Spoonss Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 My girlfriend of 8 months and i have broken up she dumped me after a huge fight we had on friday. Regardless she isnt the type of person to just break up and be flippy floppy about the situation. I however have sent her a few messages saying how sorry I am and that I dont want this because I love her and I want to be with her and im willing to do whatever it takes to fix the situation. she didnt respond for 2 days i left it at that. She then out of the blue sent a message to me saying "what the hell happened to your eye" I posted a picture with some friends after i got hit with a baseball then she imediately said right after that we needed to do alot of talking sometime at the end of this week. I dont know if this is a good sign or could I just be leading myself into a world of hurt? I could use some advice on this situation again thank you in advance for your time.
Author Spoonss Posted October 13, 2015 Author Posted October 13, 2015 So i stated on here earlier that my gf broke up with me over a big fight now all of the sudden after 3 days of ignorning me and me sending vary few messages i backed off after she told me she needed space. We dated for 8 months if that makes a difference. She wants to meet with me tommorow to talk, how should i approach this? I love the girl deeply and really do want the relationship to not end. I am scared that she is going to just tell me off or I am even reconsidering the whole meeting itself. Need help asap ty!
Clarence_Boddicker Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 Prepare yourself for getting dumped.
guest569 Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 Prepare yourself for getting dumped. That has already happened though. What does she want? What is the agenda and do you want to see her?
Author Spoonss Posted October 13, 2015 Author Posted October 13, 2015 That has already happened though. What does she want? What is the agenda and do you want to see her? she said that we had alot of talking to do. and that we should meet up.
lolablue17 Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 You can test the water by dragging her to leak what does she want to talk about. It depends what was the fight about. If you have things to appologize, you can text her that you appologize and you feel bad about your behavior, or you can say that you're still hurt, asking her what does she want to talk about. I mean, every text give her some tiny information, and ask for information back. If I were you i'd meet her. I hate text conversations, which only lead to misunderstandings.
JADIE Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 So i stated on here earlier that my gf broke up with me over a big fight now all of the sudden after 3 days of ignorning me and me sending vary few messages i backed off after she told me she needed space. We dated for 8 months if that makes a difference. She wants to meet with me tommorow to talk, how should i approach this? I love the girl deeply and really do want the relationship to not end. I am scared that she is going to just tell me off or I am even reconsidering the whole meeting itself. Need help asap ty! Count yourself lucky she wants to talk it out...I'm still waiting on (ex?)BF to tell me whether we're continuing or ending...he said he'd call in a week or so. It's been a week and I haven't heard squat yet...trying to leave him alone, but I'm pretty sure what the answer is. Just wish he'd had the cojones to tell me to my face like adults do. Go meet her, let her have her say. Just keep your dignity. Scores of people on LS everyday dying for closure... you've got someone offering it up to you on a silver platter. Take it and be thankful! Good luck..
Author Spoonss Posted October 13, 2015 Author Posted October 13, 2015 I really hope she wants to work it out, but the last 3 days have been hell for me. This girl came into my life and I fell for her instantly and the worst part is she actually loved me just the same back. But all in all she couldnt deal with my **** anymore and i am such a stubborn ******* that I need to learn things the hard way. My dilema is do i want to get my heart shattered again after the first time she dumped me,I dont know.
Juzzy Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 I really hope she wants to work it out, but the last 3 days have been hell for me. This girl came into my life and I fell for her instantly and the worst part is she actually loved me just the same back. But all in all she couldnt deal with my **** anymore and i am such a stubborn ******* that I need to learn things the hard way. My dilema is do i want to get my heart shattered again after the first time she dumped me,I dont know. you are already upset over the BU. Go talk to her but go in there with the mind set that it is over. Dont go in there with any expectations. Make it clear to her when you arrive that you aren't here to get bashed around. if things get heated or she starts beng aggro, just get up and leave. 1
Author Spoonss Posted October 13, 2015 Author Posted October 13, 2015 Ex wants to meet today after dumping me on friday night to talk. She also said can i bring her clothes that she left here. We dated for 8 months. Im wondering if I should just say I cant talk because honestly I am so drained. I want this girl back but I dont know if its a good idea to speak so soon in person. She does really love me from what I can tell but also I dont know if this is enough time for her to miss the relationship? Any thoughts?
Mrlovahlovah Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 did you guys have a talk when she broke up with you? sounds like she basically wants her clothes back and just sugar coating it with a "talk". hopes to get back sat aside there's no reason for you to meet her in person. tell her you don't feel there's much to talk about and that you will send her the stuff or leave it outside for her to pick up. play it cool. i doubt she'll change her mind. definitely not anytime soon.
mightycpa Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 (edited) So i stated on here earlier that my gf broke up with me over a big fight now all of the sudden after 3 days of ignorning me and me sending vary few messages i backed off after she told me she needed space. We dated for 8 months if that makes a difference. She wants to meet with me tommorow to talk, how should i approach this? I love the girl deeply and really do want the relationship to not end. I am scared that she is going to just tell me off or I am even reconsidering the whole meeting itself. Need help asap ty!You need to prepare with the following: 1) A short but good farewell speech. 2) A box of all her stuff that you have, so that there's no followup about that. 3) An alarm on your phone that rings with your same ringtone as a phone call. Set two or three alarms, a couple minutes apart. Make a show of silencing the first two. If this is a final dumping, take the third "call", but leave the area, as if it is confidential. Laugh and smile and be glad, and then look at her while you mouth the words "this won't take long" Then hang up, and tell her your sorry, but you've got to go. Then leave abruptly, never to return. Or, you can object, beg, cry and whine and do all that stuff, and this website is littered with stories about how well that turns out. My advice is to take the road less traveled. If you can't go because emotionally you're not able to go, then get that box of her stuff, and just send a friend with it. Just tell him to say "Spoonss asked me to come here and give you this box", give it to her and then leave. Edited October 13, 2015 by mightycpa
mightycpa Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 I think you should update your other thread instead of starting a new one.
sandylee1 Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 You could say to her that if she wants the break up to be permanent, you don't need to meet up , but if she has something else to discuss, then you'll meet her. It seems you already know that you messed up, so you don't really need her tearing you down any more.
singme2sleep Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 Go meet her, otherwise you'll always wonder.
candie13 Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 well, you love her and she has stuff to say to you... Best thing that can happen to you is you'll get closure and stop wondering. But you need balls to go over there and talk to her. Confront your flaws and why the RS isn't working... In my opinion, it's just like work: have your own agenda with things you want clarity on, such as: - does she love you - why are you 2 broken up - is it fixable - is she willing to work on it / give it time - do you understand why the RS is not working - are you willing to listen to her and work on the RS? if the answer to any of these is no, then there you have it. Closure. And then you proceed to boxing her stuff and leaving the RS. best of luck, mate
Author Spoonss Posted October 15, 2015 Author Posted October 15, 2015 so ex and i met after dumping ftiday. i said i ****ed up and wanted her back i made my plee. she said she wants to say yes so bad and that she loves me but her heads saying no and that she doesn't want to get hurt again and that she would consider it but couldn't give me an answer tjat day. Ive ****ed up multiple times just by being a ****ty bf. Im dead inside right now. I dont know if i should move on or have hope
dumbass2 Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 I think you should give her space right now and not continue to try and contact her. There is nothing you can do at this point. You can't force her to take you back. If you stay in contact I'm positive it will push her further and further away. I know it's tough and she gave you a bad answer. I had my ex tell me that her heart said stay together but her brain told her this is not exactly what she wants, so we are not together and never will be again.
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