treehugger101 Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 How many of you, who have an email address no matter what the address, sometimes get spam in your junk folder? Do you ever get spam that happens to be from a dating website, one of which you AREN'T a member of? It was just one of those bots that sent the email for the hell of it? How many of you have had this happen before? IF this has never happened to you before, then what are the chances of you receiving an email from a dating site, indicating that you have NEW matches available, sign in to view them now! The only way you would have gotten that email EVEN IF IT WAS IN THE JUNK FOLDER, this would mean that you had an account on that said dating website right? What do you think?
Gaeta Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 I have been a member of every dating site you can imagine in the past 4 years and once my account is deleted I have never once received junk mails from them. If you get emails from a dating sites, like emails about your matches, it's because you still have an account. 3
Stage5Clinger Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 What do you think? Pro here... E-mails are distributed among a variety of websites who are affiliates with other websites. The trade of information takes place on the dark web often for cash. Alternatively, any free "shoppers club" rewards cards you sign up for or literally anything else that is "free" that asks for this information is based on the same system; your information is worth money so we will give you a discount for providing it to us. Therefor they use it or sell it to make back the discount and more that they provided for signing up. In addition to voluntarily offered information there are millions of intrusive websites that people visit every day that "track" you as you visit other websites and take those keywords to target you with ad-traffic and e-mails (if the data is present). The best example for this is Facebook which follows your next website hop and reads your cookies to see what you've been looking up and attempts to get you to click on ads based on what the AI has found on your system. ... and lastly there are mass spammers who literally systematically send e-mails to random e-mail combinations either scraped off the web in mass or just by attempting every combination of letters and numbers with @xxx.com at the end. These companies are often selling 'dick enlargement pills' or 'russian brides' and are mostly offshore scams. Similar to the now well known Nigerian scams where they pretend they are a girl in distress and try to con money out of you. Just to conclude the answer to your question is no -- you do not have to sign up for a particular website to receive spam from them. In fact, most often if you had signed up for that website it would more likely wind up in your Inbox for other reasons.
Stage5Clinger Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 I have been a member of every dating site you can imagine in the past 4 years and once my account is deleted I have never once received junk mails from them. If you get emails from a dating sites, like emails about your matches, it's because you still have an account. This is a good point too, if you were once a member of that website then you should consider that account is still out there. Nothing is ever deleted anyway -- but the websites at least pretend to delete your account and stop sending you 'matches'.
Ami1uwant Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Sometimes your email reads legit email as spam. If you were a past member snd your account is expired but you still have a profile they send emails on notifications or come back offers. Through anywhere you gave your email is sold around.
Gaeta Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 If you have emails from dating sites that you have new matches then 100% sure you still have an account.
Ami1uwant Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 If you have emails from dating sites that you have new matches then 100% sure you still have an account. Not true....I would get emails from match recommending matches...I wasn't a paying member. I was previously and still had a profile there.
Gaeta Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Not true....I would get emails from match recommending matches...I wasn't a paying member. I was previously and still had a profile there. That's what I am saying, you still had a profile there. Doesn't matter if your profile is hidden, or you are a paying member or not. If you still have a profile there hiding in a corner you will get matches. I have tried match a few times and once my profile was deleted, not suspended, but deleted, I never received any matches or email after that. 1
Author treehugger101 Posted October 10, 2015 Author Posted October 10, 2015 Well then this is something, my Boyfriend made himself a Match.com account, even if the email did go to the spam folder, those emails were mentioning new matches. I can't believe he did this to me, but that's him he always jumps the gun and thinks this and that. Well him and I are going to have to talk about this .
Gaeta Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Well then this is something, my Boyfriend made himself a Match.com account, even if the email did go to the spam folder, those emails were mentioning new matches. I can't believe he did this to me, but that's him he always jumps the gun and thinks this and that. Well him and I are going to have to talk about this . No no no no you don't have a talk about this. He is going to feed you some BS. EVERY thread on here about women finding their boyfriends online and having a 'talk' all end up with Romeo coming up with a bunch of BS. Make a fake profile and go talk to him. If he doesn't go online to get your message then it's probably a forgotten profile. 1
Author treehugger101 Posted October 10, 2015 Author Posted October 10, 2015 No no no no you don't have a talk about this. He is going to feed you some BS. EVERY thread on here about women finding their boyfriends online and having a 'talk' all end up with Romeo coming up with a bunch of BS. Make a fake profile and go talk to him. If he doesn't go online to get your message then it's probably a forgotten profile. Well do you think these emails are legit or just SPAM?
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Well then this is something, my Boyfriend made himself a Match.com account, even if the email did go to the spam folder, those emails were mentioning new matches. I can't believe he did this to me, but that's him he always jumps the gun and thinks this and that. Well him and I are going to have to talk about this . Those e-mails look legit to me. I'm really sorry treehugger. Once you deactivate an account, you stop receiving e-mails from these places. Especially as it's a reputable website, and not some random made up one that could be porn spam. I can't see why he'd suddenly be receiving e-mails about his matches on Match.com unless he'd opened up an account. I'm not usually one for snooping or deception but I have to say I'm actually with Gaeta on this one. If you ask him, he'll either say it's spam, or make some rubbish up like he set up an account for a nervous friend and was showing him the women on there, any old rubbish. I think you should make an account using a disposable e-mail address, make it look convincing, then send him a message saying hi, you love his profile, and ask him what he's looking for. Make something up about yourself. You'll soon find out whether it's actually really true that he's on there, and how he responds to some interest. If you simply ask him outright and he feeds you BS, it'll probably be in the back of your mind the rest of the relationship whether he's on there looking for some action or not. 1
Gaeta Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Well do you think these emails are legit or just SPAM? No they are not spams. First link is a email about him becoming a paying member. Meaning he is already a member. Second one is showing his MUTUAL matches. He liked these girls and they liked him back. That is NO spam.
Author treehugger101 Posted October 10, 2015 Author Posted October 10, 2015 Well I logged onto his match account because I was able to change the password and plan to delete the account myself.
TunaCat Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Well I logged onto his match account because I was able to change the password and plan to delete the account myself. Why? Just dump him and move on. Deleting the account yourself sounds stupid & juvenile. You deserve better. This guy does not want to be with you. So give him his wish, and dump him.
Gaeta Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Well I logged onto his match account because I was able to change the password and plan to delete the account myself. If you logged in the account then what did you see??? Any messages? activities?? Don't kid yourself, deleting his account is not going to keep him from chasing women. He will create another one.
Author treehugger101 Posted October 10, 2015 Author Posted October 10, 2015 Thats not what he told me last night, when him and I hung out, he said he wants to be with me and only me, even looked me in the eye to prove it.
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Well I logged onto his match account because I was able to change the password and plan to delete the account myself. What!? I didn't see that coming. That's the weirdest response to this situation! It doesn't make any sense. The account is a symptom of him thinking that it's okay to cheat behind your back, therefore a symptom of the fact that he isn't good relationship material. It's possibly a symptom he's unhappy in the relationship. It's not the root problem. Deleting the account doesn't take away those problems, and by dealing with this in such a passive way (deleting his account but accepting that he can set it up in the first place but you'll stay with him and not confront him) you're teaching him that you'll put up with him trying again and again until he gets an account you don't come across. And what do you plan on happening when he finds his account has been deleted? Do you honestly think he'll just think 'oh, that's strange!' not question it and go back to being a faithful boyfriend? No. He'll set another up with a disposable e-mail. Or he'll realise you did it and make some BS excuse up and go nuclear on you for snooping on his e-mails and messing around with his private accounts turning it onto you. Huh?
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Thats not what he told me last night, when him and I hung out, he said he wants to be with me and only me, even looked me in the eye to prove it. What do you place more stock in? His words or his actions? Looking someone in the eye doesn't mean much by the way... I look my barista in the eye when I order a coffee. Doesn't mean anything deep or meaningful. Just that that's kinda where you tend to look when speaking to anyone about anything, truthful or blatant lies. 1
Gaeta Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Thats not what he told me last night, when him and I hung out, he said he wants to be with me and only me, even looked me in the eye to prove it. How long you've been dating? Are you exclusive? Looking you in the eyes to prove it to you?? Honey! you are not that naive are you??
Author treehugger101 Posted October 10, 2015 Author Posted October 10, 2015 What!? I didn't see that coming. That's the weirdest response to this situation! It doesn't make any sense. The account is a symptom of him thinking that it's okay to cheat behind your back, therefore a symptom of the fact that he isn't good relationship material. It's possibly a symptom he's unhappy in the relationship. It's not the root problem. Deleting the account doesn't take away those problems, and by dealing with this in such a passive way (deleting his account but accepting that he can set it up in the first place but you'll stay with him and not confront him) you're teaching him that you'll put up with him trying again and again until he gets an account you don't come across. And what do you plan on happening when he finds his account has been deleted? Do you honestly think he'll just think 'oh, that's strange!' not question it and go back to being a faithful boyfriend? No. He'll set another up with a disposable e-mail. Or he'll realise you did it and make some BS excuse up and go nuclear on you for snooping on his e-mails and messing around with his private accounts turning it onto you. Huh? For one, I made him this new email account, so I can log into it and so can he. So he was the one that must have made the Match.com account, I log into it daily to delete spam and junk and today I found those Match.com emails in his SPAM folder. I went onto the site and changed the password and deleted the account, since I have access to his email and can do so and like I said, I did delete that account and then those emails. I then asked him about this whole situation and he hasn't admitted to it yet, but said what you had said about those emails being just SPAM. But I did find out something else, he's the type of guy that lets me log onto his email, phone, social media accounts whenever I want. So while on his phone, he even had a dating APP that one called Tinder. So I know he is up to something he is just afraid to admit it to me, because he knows he will loose me if he says anything. He doesn't want to loose me because he is scared. But yet he does this type of stuff, and is afraid to admit it.
Author treehugger101 Posted October 10, 2015 Author Posted October 10, 2015 How long you've been dating? Are you exclusive? Looking you in the eyes to prove it to you?? Honey! you are not that naive are you?? Him and I are exclusive, and been going together for 10 months almost. He says he isn't interested in anyone else. He only wants me. The real problem he has, is that whenever him and I talk about something like us getting into a fight, and us talking about breaking up, he jumps the gun too soon and thinks it will happen. When him and I NEVER broke up at all.
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 For one, I made him this new email account, so I can log into it and so can he. So he was the one that must have made the Match.com account, I log into it daily to delete spam and junk and today I found those Match.com emails in his SPAM folder. I went onto the site and changed the password and deleted the account, since I have access to his email and can do so and like I said, I did delete that account and then those emails. I then asked him about this whole situation and he hasn't admitted to it yet, but said what you had said about those emails being just SPAM. But I did find out something else, he's the type of guy that lets me log onto his email, phone, social media accounts whenever I want. So while on his phone, he even had a dating APP that one called Tinder. So I know he is up to something he is just afraid to admit it to me, because he knows he will loose me if he says anything. He doesn't want to loose me because he is scared. But yet he does this type of stuff, and is afraid to admit it. Well there we go. He has a Tinder too so you can't explain this away as just some weird one off. Sorry but I don't think he's afraid to admit it to you because he's scared of losing you. I think if he was scared of losing you he wouldn't be doing dumb BS like downloading dating apps on a phone he knows his gf accesses, creating online dating accounts using an e-mail his girlfriend logs into. At this point, given how transparent he is about both Match and Tinder, I would be surprised if he isn't getting kicks out of doing this on purpose. My gut says he's playing some kind of game where he sees how much he can get away with without you dumping him or standing up for yourself and asserting your rights. He may even have already met someone and talk to her about it or to his close friends, he's clearly making a mockery of you and seeing how far he can go. Next he'll have a chick he's met online turn up to your place while he's there and go out for drinks with his 'friend' leaving you at home. How do you feel about being with a guy when you're only really getting scraps of his attention and he's so unsatisfied and values you so poorly he's trying to scream at the top of his voice to you that he's cheating or trying to cheat?
joseb Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Well I logged onto his match account because I was able to change the password and plan to delete the account myself. Why on earth would you do that? What good does that do at all? And why were you snooping on his privatevstuff anyway? You must have been suspicious before?
Stage5Clinger Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 So while on his phone, he even had a dating APP that one called Tinder. I really wanted to try and defend this guy because technology can bite someone in the ass even if they are trying to be good -- but this changes things. We can't prove that he is actively on these websites (unless you looked really hard before you deleted his account) but we definitely know that he has been active between the times that you created the e-mail account and today. He can lie about match.com but what about this Tinder app? You have to knowingly seek that app out, download it, install it, accept the privacy terms, etc. If you don't get a good answer from this then there is no honesty in your relationship. It's up to you to decide what that really means.
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