ilovemusic3 Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 I'm a 26 yr. old female, I've been trying to find someone to date, a job, friends, and for 5 years with no luck. Should I give up? Would you still keep trying?
morrowrd Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 You only live once. What does it hurt to keep trying? If you don't try, you can be absolutely sure you will never reach any of those goals.
Zippy2000 Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 I'm a 26 yr. old female, I've been trying to find someone to date, a job, friends, and for 5 years with no luck. Should I give up? Would you still keep trying? You might want to elaborate why you are not having much luck. For example are you going out? Doing things the same or different? Give us a bit of background.
Maggie4 Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 I don't think you have a choice. These are necessities of a normal life, like eating enough calories is necessary for your body to function normally. How do you live without a job? How do you go through life without a mate and without friends? Not normal. You're not a hermit. Start with job, a social network, then friends, then through friends you will get introduced to dates. 1
Author ilovemusic3 Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 I didn't really go to college, but I've applied to what seems like a million different retail and office jobs, I never get interviews. I've been on multiple dating sites for all these years, but never got a boyfriend and only 1 weird guy to casually date. Where would I find friends at? I go to social events, but nobody ever asks for contact information.
sportygirl89 Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 I didn't really go to college, but I've applied to what seems like a million different retail and office jobs, I never get interviews. I've been on multiple dating sites for all these years, but never got a boyfriend and only 1 weird guy to casually date. Where would I find friends at? I go to social events, but nobody ever asks for contact information. Have you had work experience before? If not try volunteering. Do you include a cover letter and or resume?
sportygirl89 Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 I didn't really go to college, but I've applied to what seems like a million different retail and office jobs, I never get interviews. I've been on multiple dating sites for all these years, but never got a boyfriend and only 1 weird guy to casually date. Where would I find friends at? I go to social events, but nobody ever asks for contact information. Friendship is a two way street. You have to take the initiative sometimes as well.
imtheone Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 I'm a 26 yr. old female, I've been trying to find someone to date, a job, friends, and for 5 years with no luck. Should I give up? Would you still keep trying? im in the same boat, holla at me! haha just kidding, just focus on yourself and dont stress about things out of your control, things will happen naturally
PogoStick Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 If nothing in life is working then you need to get into therapy to start sorting things out. 1
Redhead14 Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 I'm a 26 yr. old female, I've been trying to find someone to date, a job, friends, and for 5 years with no luck. Should I give up? Would you still keep trying? Trying is at least the proactive way to deal with these things. And, you're saying this at 26? WOW
Guyouthere Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 I'm a 26 yr. old female, I've been trying to find someone to date, a job, friends, and for 5 years with no luck. Should I give up? Would you still keep trying? Im older and had nothing but women who actually don't love in life (maybe thats what is out there), but how can I think different when it is all I see.
StBreton Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 I didn't really go to college, but I've applied to what seems like a million different retail and office jobs, I never get interviews. I've been on multiple dating sites for all these years, but never got a boyfriend and only 1 weird guy to casually date. Where would I find friends at? I go to social events, but nobody ever asks for contact information. OP ...how about taking a class. Building yourself. Also ...go get a makeover ...at your age OLD should be a breeze...like a hundred messages a week. I'm way older and I get lots o messages ...I wind up hiding my profile. Something is off here ...ask a trusted relative for some feedback ...go to a hair stylist and get feedback ...get some new clothes even if you buy at a second hand shop. Are you being pleasant and engaging when you apply for jobs? How about in your interactions with others at social events? All your issues seem to have the common denominator of you ...when I was your age I hardly slept I was so busy with work school friends ...having the time of my life. If you can't afford counseling read some self esteem books. 1
Maggie4 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Maybe you are not desperate enough. Someone supporting you financially, so that you have food and a place to sleep? Then you are not desperate. When you need the job to live, you will get it any way you can, because the alternative is starvation, homeless, death. Now apply that to finding someone to date. You need to get hungry. It is normal to have hunger for love and friendship. 1
kilgore Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Maybe you are not desperate enough. Someone supporting you financially, so that you have food and a place to sleep? Then you are not desperate. When you need the job to live, you will get it any way you can, because the alternative is starvation, homeless, death. Now apply that to finding someone to date. You need to get hungry. It is normal to have hunger for love and friendship. Yes but that can look like desperation which is the anti Spanish fly
casey.lives Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 What else is life about then trying and working towards ones dreams. If everything just landed on your feet, half the fun would be gone.
Guyouthere Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 I had a lot of reasons to give up in life, more so than most people. BUT< I am here, and a fighter, and it has made me stronger over time. NEVER give up. Life can be both bad and good. Many of my better "surprises" came when I least expected them.
Vintage79 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Is this asking if it's ok to commit suicide? Seriously, if you give up you will have no personal life or professional life...giving up I those is effectively giving up on life. If you are seriously contemplating giving up on both, please go see a counselor...I'd say they are absolutely without question worth pursuing...
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