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My ex broke up with me, got a new gf 1 month later... now he's interested? Wth

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Hi all -

 

So my ex and I were seeing each other for about 6 months. We never really made it "official", but he ended up breaking things off with me because he said "he didn't fall in love with me," I was devastated. Less than a month later, I find out he has a new girlfriend (let's call it what it is - he was probably seeing her while he was seeing me).

 

He works in the service industry, and they work together. After not seeing him for a month, I pop into the bar he's working at with a gf of mine for a drink, and he's ALL OVER ME. Pulls up a chair, sits down, we're doing tequila shots, and if I didn't know any better, I'd say he was trying to get into my pants (not one sexual comment stone was left unturned on his part).

 

Worse, his GF was working - he didn't introduce her to me once. She was clearly upset, because the restaurant manager came over to me with the girlfriend when my ex went outside for a smoke, and introduced her. I was polite, said it was nice to meet them both (the manager and the gf), etc.

 

It was like we went to the bar, but ended up in the Twilight Zone.

 

To boot, when me and my girlfriend decided we should leave and go elsewhere for drinks, HE DECIDES TO FOLLOW US. And when I mentioned his GF, he always cringed every time. I don't get it.

 

What is this guy's problem?

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He's an idiot and you should stay away from him. It's that simple. He hits on you in front of her, possibly carried on with her while he was with you. He has no respect for either one of you.

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Can I ask why you chose to go to a bar where both your ex AND his new gf work? Sounds like a recipe for drama.

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Yes, surely there are other bars you can go to. Stay away from his. You put yourself in that position and now you're scratching your head as to why all the drama? Mmm, no girl, try again.

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Yes, surely there are other bars you can go to. Stay away from his. You put yourself in that position and now you're scratching your head as to why all the drama? Mmm, no girl, try again.

 

Ahh, I should've given some context. I've known the family that owns this entire chain of bars for years (they're like family). As is the majority of the staff. IE. Me going in there isn't an unusual occurrence. I don't go to see HIM, I go to see everyone else. He happens to work there. Though to be frank, I do want him and I to just be friends. I enjoy him as a friend, not a boyfriend lol.

 

To be honest, me showing up there wouldn't have been an issue at ALL if he didn't start hitting on me. Hence my confusion: WHY WOULD HE DO THIS??

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Ahh, I should've given some context. I've known the family that owns this entire chain of bars for years (they're like family). As is the majority of the staff. IE. Me going in there isn't an unusual occurrence. I don't go to see HIM, I go to see everyone else. He happens to work there. Though to be frank, I do want him and I to just be friends. I enjoy him as a friend, not a boyfriend lol.

 

To be honest, me showing up there wouldn't have been an issue at ALL if he didn't start hitting on me. Hence my confusion: WHY WOULD HE DO THIS??

 

Why do you care about that idiot?????

 

Just stop showing up in those bars for a short while to save yourself some troubles. People should avoid potential trouble if they are not in control.

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Why do you care about that idiot?????

 

Just stop showing up in those bars for a short while to save yourself some troubles. People should avoid potential trouble if they are not in control.

 

For me, I think it's about sending a message: No dumb ass will ever dictate where I can and cannot not drink. It's like I want him to know that I'm unfazed by his idiocy - and that he can't hurt me.

 

Does that make any sense?

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Ahh, I should've given some context. I've known the family that owns this entire chain of bars for years (they're like family). As is the majority of the staff. IE. Me going in there isn't an unusual occurrence. I don't go to see HIM, I go to see everyone else. He happens to work there. Though to be frank, I do want him and I to just be friends. I enjoy him as a friend, not a boyfriend lol.

 

To be honest, me showing up there wouldn't have been an issue at ALL if he didn't start hitting on me. Hence my confusion: WHY WOULD HE DO THIS??

 

Well if the family owns a chain of these bars wasn't there another one you could go to? It sounds like you wanted drama and that's what you got. If you don't want to be more than friends with this guy why would you make a thread asking about him? Unless he tells you he was wrong he is in love with you, he breaks up with his gf to prove it, and begs you on his hands and knees to come back, nothing in his mind has changed. Go NC so you can get over him (because you aren't) and continue moving forward.

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For me, I think it's about sending a message: No dumb ass will ever dictate where I can and cannot not drink. It's like I want him to know that I'm unfazed by his idiocy - and that he can't hurt me.

 

Does that make any sense?

 

Not at all. What it is proving is you are not over him and are chasing after him.

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Not at all. What it is proving is you are not over him and are chasing after him.

 

Lol hardly. Aside from the "we dated" fact, we were friends for years before. I sat at a bar I go to on a regular basis. The drama only occurred when he sat down and started getting a little too close (no one was more shocked than I was to be honest). :o

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Ahh, I should've given some context. I've known the family that owns this entire chain of bars for years (they're like family). As is the majority of the staff. IE. Me going in there isn't an unusual occurrence. I don't go to see HIM, I go to see everyone else. He happens to work there. Though to be frank, I do want him and I to just be friends. I enjoy him as a friend, not a boyfriend lol.

 

To be honest, me showing up there wouldn't have been an issue at ALL if he didn't start hitting on me. Hence my confusion: WHY WOULD HE DO THIS??

 

Just so I'm clear, you want to be friends with a guy you dated for 6 months, who never made it official, broke your heart and possibly cheated on you?

 

Then you're surprised when he flirts with you in front of his current GF, makes a boatload of sexual innuendos and follows you out of the bar?

 

The lady doth protest too much, methinks.

 

Remind me what's so amazing about this person?

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Don't give him a chance. Just avoid him please as you don't want to be associated with someone like that. He doesn't deserve to have your friendship.

 

I had an ex like him - well not long before we broke up, he would flirt with other women in front of me, put his hand around them and that sort of thing. It felt horrible...seriously...

 

If you ever want to be friends with him again, just remember how he treated you and you'll get back to reality.

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Just so I'm clear, you want to be friends with a guy you dated for 6 months, who never made it official, broke your heart and possibly cheated on you?

 

Then you're surprised when he flirts with you in front of his current GF, makes a boatload of sexual innuendos and follows you out of the bar?

 

The lady doth protest too much, methinks.

 

Remind me what's so amazing about this person?

 

Oh my god you're so right. LosAngelena I might love you. Mind. Blown.

I just feel like because we've been friends for so many years, I should be trying to salvage something :/ FML.

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Don't give him a chance. Just avoid him please as you don't want to be associated with someone like that. He doesn't deserve to have your friendship.

 

I had an ex like him - well not long before we broke up, he would flirt with other women in front of me, put his hand around them and that sort of thing. It felt horrible...seriously...

 

If you ever want to be friends with him again, just remember how he treated you and you'll get back to reality.

 

I'm sorry to hear some guy pulled this on you - it's lame. I just don't understand the logic (or lack there of) with guys like that. I went in because I was under the impression he no longer felt anything for me. If that's the case, why he would flirt with me in front of his current "squeeze", and leave the bar with my girlfriend and I, is beyond me.

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Well if the family owns a chain of these bars wasn't there another one you could go to? It sounds like you wanted drama and that's what you got. If you don't want to be more than friends with this guy why would you make a thread asking about him? Unless he tells you he was wrong he is in love with you, he breaks up with his gf to prove it, and begs you on his hands and knees to come back, nothing in his mind has changed. Go NC so you can get over him (because you aren't) and continue moving forward.

 

Even if he came back on his hands and knees, this situation made me realize that I don't ever want to be the girl watching him flirt with someone else. F*** that noise :mad:

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:rolleyes:DRAMA!

 

It's like I want him to know that I'm unfazed by his idiocy - and that he can't hurt me.

 

 

MORE DRAMA WHICH YOU LOVED!

 

The drama only occurred when he sat down and started getting a little too close (no one was more shocked than I was to be honest). :o
REALLY?!:lmao:

 

Even if he came back on his hands and knees, this situation made me realize that I don't ever want to be the girl watching him flirt with someone else. F*** that noise :mad:

 

I doubt seriously that this guy would have to get on his hands and knees to get you back and you know it. That's why you have this thread going about a guy you don't want.:rolleyes:

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