KittyKat67 Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I have a friend who is more like a sister. We had one falling out and didn't speak for 10 years, but it was her ignoring because i tried to talk to her all the time on facebook apologizing for my part, Last year we re connected and fell back into our sister hood. I have been the one to listen more than she listens, and can really count on one had that she has actually listened to me without seeming distracted. Sometimes I craved intimacy with her as far as talking and sharing, but hey, I did enjoy her she is alot of fun. She has been going through alot in her life fo 20 years and honestly, I have tried not to judge her but she has turned into a user. User of friends, user of men for money..etc, and won't work or will only work on her terms. This is just part of her character that I didn't like, but tried to over look it. Recenlty I had a health scare and when I got out of the doctors office I immediatley called her. Told her I have a heart condition and she said I am fear based, looking for things to be scared of, and said I'm a hypochondriac. I then texted her and told her off, to be honest. But not curse words, just wise words letting her know how i have listened to her and been there for her while she uses people and never called her on it or labled it. She then said I"m full of bullsh*t, told me she needed space. Its been a few weeks and the fact that she can't look at how she hurt me, and I told her why too, that I needed her support is bothering me. I would think a good friend might say , hey, sorry I said that or whatever, but are you ok? whats going on? Nope. NOt one word. I'm dealing with a heart condition that can very well kill me in a blink of an eye, and feel so very alone. I can't believe that she is not here for me. I have other friends who I have not been as close to and they are all here and supporting me. I am so very hurt it literally is hurting my heart. So today, I decided to unfriend her on FB and just let her go. I can forgive alot. I can forgive her over talking me, not really letting me talk about my self too much, look past her user type (she is beautiful so men give her things), look past the fact she dates married men, look past the fact she talks crap about everyone including the people that help her beause honestly, she gave me the warmth that I never got from my parents. But I am crushed that she has not called to see if I'm ok. In her head, nothings wrong, I"m a hypochondriac looking for s houlder to cry on. My gut says I have to walk away. Any advice??
HeartDesires Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Sorry to hear about your health issue. You need to sever this friendship, her behavior is not sisterly at all. She's not providing you with the warmth, comfort, and support you deserve.
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