Chr15 Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 I've been dating this guy for about a month now. We're both quite laid back, but we will text most days - not excessively, sometimes it might just be a few messages back and forth and that's it. But we will also go a few days (never more than 3) without being in touch. When we're together he is 100% there - very attentive, doesn't go on his phone at all etc so I think it's going well and he's interested. At the beginning it was mostly him initiating the texting, but more recently I'd say I initiate more often than he does. However, now I am on holidays for 3 weeks. I text him something 2 days after I arrived and he replied. It wasn't a conversation but just shared something we joked about previously. That was 3 days ago. I will text him again maybe tomorrow or the day after when I can. I know I am overthinking things, but I would love to hear from him, just maybe asking how my holiday was going. Am I right to assume he is probably thinking I am busy so doesn't want to bother me and that's why i havent heard from him? If the holiday was only a week or two I wouldn't be worried, but because it's 3 weeks I'm afraid all the momentum we had before I went away will be gone by the time I get back and he will have lost interest. If the person you were dating was away would you leave them to get on with things or would you drop them a message to see how they're getting on?
sandy123 Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 It depends. In my case, I try not to initiate texting if the person is on vacation because I do not want to appear to be clingy. However, if the person initiates texting several times, I may initiate a few times.
joseb Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 It depends. In my case, I try not to initiate texting if the person is on vacation because I do not want to appear to be clingy. However, if the person initiates texting several times, I may initiate a few times. Yeah I would be the same. If I'm on holidays I like to get away from everything. A lot of people on here seem to think you need to have daily contact, but it sounds like you two are not like that anyway. He might feel he is interrupting you by texting.
seekingluck Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I totally understand this one! I just went through this. I've been flirting with someone for a few weeks. We haven't really established anything yet, but before he left we were talking every other day for various reasons. Lucky for me, I had a situation he wanted to updates on so it gave me excuses to text him. I didn't want to necessarily bother him, but we had good momentum. I texted every couple of days, and he was responsive. We connected when he came back. My texts filled him in on the developments he wanted to hear about and i asked some small questions about his trip that had no urgency to test the waters. This is a case where social media is great. Are you friends on any of the platforms? Are you sharing trip details and updates? Just send him a message or two with a pic that made you think of him.
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