Bobbi7 Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 So, I guess I'm "friends" with this person from meetup, we met up in May for coffee and then for the second time last month. I usually do like 100% of the initiating. She told me her birthday was like a week ago, so on Friday, I sent her a happy belated birthday text, and just today she replied and said, "I forgot to text you the other day." And she didn't say, "thank-you" or anything. Ok, I don't see why someone would say, "I forgot." Should I cut ties with this person? Everything seems half-ass here. And this is why I don't bother in making an effort in making friends. And no, I'm not a guy. I just wish I had more girlfriends. Why is it soo hard to be friends with other women???
alphamale Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 so you met in may for the first time and then in September for the second time? four months apart? doesn't sound like much of a friendship
Author Bobbi7 Posted October 13, 2015 Author Posted October 13, 2015 Well, then how do you define a "friendship?" I initiate ALL the contact, I'm trying to build some sort of friendship with her. And I wished her a happy birthday-which I didn't even get a thank-you? And then I got a "I forgot to text you back." response??? What does that sound like to you? Like she doesn't want to be friends with me? Besides, the fact that those 2 times that we met up-I also initiated those. Does this sound one-sided to you?
Strahatmak Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 Not everyone can be friend to you. Vice versa. She's not interest in being friend with you. No reason needed. Now stop worrying. 2
Author Bobbi7 Posted October 13, 2015 Author Posted October 13, 2015 Not everyone can be friend to you. Vice versa. She's not interest in being friend with you. No reason needed. Now stop worrying. Really? How so?
TexasMan68 Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 You sent her a text for her birthday...how freaking lame!! Text messages are about as meaningful as posting on her FB wall. A phone call (yes all cell phones these days actually make calls) would mean so much more. Tells her you actually took the time out of your day and you care for her.
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 If you're having to initiate 100% of the time then perhaps she's not worth the effort after all. Friendship is a two-way street. She has to want it as much as you do. By the sounds of it she doesn't seem all that interested in making new friends right now. I'm sorry OP but that's life. If I were you I'd stop all further contact and move on. She knows your number if she wants to reach you otherwise save your dignity and cut your losses. Good luck. 1
Author Bobbi7 Posted October 13, 2015 Author Posted October 13, 2015 If you're having to initiate 100% of the time then perhaps she's not worth the effort after all. Friendship is a two-way street. She has to want it as much as you do. By the sounds of it she doesn't seem all that interested in making new friends right now. I'm sorry OP but that's life. If I were you I'd stop all further contact and move on. She knows your number if she wants to reach you otherwise save your dignity and cut your losses. Good luck. Yeah, I'm just going to cut ties with her. I don't understand how some women can make friends sooo easily, while I make the effort yet no one wants to have a friendship with me. And this is why I don't bother even socializing.
Strahatmak Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Really? How so? It's a two-way thing, lady. If every one on a bus is trying to make friend with you, would you be friend with all of them???? Seriously?
Strahatmak Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Yeah, I'm just going to cut ties with her. I don't understand how some women can make friends sooo easily, while I make the effort yet no one wants to have a friendship with me. And this is why I don't bother even socializing. Socially awkward? Maybe you need a life coaching - not an advertisement as I'm not one and I don't know one. No offense, I'm suggesting this only because the person who can give you a proper advice is someone meets you in real life, not here.
Author Bobbi7 Posted October 22, 2015 Author Posted October 22, 2015 And she always saids, "oh I meant to text you.." I'm like wth?
GunslingerRoland Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 There are times where I started to write a text or an email, got interrupted and had actually thought I'd sent the message but never did... So I can see something like that if it's a rare thing. But if it's all the time, it's a pretty clear signal they don't care.
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