Like night and day

[Male]

I've been using Tinder off and on for the past year or so. I never had my height listed, just had a short greeting written. I would typically get a handful of matches each month. We would message a bit, maybe exchange numbers and talk, and once in awhile some of the women would agree to meet in person. But recently I added my height(5'8) to my greeting and the app has been pretty much dead silent for almost 3 months now. I find it pretty funny how the reaction is like night and day once women know ahead of time how tall I am. Even before I added my height, and women communicated with me, some of them would ask how tall I am, and when I would tell them, it was a total buzzkill for them. I figure its better though to let them know ahead of time, since it seems that majority of women in my area have such an issue with it. At least now if a woman clicks on me, I know she has accepted me as I am.

Edited October 11, 2015 by Male

[Gloria25]

Like I posted in another thread just now...

 

Have you considered getting from behind the computer and meeting people the old fashioned way (i.e. volunteering, meet-ups, physical activities, hobbies, church, etc.)?

 

Some guys I've dated in real life? If I saw their profile/picture online I might have overlooked them cuz it's different when you're talking/meeting a real person instead of a "profile".

 

Also, isn't Tinder a hook-up site? I'm sure lots of superficial peeps on there. Never done Tinder, but heard it's for hook-ups.

[Male]

Like I posted in another thread just now...

 

Have you considered getting from behind the computer and meeting people the old fashioned way (i.e. volunteering, meet-ups, physical activities, hobbies, church, etc.)?

 

Some guys I've dated in real life? If I saw their profile/picture online I might have overlooked them cuz it's different when you're talking/meeting a real person instead of a "profile".

 

Also, isn't Tinder a hook-up site? I'm sure lots of superficial peeps on there. Never done Tinder, but heard it's for hook-ups.

 

Any site is only what you make it. There aren't any "rules" that you have to live by. Most women write it on their profile that they are specifically not looking for a hookup.

 

As far as meeting women in person, the area I live in really doesnt offer any "meetup" groups or opportunities such as that. Everyone thinks since it works for them in larger metro areas, that its an option for everyone else as well. Theres no where to go to randomly meet women other than bars or clubs where I live. My job offers limited time to be out and about as well. My time off is typically spent with friends and family, not chasing women.

 

Most women are just as superficial and stuck up in person as they are on dating sites or dating apps.

Edited October 11, 2015 by Male

[Gloria25]

Any site is only what you make it. There aren't any "rules" that you have to live by. Most women write it on their profile that they are specifically not looking for a hookup.

 

As far as meeting women in person, the area I live in really doesnt offer any "meetup" groups or opportunities such as that. Everyone thinks since it works for them in larger metro areas, that its an option for everyone else as well. Theres no where to go to randomly meet women other than bars or clubs where I live.

 

Most women are just as superficial and stuck up in person as they are on dating sites or dating apps.

 

I have to disagree about your notion about websites. Cuz some of them are where certain people frequent for certain reasons. Like Craigslist...more than likely, you're running into shady and/or even dangerous people. PoF is pretty much what it's title says "lots of ordinary people you see walking down the street". "Ashley Madison" - married people looking to hook up.

 

Without giving up where you live, imagine I was a tourist and/or relocating for a job to your area. Where would you tell me to go to see/do things?

 

I mean, even in crappy small towns places like church, high school football, county fairs, cookouts, public parks/pools is where people get together and socialize. I have yet to see a place where bars and clubs is the only place people can meet each other.

 

If you're 5'8" why not look for someone shorter and call it a day? Lots of petite women out there.

 

Or, is this going to be another defeatest thread?

[Male]

 

If you're 5'8" why not look for someone shorter and call it a day? Lots of petite women out there.

 

Or, is this going to be another defeatest thread?

 

Where I live, its the short petite women that have the biggest issue about a guys height. Flat footed they are 4-6 inches shorter than me yet they refuse to even acknowledge a guy unless he's 6ft or taller(their words not mine).

 

Everyone on here that tries to fight against my posts doesnt want to accept the fact that there large numbers of women that truly are this stuck up, so they just badger me and anyone else that brings it to light.

 

I understand that b*tching about it doesnt change anything, so noone needs to give me that speech, but its my right to post it, and everyone has the right to ignore it if they are so inclined. But dont act like it doesnt exist, and pass it off as the guy just "whining". I'm simply stating a factual situation.

[autumnnight]

Most women are just as superficial and stuck up in person as they are on dating sites or dating apps.

 

THIS attitude is why you are not getting dates.

[craw]

I'm dead against OLD more than ever. I recently got catfished badly, I've literally refused to meet anyone again.

 

I also tell people to stay away from apps/sites whatever.

 

The reality is most of these online people lie and deceive others. I don't even understand why, you can't keep hiding from the truth.

 

The majority of men are not looking for relationships, they're looking for free no strings attached sex.

 

In terms of meeting offline, I have no idea. I met my last bf through a friend.

 

In others words, eff tinder. It's a weird way to meet someone anyway.