pick one from YouTube, lay down, close my eyes and just zone out. One I like is It's not for everyone, but I thought I would at least share since it has helped me so much. Best of luck to you
Mjm1014 Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Dude, I've been there and the I know the feeling, it isn't pretty. Trust me, you need to remain no contact and act like you don't give a f^ck about her. I know because I was in the same position. I thought of all the negative things about her...that should help which turned me off and got my mind off her. Whatever you do don't contact her. Pray she comes back. I'm going to be honest, don't think the NC always works like some people might say, half the time it doesn't. The girl I dated for 4 months broke up with me randomly and I went NC thinking she would come crawling back and she didn't and I am still upset to this day and it's been over a year. When I get depressed I just think about all the gross things about her that turned me off, and I'm good to go for at least awhile...but it still sucks, you know lol. Good luck op. Don't get yourself hung up one one girl. There are a million other girls better than she will ever be!!!!
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