xcupid Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 Has he been to his doctor for a physical and discussed the low sex drive with his doctor?
oberkeat Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 Well it's been 6 weeks since this post. With the lack of sex and him now going away for work 3 weeks at a time, I told him how badly this was effecting me. He did make an effort to become more sexually frequent but then went to work for the 3 weeks. He came back and the sex was very casual during our time together. We went away on vacation this weekend and he made up excuses to not have sex until I broke down in tears. He explained that the root of this is anxiety,nervous and low sex drive. I told him how we need to work through this or else it's gonna damage things. The last thing I want is to pressure or make my man , have him obligated to sleep with me. That's the worse and will still make me feel bad about myself no matter what. He did say maybe I need help but simply says I have a higher sex drive then him. He saw how upset I was and says he loves me more than anything in the world. He wants it to feel natural. The last night of our trip we did have sex but again I can tell its not something he really wants in terms of raw, heat of the moment things. One thing though is he has constant erections. I can't leave him, everything is perfect with us besides this issue. He's the love of my life but this sex thing it's so hard. I've never been in this situation It almost brings tears to my eyes to read this. I think that a man who has to be convinced, persuaded, trained or begged to have sex with his woman is not a real man. These so-called men, who refuse to give their women the sex lives they deserve, are taking their women for granted, and they deserve to be single. I have always said there are plenty of single guys out there who need a girlfriend and who have no trouble performing their duty in the bedroom if somebody would only give them a chance. As long as you do not have kids, and are not married, I see no reason at all for you to stick around with a turkey that is clearly not giving you want you need to be happy when it comes to the bedroom. There is no commitment when you are just dating, so a man had better have his s*** together if he wants to keep his woman around. Because there are plenty of other fully functional single guys like myself waiting for their shot. Waiting for a good woman to become available. You need to cut him lose and find yourself a real man. And when you do find someone who is just as good a match and makes you climax 40 times a night, you'll ask yourself why you wasted so much time with this turkey.
Saracena Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 I feel for the OP. It's hard when you really care about someone emotionally and they aren't meeting your sexual needs. Then to make matters worse, the more you grow to care emotionally, the more your physical/sexual attraction magnifies. So you only get more and more frustrated. Then you wind up feeling terrible because sexual frustration seems trivial w/someone you care about. . How long have you been together?
Author FaithInTheDark Posted November 30, 2015 Author Posted November 30, 2015 I can't give up on someone I deeply love and does the same with me. He knows how I feel about this situation. He says it's nothing personal that he just Gets in a bad head space about these things. But he was just trying to cover it up with endless excuses before. I know deep down if this issue isn't tesonced things are headed for doom. Especially when he's gone for weeks at a time. He is a real man , he just has issues that reflect back from his child abuse. Maybe I have to tell him to get professional help right away before it's too late. I don't know. We've been a couple for approx 4 months
smackie9 Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 yes tell him he needs to seek therapy. If therapy had no affect, tell him not all therapist are the same.....you need to find a good one.
oberkeat Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 I can't give up on someone I deeply love and does the same with me. He knows how I feel about this situation. He says it's nothing personal that he just Gets in a bad head space about these things. But he was just trying to cover it up with endless excuses before. I know deep down if this issue isn't tesonced things are headed for doom. Especially when he's gone for weeks at a time. He is a real man , he just has issues that reflect back from his child abuse. There are single, compatible, sexual guys out there who do not have these issues. 1
SwordofFlame Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 There are single, compatible, sexual guys out there who do not have these issues. Just like there are women out there that don't really care about sex.
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