mystikmind2005 Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 Hi all There is this woman i have been engaging in email conversation for some time. we are friends but not quite yet 'romantic'. The last email i sent got no reply for 3 days, so after 3 days i sent a second email asking if she is ok? No reply again. We do sometimes go for periods of time without communication but never leaving an email hanging unanswered. After two more days of no contact i unfriended her on social media. Then that same day she sent me an email saying she was sorry and how busy she was blah blah blah. Now in my experience, if i do anything like that to a woman i get rebuked most viciously, and if i try to say i was busy etc they get even more annoyed and shout at me that it only take a few seconds to send a message to say sorry your busy can't talk. Of course i have to accept they are right on that point. So i told her i was glad she replied and apologized, but that it was not cool to disappear, and i thought i would never hear from her again.... then she replied how deeply offended she was that i thought that. I have not replied yet, but as far as i can tell, is it not true that any reasonable person would make the same assumption that i did?
Clarence_Boddicker Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 No, it's not true & playing immature games is rude and stupid. Not everyone is a slave to email & stuff. I can easily go a week without checking my email. I'd advise you to not be so sensitive. This isn't the Victorian era & mail was the only means of communication. Sometimes people need a break from small obligations like email.
Author mystikmind2005 Posted October 13, 2015 Author Posted October 13, 2015 No, it's not true & playing immature games is rude and stupid. Not everyone is a slave to email & stuff. I can easily go a week without checking my email. I'd advise you to not be so sensitive. This isn't the Victorian era & mail was the only means of communication. Sometimes people need a break from small obligations like email. I would normally be inclined to agree with this,, however i have very clearly been taught by women that it is not cool, so i took on that way of thinking. Is it perhaps mainly because women are tired of bull-crap from men, and that is why they reacted badly when i was the one who did not reply quickly?
loverboy69 Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 You unfriended her too fast. You said you were "friends," not lovers. That makes you look like an emotionally unstable overly sensitive dude.
Author mystikmind2005 Posted October 13, 2015 Author Posted October 13, 2015 You unfriended her too fast. You said you were "friends," not lovers. That makes you look like an emotionally unstable overly sensitive dude. Damn, your right! Oh well, there were already other things that were frustrating me with this woman.... this was the final straw so to speak. I think i had reached the point where i am ready to cut and run. On the other had, it cannot hurt for me to learn to be more loyal to my friendships, romantic or not.... and less sensitive!
Maddieandtae Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 People seem to feel that being reachable at all times is the acceptable norm. It isn't. We all shouldn't be glued to our devices waiting anxiously to reply to someone.
Author mystikmind2005 Posted October 15, 2015 Author Posted October 15, 2015 Update; I did apologize for being oversensitive which she accepted. However i lack any enthusiasm to continue. I think emotionally i have 'friend zoned' her weather i like it or not, its done! Strange?
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