treehugger101 Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I know all of us have seen them those guys based off of the TV shows, movies, and books. The romantic one's and the abusive one's. But my question to you, is how many of you have actually been in an abusive relationship that was similar to that of the one's in TV and film? Like those types of guys that if you break up with them, they become stalkers, obsessed, want you only for themselves, hit you, verbally abuse you, and end up killing you so no one else can have you. Has anyone ever dated, engaged, or was married to one of those types? I sometimes think I may run into one of those one day, if I ever become single again that is. What about the other type, the romantic type, that always brings you flowers, candy, and a stuffed teddy bear, takes you out to dinner or a movie, is just always kind, caring, loving, etc. Will protect you in any situation. Which type of guys have you run into, in your line of dating or relationship-wise?
GemmaUK Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 Obviously I have not yet been killed..but I dated one for a few months who was romantic and abusive. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 Obviously I have not yet been killed..but I dated one for a few months who was romantic and abusive. Likewise. My ex was very good at charming me but there was a dark side.
thecrucible Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 Well I'm familiar with the charming type of guy who has a dark side. My first boyfriend was like that. It shocked me when I first experienced this dark side of his. I knew he was short-tempered and would punch walls sometimes in frustration but never thought he would take this out on me. Until the day before he broke up with me, when he literally picked me up and through me across a room. I never told anyone for years afterwards. In fact, after we broke up, a lot of people took his side over mine and I was seen as the sad case. He was so well-liked and had so many friends that I didn't think anyone would believe me if they knew what he really was like - so I just didn't say anything. That type of guy is more common than you think because people always think abusive types would be noticeable and not well-liked. I can absolutely never get to know a man now without thinking about what might be underneath the surface and when the other shoe will drop. As for stalker types, I've never really experienced that. Although there's a guy I went on one date with via online dating but I didn't want to see him again. That was over 18 months ago and he still sends me messages on the site to find out "how I'm getting on" and ahh this creeps me out because, well, it's weird to want to stay friendly with someone you've met once from a online dating site.
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