Erik30 Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I was dating this girl a while ago, but I kind off messed it up by being too needy. We were casually dating for a couple of months. I didn't blow up her phone, but I've asked her out too much after our last date in June. She was leaving the country for a month during the summer so I wanted to see her before she left. In July I texted her about once or twice a week trying to hang out. Before that happened she actually told me, me suggesting things to do becomes too much sometimes, but I continued acting stupid because I had the deadline of her leaving on my mind. She said that she did want to go to the beach with me on a sunny day, so I ended up focussing too much on making that happen. (Which it never did) I know I should've just asked her once, and after that tell her to get back to me when she is available She left in the beginning of August and I've backed off for a while to give her some space. Since then I only contacted her once in September to wish her a happy birthday. We've both been busy with school and work. I wanted to contact her again to ask how she's doing and gauge if she still has some interest. Should I apologize, or even mention that I was being too needy, or just act like it never happened since some time has passed? I thought apologizing might make me look weak, but on the other hand she'll know that I got it, or was me backing off enough proof of that? I've read about this, and the advice conflicts a bit. I should walk away, don't contact her, and if she has some interest, she'll reach out... But I also see threads from women thinking the guy has moved on, or suspect he has some other girl, and they won't even consider texting him because he should make some effort... Thanks
kendahke Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 (edited) She doesn't sound interested in you. Sorry. Here's why I say that: I was dating this girl a while ago, but I kind off messed it up by being too needy. We were casually dating for a couple of months. I've asked her out too much after our last date in June. In July I texted her about once or twice a week trying to hang out. she actually told me, me suggesting things to do becomes too much sometimes I continued acting stupid I know I should've just asked her once, and after that tell her to get back to me when she is available I only contacted her once in September I wanted to contact her again to ask how she's doing and gauge if she still has some interest. I I I I I NO. WHERE. in this do I see anything about her reaching out and making an effort. It's all you. Perhaps this is all in your head and she's on a totally different chapter in a completely different book than you. Edited October 12, 2015 by kendahke 1
CFF Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Sorry but it's over. Get a new girl. That's your option.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I'm a woman too. I can nearly guarantee she's not interested. I would start dating others.
jen1447 Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 It's really hard to come back from being in that category (requires a 'total reinvention' that most ppl won't buy anyway), so yeah, move on. And don't be that way w/the next girl.
glynnroy Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I was dating this girl a while ago, but I kind off messed it up by being too needy. We were casually dating for a couple of months. I didn't blow up her phone, but I've asked her out too much after our last date in June. She was leaving the country for a month during the summer so I wanted to see her before she left. In July I texted her about once or twice a week trying to hang out. Before that happened she actually told me, me suggesting things to do becomes too much sometimes, but I continued acting stupid because I had the deadline of her leaving on my mind. She said that she did want to go to the beach with me on a sunny day, so I ended up focussing too much on making that happen. (Which it never did) I know I should've just asked her once, and after that tell her to get back to me when she is available She left in the beginning of August and I've backed off for a while to give her some space. Since then I only contacted her once in September to wish her a happy birthday. We've both been busy with school and work. I wanted to contact her again to ask how she's doing and gauge if she still has some interest. Should I apologize, or even mention that I was being too needy, or just act like it never happened since some time has passed? I thought apologizing might make me look weak, but on the other hand she'll know that I got it, or was me backing off enough proof of that? I've read about this, and the advice conflicts a bit. I should walk away, don't contact her, and if she has some interest, she'll reach out... But I also see threads from women thinking the guy has moved on, or suspect he has some other girl, and they won't even consider texting him because he should make some effort... Thanks Once should have been enough I've said this a thousand times """ if some one is interested in you they will midi time "" She s not interested, do not lower yourself to a good looking girl or one you fancy , don't loose your integrity! If she's not interested the first time , she won't be interested the second If you was brat Pitt do you think you would be left in the friend corner
Author Erik30 Posted October 12, 2015 Author Posted October 12, 2015 Thanks for the replies. Guess I won't contact her. I already kind off knew I shouldn't, but it's good to hear some other opinions. I was never in the "friend corner" by the way, well unless she has sex with all of her friends
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