Shtubes Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Not really a dumper or dumpee situation. I caught her lying and was completely devastated. Went no contact a month ago. I unblocked her FB yesterday but, didn't check her profile (that's a big no-no). I'll always, always love you K___, and I want only the best for you. I've been to your house twice and to your work once. I just want you to be happy. I'm going to keep trying to see you, to look you deeply in the eyes and sincerely apologize. Just let go of the anger baby, find some peace, try to find it in your heart not to hate me too much longer cuz you're too beautiful of a person to hold onto that ugly feeling. I love you, truly, deeply and forever and that's a mother ****ing fact. What do you think and how should I reply?
Wewon Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Not totally sure of the proper use of the phrase "breadcrumbs" but I would base my reply on the intensity of my feelings, the magnitude/nature of the lie and how vulnerable you may feel to being sucked in. That being said, assuming that the lie was enough to want them out of your life, I would simply treat her email as an apology; send her a response accepting it, then immediately reblock her account. Cut off all contact. No need to hold grudges or be bitter but also no need to have toxic people in your life.
frigginlost Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Not really a dumper or dumpee situation. I caught her lying and was completely devastated. Went no contact a month ago. I unblocked her FB yesterday but, didn't check her profile (that's a big no-no). I'll always, always love you K___, and I want only the best for you. I've been to your house twice and to your work once. I just want you to be happy. I'm going to keep trying to see you, to look you deeply in the eyes and sincerely apologize. Just let go of the anger baby, find some peace, try to find it in your heart not to hate me too much longer cuz you're too beautiful of a person to hold onto that ugly feeling. I love you, truly, deeply and forever and that's a mother ****ing fact. What do you think and how should I reply? Wow, she's all over the ranch with that text... If it were me, I would reply with "apology accepted, best to you". That's it. I would not however block her, etc. as it would seem childish after accepting an apology. I would not however, respond to anything else from her unless it's a little more clear cut on what she's after. (you've taken the apology excuse out of the mix) 1
candie13 Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 don't respond and block the hell outta her. It'll drive her mad because she designed that text to break you. Well... tough luck ! Try and think about it in a rational cold way: is she telling you anything you don't know? IS she explaining why she lied? Is she saying she is mortified to have hurt you and destroyed the RS? IS she taking any blame? Is she showing any remorse for your suffering? No, mate. she's just asking you to be the bigger person and get over it "'cause you're too beautiful". What are you, 13, to fall for that crap? I am appalled at that email. What a manipulator! You are angry because she betrayed your trust, you suffer and are in pain because she gave you misery! And now what, she thinks that by getting her arse to your work and your house, you're gonna forgive all that? Just who the hell does she think she is, Queen of Sheba, Helen of Troy ? If it was important enough for you to break up, then it must have been important to you. Remember, some people have no barriers, no right and wrong, they lie as they breathe. I'm not saying she's one of those... but why keep such a person in your life and so close to you? There is a really high probability of her lying all over again. Plus... that message... really tacky... sorry mate ! Your time, your life, your heartache! Let us know whatever you decide ! I vote for indefinite NC and blocking her everywhere. That should get you some peace and quiet 1
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