Guyouthere Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 First intuition is almost always right. Ask me how I know. In the past, I ignored mine for selfish reasons (yes, sounds stupid). But, NO MORE. Take for example.,,, this last girl I was with,,, I had (somewhat) out of the blue,, mentioned that I wanted to date others. Well , it was actually my subconscious/senses picking up on something that I couldn't put my finger on. That REALLY pissed her off…. BUT,,, guess what??? I later discovered that she had a guy she met just a few days prior,,,,, and she had kept him hidden from me too. Not that I care if my girlfriend has a guy friend, I don't, because I have women friends. BUT, she specifically took the step to deceive me with it, at which time I later realized telling her that me wanting to date others was VERY appropriate. And you know what????? It might sound weird,,,, BUT at the time I said it, I had no intentions of even doing it. So yes, the subconscious can and will pick up on things,,, and I did. And it sounds like yours might very well be as well. Take heed to it. I will never ignore mine again, ever. 1
TheBathWater Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Should I go on this date with this guy? Or should I listen to my gut feelings. Am i crazy? Ah, us men are a strange breed. Sometimes we don't text at night because we want to not appear needy, like we're busier than we really are, or that we may be being pursued by other women. That could be the case here, or he could be genuinely busy, or he could have a live-in girlfriend. It's really hard to say. It couldn't hurt to at least meet up once or twice and see how that goes, and then take it from there. If there are serious red flags to look out for, I'm sure they will appear. 2
Els Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 (edited) Woahhh... you're way overthinking this. If you otherwise like this guy, I think you should just go on a date with him and see how things go. It might not work out, but it also might. No way to really tell except to go... Also I can't help but notice, you seem to have a lot of anxiety surrounding how men perceive how you dress. The entire first part of your opening post was about what you were wearing, and your lack of makeup. You recently have a thread about how men perceive red lipstick. Might be coincidence, but might not be. I think you should just relax, stop worrying so much about everything, and try to have fun a little. You certainly wouldn't be the first girl who met a future boyfriend while wearing a t-shirt and no makeup, and you certainly won't be the last! Edited October 18, 2015 by Elswyth
Author jam.over.jelly Posted October 18, 2015 Author Posted October 18, 2015 Woahhh... you're way overthinking this. If you otherwise like this guy, I think you should just go on a date with him and see how things go. Also I can't help but notice, you seem to have a lot of anxiety surrounding how men perceive how you dress. The entire first part of your opening post was about what you were wearing, and your lack of makeup. You recently have a thread about how men perceive red lipstick. Might be coincidence, but might not be. I think you should just relax, stop worrying so much about everything, and try to have fun a little. You certainly wouldn't be the first girl who met a future boyfriend while wearing a t-shirt and no makeup, and you certainly won't be the last! The only reason I mentioned was because I was very surprised I was approached when I clearly wasn't trying to be noticed at all. Not sure why but i feel like you're reading too much into it . I do not have anxiety surrounding how men perceive how i dress. Lots of men have given me their opinion regarding red lipstick and how much they don't care for it, but it certainly won't stop me from wearing it. I love it and will wear it regardless of what men think about it, haha. I was just curious to hear their opinion.
Author jam.over.jelly Posted October 19, 2015 Author Posted October 19, 2015 **Update** Finally went on the date with this guy. He picked me up, was a total gentleman. We had a blast, however I don't think the connection is there, plus I can sense that he has a temper. He parked the car in the parking lot where they would park the car for you. We waited for about 5 minutes. I didn't think it was a big deal having to wait. He couldn't wait, he told me he was irritated because service seemed to suck there. We got back into his car to get out of there, there was a car in front of us, parked. Next to it was the sign blocking our way. He got out of his car and moved the sign, I could tell he was pissed. But then he brushed it off. We moved on, had our date which lasted for about 5 hours. I enjoyed his company but at the same time was turned off by his behavior. Don't think I want to see him again. 2
kilgore Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 **Update** Finally went on the date with this guy. He picked me up, was a total gentleman. We had a blast, however I don't think the connection is there, plus I can sense that he has a temper. He parked the car in the parking lot where they would park the car for you. We waited for about 5 minutes. I didn't think it was a big deal having to wait. He couldn't wait, he told me he was irritated because service seemed to suck there. We got back into his car to get out of there, there was a car in front of us, parked. Next to it was the sign blocking our way. He got out of his car and moved the sign, I could tell he was pissed. But then he brushed it off. We moved on, had our date which lasted for about 5 hours. I enjoyed his company but at the same time was turned off by his behavior. Don't think I want to see him again. Yuck. If he can't keep his temper in check on a first date, his everyday temper is probably much, much worse. I like to give people benefit of the doubt but it's true. 1
Author jam.over.jelly Posted October 19, 2015 Author Posted October 19, 2015 I agree, first date usually is when you should put your best foot forward, but he clearly couldn't keep his temper under control. I'll pass on that. 1
kilgore Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 I agree, first date usually is when you should put your best foot forward, but he clearly couldn't keep his temper under control. I'll pass on that. Right. He could easily snap on you. I don't mean violence but who needs it 1
Guyouthere Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 **Update** Finally went on the date with this guy. He picked me up, was a total gentleman. We had a blast, however I don't think the connection is there, plus I can sense that he has a temper. He parked the car in the parking lot where they would park the car for you. We waited for about 5 minutes. I didn't think it was a big deal having to wait. He couldn't wait, he told me he was irritated because service seemed to suck there. We got back into his car to get out of there, there was a car in front of us, parked. Next to it was the sign blocking our way. He got out of his car and moved the sign, I could tell he was pissed. But then he brushed it off. We moved on, had our date which lasted for about 5 hours. I enjoyed his company but at the same time was turned off by his behavior. Don't think I want to see him again. What you need is a guy who can make some smoked fish. hehehe Ditch the jam and jelly. lol You had a blast? What you have, explosives in your purse? Seriously though,,,, you saw a temper… not good. That is a big red flag. If he gets mad at that kind of stuff, he will be worse with other things, including god forbid you make him mad. Smart of you to not want to see him again.
Author jam.over.jelly Posted October 19, 2015 Author Posted October 19, 2015 What you need is a guy who can make some smoked fish. hehehe Ditch the jam and jelly. lol You had a blast? What you have, explosives in your purse? Seriously though,,,, you saw a temper… not good. That is a big red flag. If he gets mad at that kind of stuff, he will be worse with other things, including god forbid you make him mad. Smart of you to not want to see him again. Ah, indeed i do. Especially smoked salmon. Haha! I did have a great time with him, almost forgot about the incident in the parking lot. But when I got home and thought about it all, I couldn't forgo the red flag. 2
kilgore Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 Ah, indeed i do. Especially smoked salmon. Haha! I did have a great time with him, almost forgot about the incident in the parking lot. But when I got home and thought about it all, I couldn't forgo the red flag. I'm actually surprised you didn't end it there
Author jam.over.jelly Posted October 19, 2015 Author Posted October 19, 2015 I'm actually surprised you didn't end it there He was my ride 1
Guyouthere Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 Ah, indeed i do. Especially smoked salmon. Haha! I did have a great time with him, almost forgot about the incident in the parking lot. But when I got home and thought about it all, I couldn't forgo the red flag. I use kingfish I get during the summer. It is an oilier fish like salmon, so does well in the smoker. Put some honey on it, and its something to dream over. lol No excuse for acting in that manner. Maybe he is also a narcissist. I just finished studying up on that type of personality, and learned a lot (so I don't encounter it again in the future). You sound wise, good that you are 2
Guyouthere Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 He was my ride Next time fly your helicopter.
Guyouthere Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 Better yet, fly your helicopter here… I have the next 2 days off. Florida is nice. I'll take you out on my 13 foot cruise ship and watch the alligators sunbathe on the shore of our polluted river.
Author jam.over.jelly Posted October 19, 2015 Author Posted October 19, 2015 I feel like I'm in the way The more the merrier. Stay. LOL! 1
kilgore Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 The more the merrier. Stay. LOL! Ok fine. You are a much more decisive dater than i ever was. Though I never met someone with a horrible temper
Guyouthere Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 The ocean is rough now, so take some seasick pills, or bring one of those bags you stole off of the last flight you took. hehehe I have a supply of them as well, just in case.
Guyouthere Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 I am no fan of Florida. Send postcards I take it that you don't like the heat? It is comfortable here starting this time of the year, then it lasts through April. After that, its all heat and humidity. I live near the ocean and have plenty to do here, fishing s great, and lots of valuables to be found out here as well. People here tend to be transient though,,, not many who actually have long standing roots here. It is that type of reality which also makes dating harder, that and the often loose lifestyle that exists in some parts too. I find that many people here don't like to make new friends either (unless they are lonely). Many here stick with family or those who they grow up with. It is very antisocial in some ways. I don't have family here other than mom who I take care of. Overall Florida is good for those who love the ocean and heat.
h0000 Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 I didn't really see a red flag? I would be annoyed too if I had to wait 5 min or something was blocking my way. But maybe if I was with someone I like I wouldn't mind waiting with her together
Author jam.over.jelly Posted October 19, 2015 Author Posted October 19, 2015 I didn't really see a red flag? I would be annoyed too if I had to wait 5 min or something was blocking my way. But maybe if I was with someone I like I wouldn't mind waiting with her together He sorta slammed the sign on the ground. 1
kilgore Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 He sorta slammed the sign on the ground. You should have left then 2
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