Zorrloft Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Backstory isn't important, what is important is that I had two promising second dates with 2 different ladies scheduled this week. One decided to cancel last minute because she and her ex decided to get back together. The other met someone else that she felt she is more compatible with. Rejection, rejection, rejection. Ugg. All I did is spend all weekend thinking about how damn lonely I am and how I keep getting passed up. I want validation, I need validation! I'm human damn it! I so want my ex back and I so want to contact her. Logically, I know it will only make things worse. Emotionally, well, that's a different story...but it's struggling really hard to win. Quick, I need a distraction before I do something stupid!
marcusdevilliers Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 i know how it is man. especially being lonely. sorry you got stood up. some times bad things just happen and well horrible things happen. dont contact your ex. what good would come from it. i wanna do the same but why should we. people who want us makes the effort to be in our lives. you cant push to be part of someones life when they dont want you there. chill by yourself a bit. you got 2 bad dates, doesnt mean the others gonna be bad.
Truth34 Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I got stood up a few weeks back too! It didnt break my heart because I had known her years ago and truthfully just wanted to go out and catch up, but I was still pissed. Went back home alone, yay.. Just gotta get back on that horse, man.
Seth0194 Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Those two were not ment to be, get back out there. Next time you see any women you are attracted too go talk to her, you just might be surprised. But gosh sake do not break NC, let her go. Move on and make your life better.
louxor Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 This is how I deal with being stood up or rejected by women: I go into dates with the mindset that I am the catch and she has to prove herself to me, not vise-versa. Meaning that if she does not like me or decides to bail on me at the last minute, well that's her loss and I have avoided wasting my time and money on someone not worthy of me. Some may see this as arrogant or self-centered, but not only does it give off a huge vibe of self-confidence that women love, but it also means that you don't really care if it doesn't work out - There's a new bus every 15 minutes and on one of them is the person who deserves you. Take everyone else as practise for when you do meet this one. 1
lovel Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Backstory isn't important, what is important is that I had two promising second dates with 2 different ladies scheduled this week. One decided to cancel last minute because she and her ex decided to get back together. The other met someone else that she felt she is more compatible with. Rejection, rejection, rejection. Ugg. All I did is spend all weekend thinking about how damn lonely I am and how I keep getting passed up. I want validation, I need validation! I'm human damn it! I so want my ex back and I so want to contact her. Logically, I know it will only make things worse. Emotionally, well, that's a different story...but it's struggling really hard to win. Quick, I need a distraction before I do something stupid! Hi, validation speaking. I am a woman and I validate you. These two cancellations had a common denominator and it wasn't you, okay? You weren't rejected because there was something wrong with you, but because of their own issues and circumstances. Chin up and keep setting up dates, find a hobby, occupy your time, always have a backup plan etc. etc. so you don't spend your time feeling and thinking about being lonely.
lovel Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 this is how i deal with being stood up or rejected by women: I go into dates with the mindset that i am the catch and she has to prove herself to me, not vise-versa. Meaning that if she does not like me or decides to bail on me at the last minute, well that's her loss and i have avoided wasting my time and money on someone not worthy of me. Some may see this as arrogant or self-centered, but not only does it give off a huge vibe of self-confidence that women love, but it also means that you don't really care if it doesn't work out - there's a new bus every 15 minutes and on one of them is the person who deserves you. Take everyone else as practise for when you do meet this one. thiiiiisss. (women should do the same thing. everyone should do this)
Protec Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I always get too excited when i meet woman i like. I want to be cool, distant etc. but i always get too excited too early. But yes...i would love to break NC too. I was happier when i was able to talk with her. Now i have no one to talk with. Okay okay, i am talking with people online, i call my sister etc. but it's not the same thing. It's not the same thing. I can't talk with same stuff with these other women. I find everyone boring and too stiff.
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