Liono84 Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 (edited) I've been broken up with my ex for 2.5 months. I've deleted her number, blocked her on all social media (FB/Instagram/Snapchat) and haven't made any contact since. I feel like I'm getting better and better with the passing of each week, although I still do think about her every day. However, one thing that's holding me back is my Facebook account. Do you guys think it's wise to deactivate it?? To anyone who has gotten dumped, have you deleted or deactivated Facebook after your breakup and if so, for how long??? I'm not an overly jealous person, but since the breakup I get really depressed anytime I see friends of mine who are in relationships. This is especially true to friends who have gotten into new relationships. Over the past three months, 3 of my close friends who had been single for a long time just got into new relationships and while I should be very happy for them, I'm not. I hate myself for feeling this way and having these thoughts. I feel guilty and bad but I can't lie to myself that these feelings persist. I never use to feel this way, but every time I see a new picture up I get this evil feeling and then I think to myself of what could've been with my ex, how I wasted so much time, why do I have such bad luck, etc., Edited October 13, 2015 by Liono84
d0nnivain Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 Social media depresses a lot of people. Try to remember that people only post the good stuff on there. It's more like a brag board then a true representation of them. Stay off social media for a while if it upsets you that much. 2
carhill Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 OP, since you should have no problem staying in touch with your personal friends both in person and via phone, consider a temporary cessation of social media interaction as part of your 'grief period' and focus on those interactions which provide love and support to you in real life. Your R with your ex was a real life thing so grieve it in real life and ask for support from those close to you as you go through the process. A couple of months can be plenty of grief for one person and a mere beginning for another. It depends on the person, their attachment style, the length and type of relationship and how it ended. It took me a couple years to completely exit the process when my exW and I divorced, and that was with MC prior to divorce. Normal? IDK. Whatever it was, I'm satisfied with the process now some 4 years later this month. Being older, I chose to move on to other things in life. As a young person, you'll move on to other relationships. It'll get better, in time.
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 I agree with d0nnivain. As I just posted in another thread about Facebook, social media, particularly FB is simply a hodge podge highlight reel featuring the best of...and nothing more. I personally don't think it's necessary to deactivate your account unless that is something you've been thinking about long before your break up. Just refrain from logging on for a while. You're still in the very early stages of healing so give it time. Good luck.
jphcbpa Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 I got off FakeBook for about 4 months after a BU. It was good for me to unplug from that after unfriending, untagging ect. 2
Oregon_Dude Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 "Hey doc, it hurts when I do THIS..." "Well, don't f*cking DO that." 2
deadelvis Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 I deactivate my FB and all social media. My life is much better without it. 1
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