adiamond Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 Hi, so I don't drink too much alcohol and some guys are suggesting to get "drinks" as a first date. How should I respond? I don't want to appear lame but I just can not drink beer. Wine is fine but I've tried so many times with beer and I'll take sips and throw the rest away. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 You can order a virgin Pina Colada, or some other fruity cocktail. It doesn't matter what YOU choose to drink, you are there to talk and get to know each other. Link to post Share on other sites
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 Just go and drink soft drinks, or have an alcoholic drink then a couple soft drinks? Or a watered down drink (like a wine spritzer)? You say it's just beer you hate... so drink wine! A guy asking you for drinks doesn't mean he's expecting to you drink beer you know. It's not about the drinks, it's about sitting and getting to know one another. Link to post Share on other sites
Author adiamond Posted October 10, 2015 Author Share Posted October 10, 2015 Okay, Thanks guys! Link to post Share on other sites
Shanex Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 Well most guys dont do that to get women drunk. Speaking of dates out of their own place. However if you dont like alcohol much they dont have to force you to. You can have a glass of wine only... If its your thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 If you're going someplace with a full bar, talk to the bartender. Most of them are good at what they do and will be able to make you something you like. When we first started dating, my girlfriend didn't drink many cocktails because she is rather picky. Now, she has a few favorite drinks at just about every place we frequent. Link to post Share on other sites
Chr15 Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 If you're ok drinking wine, then drink wine (or whatever you do like to drink). Otherwise tell them that you don't drink and suggest some other option Link to post Share on other sites
Versacehottie Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 Also don't take it so literally on what you are doing. It's not the "drinks" per se but a chance to have a nice, fun informal conversation with someone on a date. Be excited about the atmosphere and the company. You can order a drink and not drink it or much of it OR order something non-alcoholic. That part is just a by-product of getting together. The most important part of a date is the company. Are you excited/motivated about that part? If so, then go. What you do is just fluff. Actually even if it is not to your liking that makes for a funny experience or informative one. For example, if you tell a date via online msg, texting or phone that you don't drink they can jump to conclusions about how that would fit into their lives in a permanent manner. If you go, and show that you are open to fun and experiences and the possibility of a great guy, you show them something great about yourself and then the fact that you don't drink alcohol or not much of it, also shows them other great things about yourself--not uptight, has personal restraint, open enough to state her wishes but not impose them on others, into health or whatever, but still fun and open. That is worth a ton. One of the best dates I ever went on was to a 8 course or something foodie meal that was insanely expensive ($1000?) and you are just supposed to eat what the chef serves. It was a first date. The guy and I ended up having a totally bonding experience because it turned out we were both very picky eaters--the whole thing was comical and so many funny things happened. What I learned about him that I really liked was how open to experiences, fun, great sense of humor and generous he was. And he learned similar about me. I could care less about the food and would do the same thing all over. Each of us was great company and that the actual date content (foodie experience) meant very little to either of us had no bearing on the date on the whole. Actually it was great to each be under not ideal circumstances that turned out ideal because of who each of us was. I have a couple of other examples like that so don't stress. Just think about the person. You can be in the best venue, your ideal type of fun and if it's the wrong person, it's miserable, conversely. Goodluck Link to post Share on other sites
Versacehottie Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 I forgot to say when he discovers on first date that you don't drink much and if there is a 2nd date you will learn a lot about what type of guy he is in how he tries to structure that date knowing you are not big on drinking. And you'd want to find out upfront pretty much if he is a guy who is a heavy drinker. So it's good for all sorts of reasons. Plus I tend to think that guys who ask for this are more imaginative and fun than someone who just wants to go on very typical coffee date. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
xcupid Posted October 11, 2015 Share Posted October 11, 2015 You drink what you want to drink - either alcohol that you like or no alcohol. Who said you had to drink beer or drink alcohol at all? If you don't like doing that then suggest something else. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted October 11, 2015 Share Posted October 11, 2015 Hi, so I don't drink too much alcohol and some guys are suggesting to get "drinks" as a first date. How should I respond? I don't want to appear lame but I just can not drink beer. Wine is fine but I've tried so many times with beer and I'll take sips and throw the rest away. But why do you have to get beer? If wine is fine, then do wine. Or if you like cocktails, do a cocktail. I'm not a beer drinker myself, so if I went out for drinks I'd have wine or a cocktail. You can also ask to go for dessert and coffee instead or something else if you'd rather not do drinks. Or conversely, if you are okay with wine, like I said previously, get that instead of beer. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 11, 2015 Share Posted October 11, 2015 Hi, so I don't drink too much alcohol and some guys are suggesting to get "drinks" as a first date. How should I respond? I don't want to appear lame but I just can not drink beer. Wine is fine but I've tried so many times with beer and I'll take sips and throw the rest away. just tell them you aren't a real drinker and would rather meet for coffee or a quick lunch... Link to post Share on other sites
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