ConfusedT Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 hi all!!! Jus wanted to update all.. If you recall, I got pregnant and caught up in a really bad situation.. We really haven't spoke at all the majority of my pregnancy.. Last time we spoke he said he hoped I would kill myself so me and his daughter would die and then he proceeded to call my son (8 years old btw) and his daughter a bitch.. I have known this man for MANY years.. So it's more disgusting than anything but the point of this post is: You can literally get through ANYTHING!! I have spent my whole pregnancy maintaining myself by myself, getting strong for my children by myself. I have tons of supportive friends so that is very helpful too! Good news is, I really don't care anymore. I'm so much stronger because of this situation and I fee like everything happened for a reason & is still happening for a reason. I have decided that I am NOT going to pursue him in anyway, court or otherwise, to be in her life. In addition to that, he, & his girlfriend (who also said she wished my baby would die) are not going to be allowed around her due to the reasons mentioned above and her safety, clearly.. No matter how bad you think being alone during pregnancy is, I promise it's better than being with someone who is abusive, especially during pregnancy which should be a special time. Your baby is not a mistake, you trusting that person to be a good father is. Your baby is a blessing, put them and your sanity FIRST, you will NEVER need him to be complete, your children will provide you that unconditional love!! Good luck and God Bless!! 5
Tayla Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 May your future be less drama and more mama. Be well.
casey.lives Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 (edited) Getting pregnant before marriage makes men act crazy. Something about not having a say in their destiny. Saying forever and meaning forever are two different things and unwed-locked accidental pregnancy wakes the reality of the word itself. "Forever" is address with marriage.. not CHOOSING it freaks guys out. Although, things can work out in these situations and there are communities of mother hens everywhere. good luck Edited October 11, 2015 by casey.lives
ExpatInItaly Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 Good for you, OP. It takes a lot of strength to get through what you have. Keep spreading the positive message!
LOLITA85 Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 Good for you ! Here he left for another woman right after I gave birth ... Needless to say he was already screwing around during my pregnancy ... Karma will get them eventually.
Els Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 So glad to see you're doing well OP. I feel that you're letting him off the hook a little bit with the child support, unless you have more than enough money for your child's upbringing - it's what he owes his own child and I feel he has the responsibility to support her as well. But I'm not sure how that works... if you file for it will it give him the right to be around her? If it will then I totally understand why you aren't filing. Either way, I admire your strength in getting through this, and I'm sure your baby will grow up happy and healthy with such a mom.
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