luck1978 Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 Us men need to be men! Firstly I am not writing this as a man only comment but it is probably more appropriate for men. OK so my wife left me after a 6 yr marriage and I was shocked and devastated. I did the usual begging, offering to change and basically cringe worthy stuff. I then realised this is not what it is to be a man, and have decided to initiate no contact. We need to remember that they are probably feeling a fraction of the hurt we are, so as men we need to be tough, and don't let them reduce you to losing your self worth. I have written down all the ways that i am NOT going to proceed: 1) no desperate texts 2) no begging and helplessness VERY IMPORTANT: 3) no seeing her through rose tinted spectacles (this is the person who inflicted this on you after all) 4) No contact is no contact and any communication will be formal and polite only Ways I will proceed: 1) Focus on me and the abundance life still has to offer 2) Reach out to friends and family, and I will surly do the same when they need it 3) Remember I am a strong man who will get up and dust himself down and move on - like strong men have all through history 4) Make sure I do not obsesss as I was not a mentalist before and will not be one now because someone has decided they don't want to be with me. 5) If i start to feel emotional I will go down the gym and work off my anger and emotion or do something else to take my mind off it. Remember being a man is about mental strength and resiliance - we can do it 2
Meli22 Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I didn't realise this was a mans forum?! All of those things apply to women too. So basically this thread could be "us humans need to be humans"
thunder777 Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 (edited) yep no contact to the max! to the point like you have died and there is nothing not a single living sign that youre out there alive and well. if your on fb, and she ghosts you, dont have up miserable photos, put up extreme happiness and elated visions other fact is "u broke up" so youre not in a relationship with her. get on dating sites asap and go on "coffee dates", dont be trying to get laid or hooked up, just go on heaps of coffee dates, and dont bring up old marriage drama stories, just fun fun fun to the future. youll understand the excitement of these when u start locking them in and get out of the house, as much as possible, do anything and everything thats out there... gym, church, concerts, beach, walks, play a sport even poetry readings lol if you was writing a daily diary record, and one event that occurred in youre day was "sat in your arm chair for 4 hours missing ex" is nothing youll ever gonna look back on and say yea that was so memorable cheers to strength, roll with it bud Edited October 11, 2015 by thunder777
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