heartbroken15 Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Hello, I would like to get an answer on everyone's opinion who has been in a relationship with someone that became close to your kids that are not theirs. Is it possible for your ex to try to use your kids to still be involved in your life or see how you are doing or is it that they just miss the kids? She is with someone else so I decided to just leave it all alone and stop trying to make it work. My ex has been texting me during no contact about seeing me child that is not hers. I have been ignoring her and Shes being calling me all kind of names. I just decided that it was best for all of us to move on. My child is doing fine emotionally during all this and I have talked to him about it and he seems to be doing well. My son and I spend a lot of time together and we really enjoy ourselves. He is still young so I figured its best to just give us all a clean slate.I have been doing no contact which has made her attempt to contact my child even greater than before compared to when I was actually obsessed with texting and calling her. She have been in his life for years but why do I have to consider her wants and her feelings? I think my only priority is my child and his feelings. Do you think she genuinely wants to be involved in his life or is this just someway to keep me in hers? Its like she try to make me feel bad for my decision.
Confusedbymen Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 How longwas she involved in your son's life? Maybe she really loves and misses your son? Maybe she realizes she loves and misses you as well and this is her way of seeing if you still want her. Would you take her back? Woman usually freak out when theit husband or boyfriend they broke up with starts not responding g to them. It scares them that you found someone else and you are completely over them. If you are done with her forever then move on. If you still think there is a slight hope of reconciliation, you might want to meet and talk with her. Let her know you two are a package deal, and you and son are moving on without her, or you will try one last time to work it out. If she doesn't want to try, cut her out of both your lives. It is too confusing for your son, and he really just wants his dad to be happy!!
Blanco Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 I wasn't happy to hear my ex was already involved with someone, but the idea of going NC and not seeing her didn't kill me. What did torment me was the thought of NC meaning I wouldn't see her children anymore. I was definitely not over the relationship, but the kids are what kept me from going to NC right away. I don't really miss my ex specifically anymore. But I have to work hard not to think of the kids, because otherwise, I'm hit with the realization that I miss them as much as ever.
d0nnivain Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 This person is trying to manipulate you & your kid. I only dated 1 person with kids. When we broke up I asked to see the son to say good bye. The father agreed. I said good bye & that was it. He was a teenager so it wasn't that odd. The kid also stayed in town while the dad moved to another state. I actually still have a relationship with the kid who is now a doctor.
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