RoseWater Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Of the men I've met through OLD approximately 25% of them are unsatisfied with many or most areas of their lives yet not doing anything constructive to bring about change in the short term or medium term. (When I date people I meet in real life rather than OLD I seem to attract very few if any of these pessimistic people.) I guess it's human nature to be unsatisfied or frustrated sometimes and to wish for a better job or living situation etc. But what about men who repeatedly list what they hates about his situation but have no concrete plans in place to change things. They might tell you what job they want or what working hours or what sort of place they want to live in. But they are taking no steps at all to get there and have no plans in place to start taking steps towards their goal in future. Does such a person really even want a better life? Or do they just enjoy complaining?
Toodaloo Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Rose, I avoid these people. They are in essence lazy. If they are that miserable they would change it. If they had any sense of purpose or direction they would do something about it. I will date men who are not in their preferred job as long as they are working towards something that will make them happy. These guys you describe are wanting and expecting another person to make them happy. It just doesn't work that way. No one in this life is entitled to anything. We either get lucky (unusual) or we work for it (99.9% of the time). Don't waste your time. Its not worth it. 1
Author RoseWater Posted October 12, 2015 Author Posted October 12, 2015 Rose, I avoid these people. They are in essence lazy. If they are that miserable they would change it. If they had any sense of purpose or direction they would do something about it. I will date men who are not in their preferred job as long as they are working towards something that will make them happy. These guys you describe are wanting and expecting another person to make them happy. It just doesn't work that way. No one in this life is entitled to anything. We either get lucky (unusual) or we work for it (99.9% of the time). Don't waste your time. Its not worth it. Yes. You can tell by the language they use. They don't say things like "I am planning to...." or "I am taking steps towards...." or "I am saving up for....." Instead it's "I would like to" and "I want to" with no concrete plan at all. Whatever it is, it's an attitude that is not particularly attractive.
HeartDesires Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Whatever it is, it's an attitude that is not particularly attractive. That's because it's an attitude without gratitude. Being grateful for what you have in your life now brings serenity and attracts more good things.
mystikmind2005 Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I used to be like one of those type of guys. It is damn hard to shift a negative mindset, because the world can be a very negative place, and there is an abundance of things that want to feed your negative side. In addition to that, a negative attitude attracts negative results. But on the other side of that, when you start to build positive change in your life, you will discover how a positive attitude brings positive results! A negative person will never really believe this, because they have enough evidence that is all nonsense. Well that's where you have to start, change your mind and change your life this following YouTube clip impacted me deeply, very inspirational...
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