Mrlonelyone Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Am I the only one who finds online dating to be an ego boost? I mean it makes me feel better just to know with certainty that there are possibilities out there. Not just people looking to date but people who would date me, chat with me, meet with me. Right now that feels like plenty. I'm not interested in much more with anyone I've met so far. Not bad people just no spark. Does anyone else feel satisfied, as I seem to, with just going on dates but not finding anything special?
Toodaloo Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Yep. I think its because my expectations are very low. Of course I hope but I don't expect anything. It does help of course that because of ON line dating I have snogged an Olympian!!! You meet all sorts and there really is a knack to it I think. God alone knows if I have that knack but I think I am getting better at it. Judging by the quality of the dates I am getting these days it seems so.
Shining One Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 It's not an ego boost for me and I would dread going back to it. It felt more like a job due to how much time I had to put into it to get results. I suppose using it for ONS was an ego boost since that was much less effort. 1
salparadise Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Yes. Knowing that there are multiple prospects out there keeps one from feeling desperate and gives the confidence to hold out for a great match. Which I did... I went through a year long dry spell doing coffee dates and exercising patience. She finally showed up and now I'm excited and optimistic. If I had felt like any of the others were my only option I might have jumped too soon and missed this one.
glynnroy Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Am I the only one who finds online dating to be an ego boost? I mean it makes me feel better just to know with certainty that there are possibilities out there. Not just people looking to date but people who would date me, chat with me, meet with me. Right now that feels like plenty. I'm not interested in much more with anyone I've met so far. Not bad people just no spark. Does anyone else feel satisfied, as I seem to, with just going on dates but not finding anything special? I find it more of a chore ! Not getting out much can lower your dealings with people Love it or hate it , it's a good way to meet people I don't do it to feel good I do it to find a partner ! There is a tin pot for every tin lid and chances are if your actively looking some one some where will catch your eye After a break up you can feel low so it is a good way to pick yourself up Again , but ultimately your looking for some one special so try and be choosier or again you will start to get pissed off with it all
oberkeat Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 It wasn't an ego boost for me. I found it depressing. There were few profiles that seemed like a good match (on paper), and the women I did meet all had serious baggage. The last person I met on OLD turned out to be so messed up, I deleted my profile that night.
Gaeta Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 It was a huge ego boost for me and I enjoyed it for all its worth. After 3 years of boosting my ego I really mean meeting someone and connect on a deeper level. Just going on dates and going from one man to another isn't that entertaining any longer.
carhill Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I saw OLD more as a life-ring in a sea of rejection. It saved me. I never viewed dating and mating as ego-fluffers so perhaps that's the difference.
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Yep it was an ego boost for me too. I found myself thinking though sometimes that it's all some people use it for. They're on there to get some attention, boost their ego but have no intention of ever meeting up with anyone or actually beginning a relationship. They're easy to weed out, however. If they haven't met up with you within a couple of weeks, they're just chilling on online dating and are a waste of energy if you want something serious.
Yummm Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Getting matches on OLD was an ego boost for the first couple months after my breakup. After intensely dating and not finding that connection with anybody it most definitely has become a chore rather than an excitement. So yeah, don't completely agree. Definitely NOT satisfied with just knowing that i'm 'desirable'.
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