tinydancer324 Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I've been seeing someone for 2 months; we were friends for a month before it turned romantic. From the beginning he's always been the one to lead correspondence; he initiates texting every day and always responds. He pursued me as a friend without putting the moves on me, until I was ready. The thing is, he's not great about making plans more than a day or two ahead of time. And, he has a kid, so there are 3-4 nights every week that are off the table...though I have been invited to hang out with him after the kid goes to bed before (at the very beginning), he hasn't done so lately. I almost always wait for him to suggest getting together (though not always). I am feeling like I wish we'd get together a bit more often (it's been dialed back to maybe 1x week for the last month, partially due to travel and mostly to him being busy). But I'm really feeling like letting him lead...I do NOT want to chase him. I just wonder, could he be waiting for me to make more suggestions to actually meet up? Or should i continue to lean back?
WhatIsLove2014 Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 Well maybe he is hoping you would initiate more. Just ask, I noticed me and the new guy I was dating went from 2-3 dates a week to barely 1 a week and when I asked him about it and told him I wanted to see him more, he said it seemed like I was really busy and he was trying to give me space. You never know until you ask, then you'll have your answer.
Ami1uwant Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 Why is making plans only 1-2 days before an issue? It sounds as if he isn't sure whether he has his child the upcoming weekend or not. Sounds like you are holding him having a child against him--what if roles were reversed??.
xcupid Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 Where did you get the idea that speaking up and making suggestions was "chasing" him? It's called being part of the relationship, not chasing him.
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