Cute, hot, nice chick at work I like but one issue

[h0000]

I would like to see the roles reversed, older woman, younger guy.

 

When an older woman sees a young kid and says:

 

"Omg you are so cute. You are very handsome." Its ok.

 

If an older man says the same to a little girl (different adjectives) its crime, he is a pedophile, RAPE, RAPE!

 

It's totally ok if OP just complimented the girl "you are beautiful". No one would say that is rape.

 

 

It turned not OK when he tried to hit on her.

 

 

If a 30 yr old woman was hitting on a 17 yr old boy, no it's not OK either. There is no double standard here. What are you on about?

[one goal]

I would like to see the roles reversed, older woman, younger guy.

 

When an older woman sees a young kid and says:

 

"Omg you are so cute. You are very handsome." Its ok.

 

If an older man says the same to a little girl (different adjectives) its crime, he is a pedophile, RAPE, RAPE!

 

Hell yea if a good looking 39 yr old said that about me I'd be all over it right now!!

[losangelena]

Give me an effing break.

 

I'm sorry, 17 is STILL A CHILD. The brain and body are still developing at that point. Besides, you're NOT trying to hang out with her "as friends." Please, for the love of Christ, your motives are completely impure.

 

The fact that she's now only 16 is more disturbing.

 

I have a cousin, she turned 21 this year, and for a while she dated a guy in his late 30s. It was creepy. No one liked him. Never mind her being "of age," when there is that much of an age difference, there's a maturity gap. Teenagers ARE NOT like adults. They are lacking the experience and the awareness of a full-grown adult. You can bet he was with her for one reason and one reason only—because she's "hot."

 

Those types of men are not respected, and for good reason.

[one goal]

Well apparently she read my message yesterday evening from FB I sent her after I talked to her about asking her to hangout with me. In it I just said to her maybe I shouldn't talk to her much at work for awhile and to avoid each other. They were marked seen with time stamp so I know she saw them. She still didn't block me though so that's good at least. She must not be really mad then at me.

[marychapman]

I would like to see the roles reversed, older woman, younger guy.

 

When an older woman sees a young kid and says:

 

"Omg you are so cute. You are very handsome." Its ok.

 

If an older man says the same to a little girl (different adjectives) its crime, he is a pedophile, RAPE, RAPE!

 

No difference.

 

The reason the woman could get away with it would probably be because everyone would think she said it in a motherly way. "Oh what a nice young man!"

 

Tho if her intentions were romantic, it`s just as bad as it would be with switched genders.

 

OP you are 30 something and this GIRL is 16. Please stop, you are overstepping all boundaries. Stop messaging her on facebook and distance yourself.

[one goal]

No difference.

 

The reason the woman could get away with it would probably be because everyone would think she said it in a motherly way. "Oh what a nice young man!"

 

Tho if her intentions were romantic, it`s just as bad as it would be with switched genders.

 

OP you are 30 something and this GIRL is 16. Please stop, you are overstepping all boundaries. Stop messaging her on facebook and distance yourself.

 

Well she turns 17 in a week though so she's basically 17 already.

 

 

She talks to 16-22 yr old guys at work just fine. She was nice, talkative towards me at work and FB until after I asked her out then it changed. Like yesterday when I talked to her about it she was more shy and not as talkative as usual. I mean you could tell something was off with her.

 

 

I look really young and healthy for my age though. Most think I'm early 20s. Always have looked really young and I'm slim and in good shape and don't drink much.

[introverted1]

She talks to 16-22 yr old guys at work just fine. She was nice, talkative towards me at work and FB until after I asked her out then it changed. Like yesterday when I talked to her about it she was more shy and not as talkative as usual. I mean you could tell something was off with her.

 

 

I look really young and healthy for my age though. Most think I'm early 20s. Always have looked really young and I'm slim and in good shape and don't drink much.

 

Ok, let's assume for a minute that she is not totally creeped out by your age.

 

She's nonetheless not responding to you, so we can assume she is just creeped out by YOU, regardless how old you are.

 

If this girl is your only option for friendship, then that says something about you.

 

I am starting to think you are trolling.

[marychapman]

Well she turns 17 in a week though so she's basically 17 already.

 

 

She talks to 16-22 yr old guys at work just fine. She was nice, talkative towards me at work and FB until after I asked her out then it changed. Like yesterday when I talked to her about it she was more shy and not as talkative as usual. I mean you could tell something was off with her.

 

 

I look really young and healthy for my age though. Most think I'm early 20s. Always have looked really young and I'm slim and in good shape and don't drink much.

 

It doesn`t matter if you look even 12! Or how friendly or not friendly she is to you. SHE IS A CHILD!

 

What`s off with her is that you`re too old and way too creepy. Stop this NOW.

[one goal]

I found out she talks to the 19 yr old at work all the time and texts him constantly and likes him. However he said he's not interested in her and doesn't want to be in any relationships with girls right now and finds it kinda annoying he said because he doesn't want to date anyone right now.

[SoulCat]

Well she turns 17 in a week though so she's basically 17 already.

 

 

She talks to 16-22 yr old guys at work just fine.

 

 

Out of curiosity, since you are strangely coy about your age, I had a look at your very first post here on LS.

 

In it you claim to be 25 - as of September 2008. That makes you 32 years old at this present time.

 

You aren't anywhere near the age group of the guys at work that she is comfortable talking with! You are out by an entire decade!

 

 

In fact, since she is still 16, you are twice her age!!

 

 

Dayumn man, can't you see how wrong your behavior is?

[losangelena]

In it you claim to be 25 - as of September 2008. That makes you 32 years old at this present time.

 

Dayumn man, can't you see how wrong your behavior is?

 

[Rejected Rosebud]

Why is this even a thread, is there any question about whether a guy in his 30's (or any adult actually) is "ok" to go after a person under 18 years old??? Duh. If you are in MO it would be statutory rape if you had sex with her!!! Especially since she is at your job, you won't be keeping this a secret and I have the feeling you have already acted inappropriately to this girl, why don't you leave her alone to do her job and you do yours or else you will get fired again!!!:mad:

[Rejected Rosebud]

 

I just don't understand friendship with 18yo-s, I'm 30-31, and even 25yo-s I find intimidatingly young

Well anyway, she is SIXTEEN years old.

[MidwestUSA]

31-32 looking at 16?

 

16 years in prison, or 16 restraining orders?

 

Doesn't this girl's reaction tell you what you need to know?

[one goal]

31-32 looking at 16?

 

16 years in prison, or 16 restraining orders?

 

Doesn't this girl's reaction tell you what you need to know?

 

LOL.

 

 

Actually work went well today. She clearly was shy, trying to avoid talking to me at first, but I did the same too when she came in. I tried my best not to talk to her and just do my work and ignored her.

 

 

Later though since she was standing not far from me I did finally talk and asked how things were going. I did talk to her more later though just chit chat and she was talkative and friendly towards me. I mean it's clear she's a bit hesitant towards me now though which is obvious but she doesn't seem to "hate me". I know she's told other girls at work she talks to and funny thing was her and another girl were standing by the door and one of the young men in our dept who I get along with and is cool was walking by too and I'm pretty sure she had him ask me how old I was because he came up to me and asked how old I am lol. He didn't believe me because I look young and thought I was lying but I saw him walk back to her.

 

 

But otherwise I was respectful to her and didn't mention anything about going out or anything like that.

[TaraMaiden2]

I'm waiting for the next thread:

 

Cute, hot and nasty chick I liked, but was half my age had me fired for stalking her at work. Should I still ask her out?

[Survivor12]

Of course, if you were still in college, you could be hitting on your teachers.

 

Yes, I remember you from a few years ago on a different site so I won't waste my time trying to convince you why chasing a 16 year old is a bad idea. I do, however, encourage you to seek therapy or you will eventually end up in jail. You managed to get away with your behavior in your 20's, but the older you get the less excusable--and creepier--it becomes. Parents, administration, law enforcement don't care why you act out only that when you do women become threatened by you.

 

Get help to control your disorder and learn to adapt to social boundaries & maybe someday you won't be lonely & alone.

 

(Google, my friends...)

[one goal]

I'm waiting for the next thread:

 

Cute, hot and nasty chick I liked, but was half my age had me fired for stalking her at work. Should I still ask her out?

 

I was tired when I typed my post last night but she was actually talkative towards me later on and chatted a bit with me and was friendly towards me. Like she did a complete 360.

[Rejected Rosebud]

Have you ever had any experiences with stalking or at least of being accused of it in your life so far?? This will be worse since she is a minor. You should stop it right now. Srsly dude.

[TaraMaiden2]

I was tired when I typed my post last night but she was actually talkative towards me later on and chatted a bit with me and was friendly towards me. Like she did a complete 360.

 

You mean a 180.

If she had done a 360, she would still have her back to you.

Come to think of it, that wouldn't be such a bad idea.

 

I doubt she's friendlier for any other reason than keeping you placid and preventing you from causing her any more grief.

 

maybe, she thinks, if she's 'friendly' you'll quit harassing her....

 

Stay away from her.

[introverted1]

I'm waiting for the next thread:

 

Cute, hot and nasty chick I liked, but was half my age had me **arrested** for stalking her at work. Should I still ask her out?

 

Updated.

[LexiB]

Out of curiosity, since you are strangely coy about your age, I had a look at your very first post here on LS.

 

In it you claim to be 25 - as of September 2008. That makes you 32 years old at this present time.

 

You aren't anywhere near the age group of the guys at work that she is comfortable talking with! You are out by an entire decade!

 

 

In fact, since she is still 16, you are twice her age!!

 

 

Dayumn man, can't you see how wrong your behavior is?

 

BRAVO! I was wondering when someone was gonna look at this guys posting history. Age aside, his stories are the same pattern each and every time. He likes a girl, asks for advice on how to win her over, gets shot down, is told to give up, ignores all advice and keeps contacting her, is told to stop again, again refuses to listen...etc..

 

I think this is the first time OP has targeted a minor though...hmm.

[one goal]

17 in a week lol.

 

 

Anyways we had a meeting at work today for us new people and she was there along with some of the other new girls. They were all joking and giggling as usual. Anyways there were not enough seats so she sat squised in one seat with one of the other girls. I offered to stand and give her my seat and she giggled and said it was okay. I guess she thought I was trying to suck up to her or something but I wasn't.

[one goal]

Funny today though I had a hot mom "milf" come in today with her two kids. Probably early 30s. Helped her out and she was really nice to me. On her way out she said bye too.

[TaraMaiden2]

17 in a week lol.

Oh yeah, lol that makes a heck of a difference, lol, like, she'll magically mature to a person more of your age, in a week lol.

Sadly, you seem to have the mentality of a nine-year-old in a candy store....

 

 

Anyways we had a meeting at work today for us new people and she was there along with some of the other new girls. They were all joking and giggling as usual. Anyways there were not enough seats so she sat squised in one seat with one of the other girls. I offered to stand and give her my seat and she giggled and said it was okay. I guess she thought I was trying to suck up to her or something but I wasn't.

No, of course you weren't lol.

The fact she didn't immediately spring up and squeal "Oooh! yes please, hope you warmed it for me!" but chose to stay in a relatively uncomfortable place, should be a clear indication she doesn't really invite or require, or want any form of attention from you.

 

lol.