krista28 Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I had this friends with benefits for the last six months. We got together and I sid like him but he was strangely a jerk. He eventually got a girlfriend ahen I said I was looking for something more. He is now calling me a crazy mentally unstable among other things. What gives men the right to say these things to people? He has a gf now but hes a jerk..
Disconnect Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 You said twice he's a jerk, if you think he's a jerk why does his opinion matter to you.
katiegrl Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I had this friends with benefits for the last six months. We got together and I sid like him but he was strangely a jerk. He eventually got a girlfriend ahen I said I was looking for something more. He is now calling me a crazy mentally unstable among other things. ***What gives men the right to say these things to people? **** He has a gf now but hes a jerk.. Unless he lives in some third world country, where people have no rights, he has the right to say whatever he wants. In turn, you have the right to IGNORE it.
stillafool Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 Is this the guy you met on Tinder? He was never looking for more than a FWB relationship with you which you acknowledged. He found a girl he wanted a relationship with and now it's over. I would suggest you not enter into another FWB relationship because you end up getting hooked on them. It is probably best that you wait for a guy who wants a real relationship before you give out sex.
Author krista28 Posted October 11, 2015 Author Posted October 11, 2015 Yes this is all true hes a jerk and no ive known him for years. I realize this is my fault but how can he get away with this...
katiegrl Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 (edited) Yes this is all true hes a jerk and no ive known him for years. I realize this is my fault but how can he get away with this... Get away with what? Expressing his feelings? Again, he has the right to say whatever he damn well wants to say (negative or otherwise), and YOU have the right to ignore it. Which I suggest you do. Block him, and move on. Done! Edited October 11, 2015 by katiegrl 1
stillafool Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 Yes this is all true hes a jerk and no ive known him for years. I realize this is my fault but how can he get away with this... I'm still trying to understand why you are calling him a jerk when he never lied to you.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 He can say whatever he wants. Of course it's hurtful, but there's really nothing you can about it but ignore him. How do you know what he's saying about you? If your friends are reporting back to you, ask them to stop. If he truly is a jerk, be glad he's not in your life anymore and close that door.
katiegrl Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I had this friends with benefits for the last six months. We got together and I sid like him but he was strangely a jerk. He eventually got a girlfriend ahen I said I was looking for something more. ***He is now calling me a crazy mentally unstable among other things. *** What gives men the right to say these things to people? He has a gf now but hes a jerk.. Quote above in asterisk -- he was involved with you for six months. Is there any truth to what he's saying? Did you (are you) acting *crazy* and mentally unstable now and while you were FWB with him? Why is he saying those things?
Author krista28 Posted October 11, 2015 Author Posted October 11, 2015 It doesnt matter if theres truth to it or not. He had a chance with me and ruined it. I highly doubt he even really has a girlfriend. Guys always call women crazy when theyre emotional.
Buddhist Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I had this friends with benefits for the last six months. We got together and I sid like him but he was strangely a jerk. He eventually got a girlfriend ahen I said I was looking for something more. He is now calling me a crazy mentally unstable among other things. What gives men the right to say these things to people? He has a gf now but hes a jerk.. This was a waste of keystrokes. Seriously. No-one has the right but many people of all genders take the liberty. Get over it.
mattelipstick Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 It doesnt matter if theres truth to it or not. He had a chance with me and ruined it. I highly doubt he even really has a girlfriend. Guys always call women crazy when theyre emotional. How does it not matter? If you've been acting in a manner that suggests you are unstable, you can't really be mad at him for calling a spade a spade. I would suggest you leave him alone, if you haven't already. 2
katiegrl Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 It doesnt matter if theres truth to it or not. **He had a chance with me and ruined it.*** I highly doubt he even really has a girlfriend. Guys always call women crazy when theyre emotional. Not really hun, cause if you acted crazy and mentally unstable, then YOU actually ruined it. So again, any truth to his words? It DOES matter if you want to learn from mistakes and grow as a person. 2
kendahke Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I had this friends with benefits for the last six months. We got together and I sid like him but he was strangely a jerk. He eventually got a girlfriend ahen I said I was looking for something more. He is now calling me a crazy mentally unstable among other things. What gives men the right to say these things to people? He has a gf now but hes a jerk.. Was he a jerk before you told him you liked him? (I'm guessing that's what your typo was trying to convey). So because you told him you were looking for something more (were you expecting the relationship to continue or were you alerting him that you were putting him down to find something more?), you're crazy? Jerks will say anything stupid because they've learned to live with what they can't rise above... their own stupidity. So let his new girlfriend deal with this silliness. You dodged a bullet.
kendahke Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 Yes this is all true hes a jerk and no ive known him for years. I realize this is my fault but how can he get away with this... Get away with what? Not having a high opinion of you? Hon, that's going to happen eventually if you live long enough. Those are people that you don't give a isht about. Just consider the source--he's a jerk. What does it matter what he thinks? I'm curious though--what is it that you want to see happen to him? His tongue cut out of his mouth? He'll still think that you're crazy, etc., so yeah--you've got better things with which to occupy your mind. Let his new girlfriend wade through that minefield. 1
Author krista28 Posted October 11, 2015 Author Posted October 11, 2015 I understand what everyone is trying to say. I also know the history on this guy and know that hes incapable of not cheating on his girlfriend s . I may have acted unstable because I kept changing my mind about him. However id rather be me than him. Hes got an ugly heart. Real ugly.
kendahke Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 It doesnt matter if theres truth to it or not. He had a chance with me and ruined it. I highly doubt he even really has a girlfriend. If he ruined his chances with you, then why care what he thinks of you? There's no chance for him with you anyway-----or is there? Are you secretly holding out hope of him coming back to you? If so, I can see why you care. If not, I don't see why you care. Guys always call women crazy when theyre emotional. When they are being emotional and crazy, yes they will use those words. When you can't get your way, the best thing to do is gather your dignity, wish them a good life and go on and live yours to the best of your ability. Dissolving into crazy and emotional, while it may feel good in the moment, will ultimately set you back *if you really want things to work out with them*. If you don't, who cares what they think? They're going to think it anyway and there's nothing you can do about it. And that has nothing to do with "rights".
Author krista28 Posted October 11, 2015 Author Posted October 11, 2015 So true its best to be burried and move on...hell never be good for me.
Maggie4 Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I said this before and I say it again, I am really against this friends with benefits thing or whatever euphemism you choose. Maybe I am old fashioned, but really I see too many girls being hurt. "Benefit" for the girl? Don't pretend you're ok with it when you're not.
Disconnect Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I agree with Maggie4. OP: play with fire - get burned. Sex has a way of bonding people; invariably given enough time one develops feelings for the other. Then what? Right where you are now. :/
Author krista28 Posted October 12, 2015 Author Posted October 12, 2015 I know I dont think thos fwb is good the sad part is.I dont even think he has a gf . I think he lied because hes pissed I stood up fpr myself and wanted something out of the deal. Then texted him again and he has a gf two weeks later..hmm I doubt it.
CFF Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Read your previous threads. Time after time you pick the worst guys and then are curious about their behavior. You got to stop and start picking better guys. Whatever you're doing do something else.
stillafool Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I understand what everyone is trying to say. I also know the history on this guy and know that hes incapable of not cheating on his girlfriend s . I may have acted unstable because I kept changing my mind about him. However id rather be me than him. Hes got an ugly heart. Real ugly. If he's a cheater with an ugly heart why did you want to be with him? Not seeing this situation realistically will keep you from moving forward. Just let it go - he's gone and you need to heal.
stillafool Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I know I dont think thos fwb is good the sad part is.I dont even think he has a gf . I think he lied because hes pissed I stood up fpr myself and wanted something out of the deal. Then texted him again and he has a gf two weeks later..hmm I doubt it. It doesn't take that long to get a new gf especially when he was probably seeing her at the same time he was seeing you. Who cares at this point if he has a gf or not. He has told you he doesn't want you and that's what you should use to move forward and away from him. Concentrating on his life and what they are doing is not helping you, is it?
Author krista28 Posted October 12, 2015 Author Posted October 12, 2015 Still a fool you are correct...I still doubt this girl is real. But if she is poor her.
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