GirlontheLam Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 The past few months for me have been really interesting. Warning in advance, this is going to be a long story. I started a flirtation with a vendor at work (please no warnings about getting involved with people you work with). This vendor is not currently local, and had moved away to the other coast right about the time we started working more closely. He still has ties to my area: family and close friends, so he visits fairly regularly. Over the following months weeks, the vendor and I had been meeting online/conference calls and talking more one on one. Things became more friendly in tone as we started to get to know each other a bit. Now a few weeks ago he came to town for a longer visit: 2 weeks for crunch time of our project. Over the course of the 2 weeks we had 4-5 in person meetings, both in a group or alone. To keep this short, at the end of this 2 week period things shifted in our relationship: he complimented my lookswe exchanged hugs for greetings and goodbyes for all meetingswe went on a lunch date one on onehe told me he was single and I confirmed I washe dropped hints about me visiting himhe talked about friends of his I should meet All positive signs. Additionally we got to know each other, and we found out we have lots in common. And I figured out he really was the unicorn. The personification of that list I had in my 20s about the "perfect mate." Like everyone's list mine had appearance and personality traits. As I got older I whittled things down to the essentials. At the end of this visit we added a personal element to our relationship and started communicating some out side of work, becoming friends on social media. He is starting to feel like a real friend. Each of our conversations have felt like we have known each other forever. We uncover a common interest or a common experience. He seems very invested in my happiness: happy to praise me on accomplishments, wants to know more about my likes/dislikes/interests and so on. I look forward to chatting with him and we are all smiles during our talks. It has been about 3 weeks since I last saw him. He was on vacation. We texted some. Things are really different in my world, I accepted a new job. And I called him to share the news. That conversation ended with him asking me to visit so we could celebrate the new gig. I agreed and put a tentative date 3 weeks from now. I was super excited about the trip, as we haven't actually spent any time one on one outside of work other than one lunch. We connected yesterday for work, and this time he mentioned he was planning to come to town soon. And wanted to celebrate with me here. So here we are. I am totally smitten. And I haven't figured out what he wants yet. He is a friendly, flirty guy and I haven't seen him with other people to gauge if he is treating me "special." There are two avenues for this to play out: best friends or dating. Our connection is too strong to fizzle at acquaintances. I have been playing it cool. As much as possible. I can't wait to see him, but I have no idea when that will happen. We get along so well, it is going to be really easy to spend too much time together too soon. I feel like he is reading my mind, as it seems he seems to do or say the right thing as I am thinking it. It is such a weird feeling. And for now, I just have to wait. It just seems too soon to spill the beans that I am totally smitten. 1
d0nnivain Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Smitten is a fun place to be. However, based on what you have written he could be on the same page or he could be somewhere else. Is he coming to you 1st before you go see him to celebrate in 3 weeks? If you don't go on an actual date, that would be a great deal of cold water on the smitten for me. Have you thought through this trip in 3 weeks, especially logistics, as in where are you staying? I hope the answer to that is in a hotel. 1
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