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I'm feeling the sting of a few recent rejections. i've read that it's important to try to put yourself out there at least once a week to try to meet people, but I haven't felt like doing that lately. Tonight there was an opportunity to go out to a group event where there might theoretically have been an opportunity to meet girls, but I didn't feel up to it and stayed home and ate dinner alone instead. Basically, I've been feeling a "why bother" attitude about putting myself out there and approaching women, and am feeling unmotivated. I think it's that I'm just tired of being disappointed when I get rejected and although I want to find a partner, I feel like I'm making no progress finding a match. Each rejection makes me feel further away from finding the right person. Any thoughts?

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I'm feeling the sting of a few recent rejections. i've read that it's important to try to put yourself out there at least once a week to try to meet people, but I haven't felt like doing that lately. Tonight there was an opportunity to go out to a group event where there might theoretically have been an opportunity to meet girls, but I didn't feel up to it and stayed home and ate dinner alone instead. Basically, I've been feeling a "why bother" attitude about putting myself out there and approaching women, and am feeling unmotivated. I think it's that I'm just tired of being disappointed when I get rejected and although I want to find a partner, I feel like I'm making no progress finding a match. Each rejection makes me feel further away from finding the right person. Any thoughts?

Trust me,

I know exactly how you feel (although I am a woman). I think you should get out there only for yourself. Do not go out only to search for a partner. I used to only want the go out for that and then I came to realize that I was having no fun doing that. I thought of the pressure of looking good, if they would even notice me or even for once approach me.

 

Things are so different now a days and being 28 I am extremely old fashioned...the way I thought people were supposed to get to know each other is not at all true.

 

Anyway just go and have fun, forget looking for a partner, if anything you will feel better because you got out of the house.

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