SSM3 Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Myself and my friend are in Dubai and she's told me that she's not ready to date anyone serious yet. She wants to be on her own for a while and do the things with her mates she missed out on. She is 38 and was married for 19 years. We have been getting on fine all holiday, having fun and the spirits are good. Sex has been amazing during the holiday too! She says I'm perfect for her, finds me attractive blah blah but is not quite ready to date someone serious yet. I have come across like I am looking for serious but intact I'm not. I want to play things slowly, have fun and see where things go. This girl is worth fighting for. I am not sure what is happening when we get back home to Italy but do I pursue this? If a women says this is that close doors? We have had sex every night so far!! I am in a tough situation too and she knows and understands where I am at. But I want this girl. I am confused.
d0nnivain Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 She doesn't want to talk about relationships or deal with labels right now. Don't ask Qs like where are we? or what are we? Never refer to her as your GF. Just be with her. Keep on doing what you are doing & things should be fine. 1
Author SSM3 Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 I understand where she is coming from as we are both in the same shoes (split from ex's). I will need my space soon too and so will she. She also wants to spend time with her friends at weekends, which is fine. We have the odd kiss around the pool etc but not all the time and she is fine with this. Before we went away she always messaged me in the morning and in the evening, as well during the day. Surely, she must have some feelings for me? I am just starting to get to know this girl now and it would be a shame for it to stop. Perhaps we have just met at the wrong time. I did tell her that I'm not looking for anything serious. I know I have given her signals that I am but I have since explained things to her (my situation) and she understands why now. I am not sure to bring the conversation up on out last day or wait to see if she gets in touch when we get back.
d0nnivain Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Do not start a conversation with this woman. She does not want to talk about "your relationship." She's happy on vacation. You are getting lots of sex. You will ruin it by pushing for a discussion she does not want to have at this point. If you really need the conversation & the words, you are correct you met at the wrong time 1
Author SSM3 Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 Do not start a conversation with this woman. She does not want to talk about "your relationship." She's happy on vacation. You are getting lots of sex. You will ruin it by pushing for a discussion she does not want to have at this point. If you really need the conversation & the words, you are correct you met at the wrong time Ok, thanks. I'm going to let her lead I think
fitnessfan365 Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 To be honest man, it sounds like you're lying to yourself. I mean you say you don't want anything serious, but then you say she is worth fighting for. This makes it sound like you're going along with what she wants to keep her in your life, when deep down you want more.
Author SSM3 Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 To be honest man, it sounds like you're lying to yourself. I mean you say you don't want anything serious, but then you say she is worth fighting for. This makes it sound like you're going along with what she wants to keep her in your life, when deep down you want more. Not lying bro...I do like this girl but I ain't pushing it. I'm a good looking guy and will move on if things aren't right. It's up to her bro
menyou Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Is this the same girl you've been working on since March? If yes, enjoy the rest of the trip the best you can and when you get home, move on.
Author SSM3 Posted October 15, 2015 Author Posted October 15, 2015 Is this the same girl you've been working on since March? If yes, enjoy the rest of the trip the best you can and when you get home, move on. You might have the wrong person here I think. I didn't know this girl in March, nor was I dating anyone
joseb Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Enjoy this for what it is. Stop trying to ruin it by pushing for a relationship that neither of you needs right now.
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