mr_dave Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 So... I would dearly love to have a girlfriend. I have been single for a long time, have a life I enjoy, but would like to find that special woman to share it with. I'm not interested in short term flings or casual sex, I hope to find the love of my life one day. Now I'm quite a sporty, healthy, outdoorsy 27 year old guy. I would like a woman who is the same, and who eschews the party/drinking lifestyle that a majority of women prefer where I am. So far, so good, should be easy enough... The problem is my sexual preferences. As I have alluded to in other threads, I very strongly prefer women with large natural boobs. It's so strong to the point where you could have me chat to a pretty, 10/10 petite young model, and there wouldn't be a flicker on my part. On a rare night out recently I was dragged onto the dance floor by a Taylor Swift lookalike, she was beautiful, but I just didn't fancy her. Yet if I see a fifty year old average woman with large boobs I will have very impure thoughts, followed by a swift response from my nether regions! Of the few busty women on match, POF, OK Cupid, none are really compatible personality/interest wise, and I wouldn't date someone just because they sported a sizeable decolletage.. Finding a slim, busty, sporty, demure lady would be like finding a unicorn. So how does one reconcile that which stirs their waters, with what is good for them in terms of a loving long-term partner? It seems for me that the two are mutually exclusive..
CarrieT Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 We are out there... ;-) Just hold out for what you want! My husband did (I'm a 36GG with brains and a cooking credential; things he valued in a woman). You can too but you also have to value the girl for more than her breasts. I can't tell you how many dates I went on with guys because they were fascinated by the rack and not anything else about me. It has to be the whole package! 4
scooby-philly Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I don't think the two are mutually exclusive. We are attracted to what we are attracted to. There's no shame in it. And good for you for owning it. Despite the availability of porn we actually live in an age that's still pretty reserved in terms of being able to filter out our sexual preferences before getting into the sack. Yours is a tad bit easier since it's visually obvious. To be frank, I find women of any build, height (as long as they're shorter than me), race, bust size, etc to be sexy. I do like nice legs and feet. But even there I would be okay. And weight doesn't matter as long as they're not "fat" - as in not HWP or better. For me, it's about being open & dirty in the sack which I can't tell in the initial dating until it's time to hit the bedroom. And no, there's nothing wrong with you for wanting what you want. You've even clarified that you want someone with brains. Just keep going out there. Heck, you've even identified the fact that you don't want a party girl - so kudos to you. 2
road Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Mr dave, you have to keep an open mind. And, realize what we want and what we can obtain are not always the same. 1
neowulf Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 The problem is my sexual preferences. As I have alluded to in other threads, I very strongly prefer women with large natural boobs. In the same boat friend. Honestly, I agree with the rest of the posters here. No point denying what turns you on. You own it and work with it. You have to remember that preferences aren't an issue. Everyone's got preferences. It's simply acknowledging that for every preference you have, you're going to be shrinking the pool of available mates. So; 1. Big Boobs 2. Kind 3. Compassionate 4. Smart 5. Killer figure 6. Pretty face 7. Good teeth ... etc etc. You see where I'm going with this? The more things you "require", the harder it gets. But so long as you put "big boobs" at the top and remain flexible, I don't see it being a huge hinderance. Good hunting! 3
todreaminblue Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 as another poster said you are attracted to what you are attracted too.....i think from a big boob owning perspective that i have on board with my bra size........its a bit disheartening to know a guy would like me initially because of my cup size......and i have stated in another thread that it seems sometimes whilst dating men seem to think they can grope big boobs because they are there...and hold little respect or value to a woman's worth if she has enormous breasts...i actually take offense to that..turns me off but if you like big boobs than that is what you like...i like respectful men who like big boobs......i also like nice skin ....compassion integrity and big brown eyes......i have dated blue eyed guys regardless of the fact they had blue eyes though...because they were lovely men..the majority of the men i have dated ....have had brown eyes.....which actually could be just a random thing....all in all ..i think ultimately people date people they are attracted too and continue to date them regardless if they fit the bill on all accounts.....deb 1
Author mr_dave Posted October 13, 2015 Author Posted October 13, 2015 Thanks for your advice everyone!
BluEyeL Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 The problem is that natural big boobs on a slim figure are rather rare. 2
soyou Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 Even though I totally support and respect your dating preference, I agree witg one of the posters above that slim women with natural big boobs are so rare. I have a lot of girl friends. The ones with big boobs are often chubby/fat. The ones with nice and toned figures often have small boobs. I do have a few gfs with nice body but fake big boobs ;-) Good luck with your search:D 1
Author mr_dave Posted October 13, 2015 Author Posted October 13, 2015 The problem is that natural big boobs on a slim figure are rather rare. I know, it's very rare! I've had relationships with two women, one of them was a 34E, the other a 34G, so I suppose I have been spoilt thus far. I have profiles on match, OK Cupid and POF. Maybe once a week I'll trawl through the profiles of 20-30 year old women in a fifty mile radius. Of the 2000+ profiles, I may find just a dozen with the kind of figure I like. They don't even have to be that slim. Then the ones I do find fall at the first personality hurdle, whether it's provocative photos, duck faces, attitude problems, or advertising their facebook details to a sea of strange men.... It's probably going to be a long wait!
empresario Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 So, let me ask something. You said you've had two relationships...both of them busty women. Are you sure you aren't attracted to any other style? For example, in my youth I thought I was attracted to big boobs. The more women I dated, the more I figured out it's not that I was attracted to it...I just hadn't had anything else. My last few girlfriends have had very big butts, and average to small, but perky and shapely boobs (last LT relationship the girl was 36-24-42). I don't know if I'll ever go back! I never even knew I liked it. Of course, only if the butt comes out the back. Not so much if it comes out the sides . 3
central Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 Keep looking. People come and go on these sites all the time. Or, look farther afield. What you want exists, finding someone with those criteria who is also into you may take a little longer. Almost everyone meeting my criteria were at least 100 miles away, but there were plenty. 1
chapter44 Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 We are out there... ;-) Just hold out for what you want! My husband did (I'm a 36GG with brains and a cooking credential; things he valued in a woman). You can too but you also have to value the girl for more than her breasts. I can't tell you how many dates I went on with guys because they were fascinated by the rack and not anything else about me. It has to be the whole package! I'd take a cooking credential regardless of breast size! Maybe I am too easy 2
Author mr_dave Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 So, let me ask something. You said you've had two relationships...both of them busty women. Are you sure you aren't attracted to any other style? For example, in my youth I thought I was attracted to big boobs. The more women I dated, the more I figured out it's not that I was attracted to it...I just hadn't had anything else. My last few girlfriends have had very big butts, and average to small, but perky and shapely boobs (last LT relationship the girl was 36-24-42). I don't know if I'll ever go back! I never even knew I liked it. Of course, only if the butt comes out the back. Not so much if it comes out the sides . Hmm, I have dated some pretty petite girls but I haven't escalated it into the bedroom because I haven't desired them in that way. I would much rather have a busty "plain Jane". I would say I'm probably average looking, although a few women have found me to be more than that. From an attainability point of view I would say that a "plain Jane" with large boobs would also be more realistic a target than a more typically attractive petite girl, if only they weren't so hard to come across! But yeah it is very much a concrete preference.
Author mr_dave Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 I'd take a cooking credential regardless of breast size! Maybe I am too easy A kind, busty lady who can cook? Where do I sign the marriage papers?
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