zahl Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I went out sometimes with a girl together with friends of mines. I ask her to go out alone with her (she knows that I like her),she told me yes, but the day I recommended she was busy. I told her to call me when she will can to meet me, she told me I will let you know soon .But I haven’t heard from her a week. Should I ask her again to go out one more? is she interest?
smackie9 Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 You are totally friend zoned. Stop everything, don't give her the time of day. 1
smackie9 Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 When a girl is interested in a guy, she doesn't let anything or anyone get in her way of seeing them. So what if she said yes, her "I'm busy" and her lack of returning your message is a NO not interested.
smackie9 Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Why am i totally friend zoned? She can be friendly, laugh at your jokes, touch you, have lots in common with you likes to hang out with you, but when she blows you off with cancelling or not responding, she only likes you as a friend. I bet she will act differently around you next time you all hang out together. Update me on that.
Revan32 Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 She can be friendly, laugh at your jokes, touch you, have lots in common with you likes to hang out with you, but when she blows you off with cancelling or not responding, she only likes you as a friend. I bet she will act differently around you next time you all hang out together. Update me on that. In general I agree with you, but some girls are just very passive with this stuff. The best girl I ever dated, lightly blew me off twice before she came out on a date with me. Not really blew me off, but she didn't respond to texts, or declined meeting up for a few of my offers. After she finally accepted and we went on our first date, she told me she likes staring at me in class and had a crush on me, she's just doesn't go after guys she really likes. So I'm glad I kept pushing. 90% of the time you're right. Just wanted to give OP some hope.
Author zahl Posted October 12, 2015 Author Posted October 12, 2015 In general agree and i wil Update you on that.But why she didn't told me no?
smackie9 Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I will tell you. Girl's don't like confrontation, and feel sensitive rejecting someone. So asking her out put her on the spot, she said yes to avoid out right rejecting you. Then proceeded to passively reject you by giving you the I'm busy excuse, and not contacting you in hopes you get the hint and go away. I'll admit I did this myself. So here's a tip....when they give you excuses like "I just got out of a relationship" "my ex was a jerk" "I have exams" "So busy and stressed at work" "Have family issues to deal with" etc and don't text, flirt or communicate with you, it's a NOT INTERESTED.
smackie9 Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 In general agree and i wil Update you on that.But why she didn't told me no? In other words, she hopes that her actions will tell you no. Go ahead and ask your other friends and see what they think. Maybe she said something to one of them. So when are you guys hanging out together again?
Author zahl Posted October 12, 2015 Author Posted October 12, 2015 So, should i change my behaviour?to stop call or text her?
smackie9 Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Can I ask you something? Do you have no dating experience? You ever have a GF before?
Author zahl Posted October 12, 2015 Author Posted October 12, 2015 I dont remember how many dates anf gf,why?
smackie9 Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Just gives me a better idea on how to advise. By your answer you don't have much experience, which is fine. You can wait to see her again and ask her out on a proper date in person. But this time have a date planned, date and time, that isn't too far in advance. You could even ask her to go somewhere else with you when you are all hanging out together. Watch her reaction and body language. If she hesitates, or gets nervous back off and forget about it.
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