Marcihaynes Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 Well I've posted several different story's on here with what's going on with my ex. Here's an update . A month ago he left me cause we got into an argument . We fought a lot stress due to kids and work he was also self medicating with pain pills. Well 2 weeks ago was the last time I talked to him and he told me he doesn't love me and I need to get over him and hadn't loved me in over a year. I had been blowing him up and constantly asking him to please be with me. Well that stopped. This past Sunday he texted me and said he cannot take it anymore he wants to see our kids. That he's better now (started going to the doctor to get help) well I wrote him back and said you can come see them at my house but your not aloud inside. Well he ended up coming in and staying in. Broke down crying saying he regrets everything he has done recently he has been used and taken advantage of by everyone he has associated himself with. I told him I'm happy with life right now, and sorry he's gone through all that. Well after he left he texted and asked how have I really been and wanted to know about life and all that. We texted a little that was all. We ended up talking on the phon last night and he said he wants to be honest with me for the first time in our relationship wants everything to be real. That if he needs anyone to talk to he can talk to me or if I need anyone I can talk to him. That he wants to take things slow and be civil and see where we end up. Here's the catch, he's also talking to a girl he said he met last week at a strip club that they haven't hung out or touched each other but he said it's nice to talk to someone else because it makes him realize how good of a mom and person I am. WTF right. He also said that regardless of if we get into a relationship with other people he still wants to be able to have sex. HELP
Penguins Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 I would be confused as well. Does he want to be a family with you or not? Is he looking to have "it all" with whomever? It doesn't sound like he is serious about reengaging with you if he still is talking to another woman. And sex, that is for a committed, secure, marriage relationship...is that what you have? Last questions, what changed in the 2 weeks - he didn't love you now he does? I am so sorry you are struggling...hang in there, you decide what your marriage looks like and stick to it.
Author Marcihaynes Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 He said he is talking to her as a friend only getting to know about her life but he will never give her the person he gave to me at the beginning "head over feet in love" and he would never give that to anyone else and if he were going to give it to anyone it would be me, so I responded with well then give it to me. He said "your not ready for it". Im so confused. I think what changed in the past 2 weeks is I hadn't talked to him or anything so maybe he thought I moved on? Who knows I'm so confused. But I'm not going to be a second choice for anyone I'm going to continue to live my life and he will eventually see I'm over the games
Penguins Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 I wish there was a way to start fresh. Maybe you could tell him what you are looking for in a relationship? Could you help him to understand that any conversation on an "emotional" level with another woman does not help you "to be ready for it"? Give it some time, maybe when he sees that you are not panicking he will wonder what is up. You work on becoming the confident, relaxed woman that you want to be and he will start thinking he needs to get on board.
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