Guitarisgood Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 It was a year ago that I'd been interested in her but unfortunately I never made the move when that opportunity presented. I wasn't who I am now; was quite plump, didn't look after myself enough and lacked the maturity I now carry. Obviously she turned me down then and looking back I don't know if I would have dated myself if I was truly honest with myself. She was never that mean one that you hear jilted guys talk about though. Down to earth, showed compassion and met up with me in person to make sure we were sure then where we both stood. Not to mention you'd rate her physically close to a Miranda Kerr type. Thing is, while I was turned down, down the track she ended up dating a friend of mine. They only lasted a summer before things ended on good terms as they both said. It's been a year. In that year I have changed quite a bit; think abs, maturity and working hard at studying for once. I've dated but nothing has ever amounted to anything. This girl unfortunately still gives me the butterflies and is the only one whom ever has since. I just don't know why. Recently it is quite obvious she has started to see me differently as we've started to see each other more. My heart wants to date her but my head throws out so much logic. First up obviously she is an ex of a friend. Not the ex of a close friend you're always hanging out with but a class mate; someone you sit next to in lectures. I don't hang out with those guys anymore nor am I invited to parties nor see them outside of class. But I am on good terms with this mate hence my reluctance and keeping her at an arms length. Ironically one of this guys mates has already had a fling or even more (not sure) with this girl a while back. Secondly I keep asking myself why don't I just get myself out their more and meet other people. I guess it is hard as I am in the last year of a study intensive degree hence the majority of my time is in the books. Yet I wonder to myself as no other girl has had this affect on me as she has and hence I am torn. What would you guys do? I know many of you would tell me to communicate this through to both parties but I am at that young age where communication isn't a strong point and anything you say or do can be warped beyond control. Furthermore I am not really friends with this guy anymore i.e. that social circle has left me as I knuckled down with my study etc so it is hard to bring something like this up.
Grumpybutfun Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 If you really wanted her bad enough, you wouldn't give a damn what any of us thought. You sure as hell wouldn't care about some random dude she dated a long time ago. You would make her yours, Grumps 2
kassy Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 I vote for ask her out, if it goes well then great, don't worry about her ex. If it doesn't work out you have a final answer and can move on. I don't see any downside but agree with grumps, this seems so obvious it makes me wonder if you are really that interested. 2
Author Guitarisgood Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 Is life really that simple? I guess my worry is my standing then among the guys. Dating a friends ex is not always the best way to go about things and not to mention the impression it has. I guess I feel almost that I am the one cheating on my friend.
Maggie4 Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 You wprry so much about what the guys think, that you're starting to sound like you don't really care for this girl. Anyway you're seeing her as a friend, people would not be surprised if feelings grow.
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