amkxoxo Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I am not sure what to get my boyfriend for his birthday that is coming up in one month. He likes this one sports team and I was thinking of getting him maybe a sweatshirt, or a hat and scarf from that team. Team garb is expensive so I wouldn't be able to get him a lot. How much do you spend for a birthday. His birthday happens and then Christmas is one month after that. I was thinking of spending anywhere from $30-50 for birthday. And the same for Christmas. I was thinking a nice team sweatshirt, but them again, I got him a nice sweatshirt this summer when I went away on vacation. He just doesn't have a lot of nice new clothes. Then I was thinking I could go on a mini shopping spree for him and get him all nice new clothes for cheaper than sports team items. I could easily get him a sweatshirt, and some new tops and a wallet for $50, instead of just one team item. Then again, I wasn't sure if I should get him something more physical, like concert tickets for us to go, or something fun to do. Any suggestions? We dated for about 4 months and just made it official 2 weeks ago. Also we are both 23.
d0nnivain Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 You haven't been dating long enough to go crazy. One low end sports item < $30 for the birthday is fine. A $50 budget for Christmas seems good to me, assuming that doesn't present a financial hardship to you. Remember this is your 1st set of holidays. You may have years together so it's OK to start slow & small. The mini shopping spree is over the top & will overwhelm him. He also may not reciprocate which will end up hurting your feelings because you may erroneously conclude that you put in more effort & his seeming lack of effort translates to less caring. Slow down in quantity & intensity.
Ami1uwant Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Question---have you mentioned his clothing "issues" before? What was his reaction? Have you guys gone clothes shopping and you made suggestions for him? What was his reaction. If there was disagreement where you picked out clothes that he did not like then you giving him clothes could cause issues. Similarly if he doesn't want to change and you are trying to change him is the sane. If he is very open in your clothing suggestions snd wants your help then it's a good idea yo get him clothes.
ASG Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Buy him a decent pocket knife. For under $50.00, there are a lot of good options. You can't go wrong with most knives made by Kershaw, and many of their knives are under $50 bucks. If not a Kershaw, get him a nice Swiss Army knife. Amazon has about the best prices for those knives. A pocket knife ia a great gift, but be sure to check your local knife laws first. I don't know many guys who would appreciate a pocket knife as a present unless they had said they wanted one. And I work with techies! Though we tend to appreciate multitools more than pocket knifes. But we already own them. An office dweller will have very little use for a pocket knife. 1
Author amkxoxo Posted October 12, 2015 Author Posted October 12, 2015 The clothes issue has come up before. When we first started dating I could tell he didn't have a lot of clothes. He wears the same shirt and jeans a lot. Jeans isn't that big if a deal, but he seems to wear the same few shirts on rotation, which makes me think he doesn't own a lot. He then asked me to come with him to buy some fall clothes because he didn't have any. We picked out two thermals, a flannel, a pull over hoodie and a nice fall jacket. We didn't agree on everything, but he seemed to like a majority of things I picked out. When I have seen him dressed up, his style isn't that great. He dressed up business casual on our first date to look nice. Although he did look nice, his outfit wasn't very stylish. Something a dad would wear. He doesn't have his mother in his life, so I commend him for trying so hard to look good. One day he came to my house wearing a plaid shirt, and different plaid shorts. It clashed really bad. It was horrible, but I couldn't say anything to him. Ironically enough we ran into one of his good girl friends and she immediately went "Did you dress yourself in the dark?" I felt so bad. She then looked to me, his girlfriend figure and said how I should have helped him. I think it might have hurt him a bit. He didn't know. He doesn't look bad all the time. Some times he looks good. I've noticed now he has been wearing all the new clothes we bought on rotation. I keep seeing him in all the new stuff. I think because his old stuff was just that, old. I feel bad because I think its different for men. Their moms sometimes help them look nice, and his mom hasn't been around since he was 15 or so. He has old shoes too. He wears the same nike sneakers in rotation too. One pair looks really beat, like they need to go in the garbage. Another pair looks semi worn. One pair is only about a year old, but I really don't like them. The colors don't go with anything he wears. He needs to variety in shoes. Maybe a canvas sneaker, an athletic sneaker, and a boat shoe. So he can look different in every outfit. His jeans look old to me. Baggier style from high school. His might be from high school. That's over 6 years old. He knows what kind of style I like on guys. I've said it before. He also knows I like him and support him. I appreciate that he tries to look nice. He will say how he feels good in a certain new outfit etc... I feel bad because he has no one to buy him new clothes. My parents are very supportive and involved in my life. My mom and I go out shopping and she will pick me up a cute new top or something for my house. I get a decent amount of Christmas gifts, like clothes etc... He doesn't get that. He lives with his dad and step mom. His dad treats him well, but doesn't dote on him. He has a little sister who is 10, so I figure holidays are spent doting on her. His step mom and he don't seem the type to exchange gifts. I want to give him what I have.
glynnroy Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I am not sure what to get my boyfriend for his birthday that is coming up in one month. He likes this one sports team and I was thinking of getting him maybe a sweatshirt, or a hat and scarf from that team. Team garb is expensive so I wouldn't be able to get him a lot. How much do you spend for a birthday. His birthday happens and then Christmas is one month after that. I was thinking of spending anywhere from $30-50 for birthday. And the same for Christmas. I was thinking a nice team sweatshirt, but them again, I got him a nice sweatshirt this summer when I went away on vacation. He just doesn't have a lot of nice new clothes. Then I was thinking I could go on a mini shopping spree for him and get him all nice new clothes for cheaper than sports team items. I could easily get him a sweatshirt, and some new tops and a wallet for $50, instead of just one team item. Then again, I wasn't sure if I should get him something more physical, like concert tickets for us to go, or something fun to do. Any suggestions? We dated for about 4 months and just made it official 2 weeks ago. Also we are both 23. Think you will be enough if he likes you Don't overthink it Get a card and put a hour of love on it Romantic diner Cuddles After shave What ever you get him he will like . So easy does it
ThisisIt606 Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 (edited) I'm in the same boat as you pretty much. We've been dating for almost 4 months and are exclusive. His bday is next month and we both celebrate Christmas. My guy loves a particular store so I got him a plaid shirt from there. I went on a holiday weekend to take advantage of sales!He's also been talking about this color changing light ( you download the app to make the light change multiple hues) so I also got him that for a sale price online. Finally I got him a hard copy movie gift card that the 2 of us can use. The picture of on the movie gift card is of the movie he really wants to see and I also managed to find one with his favorite character. I was able to get 2/3 items on sale. They are personalized to him/ what I know about him. The sports goods are a good idea. If he cooks/ eats meat a unique sports gift is always a grilling spatula with the logo of the sports team on it, so it imprints in the burger. Also, if you can get some good deals.... I don't think the shopping spree is too much. Sounds like he could really use it!! You will be happier bc you like his style better, I'm sure he will be happier that he is getting some help and some nice new clothes! Edited October 12, 2015 by ThisisIt606
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