AlurOne Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 I've been seeing a really great girl for a little over 3 months now. She is sweet, thoughtful, and we have spent a good amount of time together. Plus I can tell that she really likes me a lot. I like her too, but I'm having a problem because I find that I'm still not over the last girl who I was seeing, and I still think about her a lot. I feel like this isn't fair to the girl I'm seeing now. I like her and respect her, and want to do the right thing. Do I let her go? Do I tell her some variation of "it's not you, it's me"? I feel like most people would see this as a cop out, although it would be true to say in this case. There is no problem with her at all, but I find my mind preoccupied with the other quite often. Any perspective on this is much appreciated. Thanks!
empresario Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 I've been seeing a really great girl for a little over 3 months now. She is sweet, thoughtful, and we have spent a good amount of time together. Plus I can tell that she really likes me a lot. I like her too, but I'm having a problem because I find that I'm still not over the last girl who I was seeing, and I still think about her a lot. I feel like this isn't fair to the girl I'm seeing now. I like her and respect her, and want to do the right thing. Do I let her go? Do I tell her some variation of "it's not you, it's me"? I feel like most people would see this as a cop out, although it would be true to say in this case. There is no problem with her at all, but I find my mind preoccupied with the other quite often. Any perspective on this is much appreciated. Thanks! I think you already have your answer. It sucks, but you recognized it. That shows a lot of maturity. Plain and simply, you are not ready for another serious relationship yet. I would be honest. Tell her that. Sometimes after a bad breakup or when you part from someone you love you have to make yourself happy for a while before you have the mental fortitude to make someone else happy. It's not weakness, nor is it a cop out. The fact that you know it already and we didn't have to tell you shows me that you really don't need our advice. Best of luck
Versacehottie Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Yeah I think you should let her know what's going on. You'll probably regret it--hopefully you get to that point before it's too late and you have no more chance with her. But yeah, not fair to date her AND doubtful you will fall in love with her if you keep dating her right now. Get the other one out of your head first. That takes time and focus on yourself to reset. Hopefully you can do it fast and this one will still be available. Don't date her while your trying to reset though.
Author AlurOne Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 Thanks for the responses, I really appreciate the input.
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