Toodaloo Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 Unless the person is drugged immediately prior to sex I'm presuming they are conscious and awake? Why would somebody strip naked and get a bloke to penetrate them without having a talk about what they want in general, contraception, whether they are seeing anybody else, whether they have any diseases etc? How can somebody feel able to get naked and shag but not able to have a talk? So odd. People can and do lie... Anyway back on topic. As others have said OP I don't think you slept with him too soon. Its been very laid back so far. No reason why that will not continue. The ONLY time sex is too soon is if you do not feel comfortable with it. Sex is not a weapon. It should not be used as a way to force a guy into a relationship. It should be a loving act between two people who wish to have sex with each other. Relax and see what happens when he gets back... At least it wasn't awful... 1
Methodical Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 It's pathetic how women are judged for having sex. Give it up too soon (which is subjective) and she's a loose slut. Don't put out soon enough (also subjective) and she's a prude. You're getting ahead of yourself and having regrets bc he hasn't made contact yet, but it's only been a few days and according to your post, you talk no more than once per week, ever. On the flip side of the coin, a guy who makes contact immediately after a date is too aggressive or appears desperate (also subjective.) There are so many expectations and assumptions to contend with that a person is "screwed" no matter what they do.
RoseWater Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 And for others knowing each other for long periods of time is not a prerequisite. But I see that only your way of seeing things is right, "self-respect". SEX IS NOT A SIN How can wanting to have sex only with people you love equate to "sex is a sin"? Sex is beautiful. But some of us prefer not to do it with just anybody. Just like some of us would not invite any stranger to enter our apartment, we also wouldn't invite them to enter our body. Surely our vagina is at least as important as our apartment? Do whatever is right for you. Take on an entire football team if you want.
RoseWater Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 People can and do lie... Anyway back on topic. As others have said OP I don't think you slept with him too soon. Its been very laid back so far. No reason why that will not continue. The ONLY time sex is too soon is if you do not feel comfortable with it. Sex is not a weapon. It should not be used as a way to force a guy into a relationship. It should be a loving act between two people who wish to have sex with each other. Relax and see what happens when he gets back... At least it wasn't awful... this much is true
marychapman Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 (edited) How can wanting to have sex only with people you love equate to "sex is a sin"? Sex is beautiful. But some of us prefer not to do it with just anybody. Just like some of us would not invite any stranger to enter our apartment, we also wouldn't invite them to enter our body. Surely our vagina is at least as important as our apartment? Do whatever is right for you. Take on an entire football team if you want. Slut-shaming much? I`m not talking about doing it with "anybody" or with a football team as you so gracefully and kindly pointed out. I`m talking about having sex with a person you feel a strong attraction to, it`s a beautiful LOVING act between two people and believe it or not, you dont have to know the other person for 10 years to feel all this. Sometimes it can happen much, much sooner. You have a very narrow view about connections and sexuality imo. Yeah most of the time people get to know each-other before jumping in the bed, which is the best way ... but sometimes people hit off faster and end up in the bed much quicker, and it works too... so no need to point fingers and call names. Edited October 16, 2015 by marychapman
smackie9 Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 sex can also just be a release, just like masturbation. Emotions don't need to be tied to it to enjoy it.
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