katiegrl Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 It is her life I just will not date a female that makes 2 to 3 times as much as me it will never work out. I am all for doing my part around the houses and looking after the kids and all but if I made 250k a year my wife or Gf did not make as much as me she should be willing to do more cooking and cleaning . Yes I feel the same way if a woman made 250k and the guy did not make that much he should man up and do 75% to 80% of the cleaning and cooking and look after the child . LOL, you missed the point of my post, but nevermind, it's par for the course. Ugh. I wish you luck with that attitude. :bunny: 2
Krieger Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 LOL, you missed the point of my post, but nevermind, it's par for the course. Ugh. I wish you luck with that attitude. :bunny: Well for me I can see it now I make less money so I do more of the cooking and cleaning and she comes home and yells and screams at me because it not done her way or it never good enough no matter what I do . I seen it happen to family members and friends and just about every guy I know dating a woman that makes more than them. Not saying I want a award for cleaning the house but if i forget to do something or it not done how you would do it just get over it.
Author Terry8889 Posted October 12, 2015 Author Posted October 12, 2015 People need to stop dating people that have less than them IMO . Sorry but I do not agree with this. People should not assume they are better than someone else because of how much they make. My friend could easily find another women who makes the same or more money than him but it doesn't mean she will actually love him, be loyal, be responsible with money, etc. The girl he dumped was honest, good to him, and had compatible personality with him and he knew it, that is why he kept pursuing her. As I said one cannot expect to find the perfect person in the perfect circumstances. But I think once she graduates she will likely get a better job and make good money, get her own place, a new car and probably at the end my friend will regret his decision. 2
katiegrl Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 (edited) Well for me I can see it now I make less money so I do more of the cooking and cleaning and she comes home and yells and screams at me because it not done her way or it never good enough no matter what I do . ****I seen it happen to family members and friends and just about every guy I know dating a woman that makes more than them. **** Not saying I want a award for cleaning the house but if i forget to do something or it not done how you would do it just get over it. With all the money she apparently makes, hire a damn housekeeper. Or find a better woman to marry. One who doesn't yell and scream for starters. Sheesh! Problem solved! Edited October 12, 2015 by katiegrl 1
Krieger Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Sorry but I do not agree with this. People should not assume they are better than someone else because of how much they make. My friend could easily find another women who makes the same or more money than him but it doesn't mean she will actually love him, be loyal, be responsible with money, etc. The girl he dumped was honest, good to him, and had compatible personality with him and he knew it, that is why he kept pursuing her. As I said one cannot expect to find the perfect person in the perfect circumstances. But I think once she graduates she will likely get a better job and make good money, get her own place, a new car and probably at the end my friend will regret his decision. Well at least she is going to college I am talking more of being out of college . I just feel men go for the hottest woman he can afford and women go for the most successful man she can attract. Often people are that shallow and I know I am at times. I am 32 and never took public transportation and I never will . Like I said I will be lucky to make 38k take home this year so I can not afford to be picky when it comes to getting dates. Yea going back to college is helping but it does not meant a darn thing if I do not finish it.
Krieger Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 With all the money she apparently makes, hire a damn housekeeper. Or find a better woman to marry. One who doesn't yell and scream for starters. Sheesh! Problem solved! They could do that but I like cooking just not cleaning LOL . Luckily for me there are a few women sociopaths in my family so I know what to look for and run for the hills.
casey.lives Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 All the not so nice things women are known for, men do too. All the not so nice things men are known for, women do too. 1
Krieger Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 All the not so nice things women are known for, men do too. All the not so nice things men are known for, women do too. All I ask for is to be treated how you want to be treated . I would never yell and scream at a woman for something as silly as not buying the wrong type of beer she might get a dam it woman and that about it but it would be in joking. I see it all the time woman getting mad at the man for buying the wrong dish soap it is not the end of the world people.
Author Terry8889 Posted October 12, 2015 Author Posted October 12, 2015 All I ask for is to be treated how you want to be treated . I would never yell and scream at a woman for something as silly as not buying the wrong type of beer she might get a dam it woman and that about it but it would be in joking. I see it all the time woman getting mad at the man for buying the wrong dish soap it is not the end of the world people. You're getting out of topic. Anyways, why would you want to be in a relationship withas a women who screams and treats you as inferior. That says a lot about her, if she really loved you she will treat you as equal no matter how much more money she makes.
Krieger Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 You're getting out of topic. Anyways, why would you want to be in a relationship withas a women who screams and treats you as inferior. That says a lot about her, if she really loved you she will treat you as equal no matter how much more money she makes. I think money is the number one reason men and woman fight IMO.
Radu Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 So my best guy friend was dating this girl who I also became friends with. Months into dating my guy friend was having second thoughts about her because of her "financial situation". He has a pretty good career, job and house and he says he is ready to settle down and wants to find the right woman. His girl was younger and was also independent but sharing an apartment with two other people and driving an old car. She is still in school finishing up a bachelors, She has a decent job but limited finances. In part I think because of paying for school, etc, idk. Well my guy friend doesn't mind buying expensive stuff but his gf usually says no to buying stuff she considers no necessary. Anyways, because of this my friend assumed she was "broke" and he ended up breaking up with her because of it. I felt bad for her and in my opinion I think it was a big mistake from his part because I know he liked her a lot and had so many things in common. I have never heard of the guy dumping a girl because of her economic situation at the moment. It was not like she was homeless or in huge debt. As I said she goes to school, decent job, but can't blow money. I have usually heard that some women would dump the guy because he is broke but never saw the opposite. Any opinions, thoughts, or similar stories? He dumped her because he's an idiot. He mistook frugality for being broke .... i would assume a lot of bad things about this guy (most of it about his maturity level). 3
kendahke Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I think money is the number one reason men and woman fight IMO. No. It's not. Incompatibility is the #1 reason why people fight.
kendahke Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 He actually told her all this and they broke up for few months but then he reconnected with her and kept pursuing her. I asked him why would he continue seeing her if he thought she was not ready for him? He said they have too many things in common such as religion, values, views/opinions, both are family oriented and even birthdays on the same month. So he decided to give it a try to only end up breaking up with her more than a year into their relationship. He's an a-hole for not leaving her alone and giving her false hope of a relationship when he knew damb well that she wasn't what he was looking for. His excuses are weak freakin' sauce, lame as hell. He needs to be by himself. 1
stillafool Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 My friend could easily find another women who makes the same or more money than him but it doesn't mean she will actually love him, be loyal, be responsible with money, etc. The girl he dumped was honest, good to him, and had compatible personality with him and he knew it, that is why he kept pursuing her. . But c'mon, she isn't the only woman in this world who will love him, be loyal and financially responsible. At least I hope there are more women like that in this world. It's what the guy wants now and she isn't it. I don't think that makes him a horrible person.
Siquijor Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I just feel men go for the hottest woman he can afford The key is to go for the hottest woman who'll give you a stress-free life - and I'm speaking from experience, although it can take a stressful relationship or two to really understand this.
katiegrl Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 (edited) But c'mon, she isn't the only woman in this world who will love him, be loyal and financially responsible. At least I hope there are more women like that in this world. It's what the guy wants now and she isn't it. I don't think that makes him a horrible person. If it's what he wants NOW, then why (1) did he ever get involved with her in the first place, and (2) after he broke up with her the first time, ever get back together with her? For a year no less!! Allowing Terry's friend to become emotionally invested, fall in love, even hope for a future with him. He KNEW she was still in college studying for her degree, and was not in a position to make a lot of money for a few years. He KNEW that! Apparently it didn't bother him "then," otherwise he would not have become involved with her, not once, but TWICE!! For an entire year! So what happened? Suddenly he wakes up after a year and realized he DOES want a woman who makes a lot of money RIGHT NOW? And breaks up with her because of it? What a bunch of horseshyt. He's got I S S U E S..... big time. What he did to Terry's friend was just cruel. You don't mislead people like that. That's just so wrong on so many levels. Kendahke is right. He needs to be by himself. Which is where he will probably end up anyway... alone, by himself. No woman will satisfy him, there will ALWAYS be something "wrong." No matter how ludicrous that something is.... And for the record, no it's NOT easy finding someone you share the same values with, are compatible with, who loves and cares about you, and who is also hard working, financially responsible, intelligent, educated and will potentially be making a good salary equal to if not more than you (once she graduates). If you think that you're living in a dream world. Not to mention, it may take him years to find another woman who has all those same qualities.. By then, Terry's friend would have graduated and making a fabulous salary as a molecular biologist for a large biotech corp. Nice car, house, all the perks. The guy is a bonafide idiot. Edited October 12, 2015 by katiegrl 2
kendahke Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 But c'mon, she isn't the only woman in this world who will love him, be loyal and financially responsible. At least I hope there are more women like that in this world. It's what the guy wants now and she isn't it. I don't think that makes him a horrible person. No, that alone, standing with nothing else, doesn't make him a horrible person. What makes him a horrible person is that he put her down and then went back and lured her back into a relationship with him knowing full damb well where she was in her life and what she was doing in her life and he lead her down a primrose path FOR A YEAR only to dump her for the lamest of excuses--it's not like he didn't know where she was in her life going in BOTH TIMES. Had he not been selfish, self absorbed and self-centered, he'd have left her alone to get on with her life and her studies and he would have gone and found this perfect woman of his dreams. THAT is what makes him a horrible person. He's what my daughter calls an "ain't isht guy". And OP can tell him I said so. 1
Author Terry8889 Posted October 13, 2015 Author Posted October 13, 2015 Not to mention, it may take him years to find another woman who has all those same qualities.. By then, Terry's friend would have graduated and making a fabulous salary as a molecular biologist for a large biotech corp. Nice car, house, all the perks. The guy is a bonafide idiot. LOL I love the way you put it. I believe that is exactly what is going to happen. She is good person and he is too "generally" but he is just being too immature. Anyways, I hope she finds someone who will really appreciate her.
Krieger Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 The key is to go for the hottest woman who'll give you a stress-free life - and I'm speaking from experience, although it can take a stressful relationship or two to really understand this. Well if she ugly on the outside I am not interested in her sorry. I know people say beauty is on the in side but that what ugly people say . I know I am not the best looking guy in the world but if I the good looking one in the relationship it might not be a bad thing if i can get away with more.
lino Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 Guy seems foolish to me but as you said in your OP, plenty of guys get flicked for not having enough material wealth. What's good for one is good for the other, or so it should be anyway. IMO, she's smart and I hope she'll find one of the many guys who appreciates a woman who doesn't blow money on material things. My girl isn't at all into expensive shoes or handbags, hotels, luxury cars and I greatly appreciate it 1
lino Posted October 13, 2015 Posted October 13, 2015 The key is to go for the hottest woman who'll give you a stress-free life - and I'm speaking from experience, although it can take a stressful relationship or two to really understand this. Don't have the stressful relationships under my belt as I'm currently in my only really genuine one ever but I agree with this wholeheartedly.
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