TheyAreMakingMeCrazy Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 My blood is boiling right now, so I have to share what just happened to me. I went out on a 1st date with this girl to get some coffee at an outdoor mall. She was kinda being weird to start with. After we got it, we went outside and started walking by some stores to where some tables are at. As we are passing an ice cream place, she says she needs to go to the bathroom. So we go in there, and she goes in the bathroom, and I sit down at a table. Here's where it got interesting.... So the bathroom is clearly visible from the table I was sitting at, and keep in mind, this is a small shop with 1 bathroom. I was sitting there playing a game on my phone while I waited, and some movement caught my eye. I glanced up and thought I saw the bathroom door closing, but I didn't see her. There is also a 2nd door leading outside, right across from the bathroom door, and I saw that door closing as well.... Hmmm I thought....maybe she didn't see me and thought I was outside. Or maybe I didn't really see any movement on the bathroom door, and she was still in there. Then I thought, there's no way this girl could have just taken off, right? That's not something someone would do, right? So I sat there for about 15 seconds, and thought I'd go outside to see if she did leave the bathroom and was looking for me. I go outside and look around, and the mall is pretty busy so there were a lot of people. But then up ahead I see a girl walking away from where I am, and damn if her outfit doesn't look similar. I think, "no f'ing way.....NO F'ING WAY". At that second I turned into a damn private eye, and start tailing her from a distance and trying to blend into the crowd. I wanted to make sure it was her, and to see if she would look back, or if she was heading to her car, etc. Holding my phone to see if I was getting a call or text, maybe there was an emergency? But it ends up, this b***** just walked off to her car. Then I text her asking if she really just ditched me. And she writes back and says she had a panic attack and left. No apology or anything. So I write back saying I have anxiety too, but I'm not a rude coward like her that would just run off, and basically told her how low class that was, and that I've never seen anything like it. Still no apology, so I'm going to send a final F U message for my own peace of mind. I've been on tons of dates, and have never had someone do something like this. How insane is that?!?!?!? Who does something like that?!?!?!
Author TheyAreMakingMeCrazy Posted October 10, 2015 Author Posted October 10, 2015 ppl who have panic attacks.... If she really had a panic attack it's one thing, but considering there was no apology, I seriously doubt it's true.
kpl Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 You don't know if it's true, so let it go and move on. Don't waste time on someone who doesn't value yours whether it was a panic attack or not. 1
Stage5Clinger Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Clearly she is done with this situation. No need for an explanation.
J21 Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 You aren't gonna make the situation any better by telling her off. You'd come off as low class yourself. 1
Ami1uwant Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 If this was a real panic attack she would have texted you telling you that before you texted her. She ditched you. It's rude of her. People who foes these things are very shallow.
Guyouthere Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 she did you s favor. Now go get a real woman
jam.over.jelly Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 You aren't gonna make the situation any better by telling her off. You'd come off as low class yourself. Who are we to judge? If that makes him feel better then by all means, it's not like he did anything too crazy. His behavior was rather rational. If I were him I'd be furious too and a couple of FU texts aren't anything compared to what she did to him.
Jejangles Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 That is so rude, some people are terrible! You are totally justified in feeling annoyed, she is a rude person. If it makes you feel better, something similar happened to my friend. She met a guy for drinks and after about 15 minutes he said "I'm heading to the washroom." After a little while, the waiter came over and all embarrassed said "Um, the guy you were with paid and left a little while." She totally called him and put him on blast, because why should he get away with behaviour like that without repercussions? So I'd say feel free to say whatever you want, she should know her actions were out of line. 2
mystikmind2005 Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 I have been on first dates where i was quite sure i don't want to date this person, but, geeze, would never imagine ditching them, that is low, scumbag low. And you know, even when you know you don't want to date them, is it really such a terrible thing to stop and get to know this new human being you never met before? NO! 1
madjac74 Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 We don't know how you acted or treated her leading up to the "bathroom break" but based on your childish response to her afterwards, I am sure she feels like she made the right choice. basically told her how low class that was, and that I've never seen anything like it. Still no apology, so I'm going to send a final F U message for my own peace of mind. But this is a high class response. Simply just moving on and letting it be would be a form of class. 1
phineas Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 You aren't gonna make the situation any better by telling her off. You'd come off as low class yourself. This. She would of been eating herself up with guilt if he had said nothing and ignored her. But now he gave her everything she needed to justify her actions in her own mind. 1
Lois_Griffin Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 When I was online dating, a few different men told me about some of things they'd done or had done to them. A few guys admitted to purposely waiting for their date to show up to the coffee shop (or whatever) and watching from afar to get a look at their date. If they didn't like what they saw, they left, standing the girl up. One guy even admitted that he'd agreed to meet a gal without having seen a picture of her before meeting, but she'd promised him he wouldn't be disappointed. He said she lied horribly and he was extremely disappointed when she showed up, so as soon as he could, he excused himself to go to the bathroom and climbed out the men's room window, ditching his date. Of course, when guys told me this stuff, I mentally checked them off my list for 2nd dates. 3
Maggie4 Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Don't be angry and don't take it personally. She's weird. 2
smackie9 Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Don't be angry and don't take it personally. She's weird. I agree with this. In negative situations like this, think positively. Realize this girl is either a b itch or does have some crazy anxiety issues. Be happy you dodged a bullet.
Satu Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 She ditched you, therefore there's no point even thinking about her. Do nothing. 1
perol Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 She ditched you because you weren't what she was expecting. Perhaps rather than getting mad at her rudeness you take a harder look at yourself and try to figure out why she was disappointed.
glynnroy Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 My blood is boiling right now, so I have to share what just happened to me. I went out on a 1st date with this girl to get some coffee at an outdoor mall. She was kinda being weird to start with. After we got it, we went outside and started walking by some stores to where some tables are at. As we are passing an ice cream place, she says she needs to go to the bathroom. So we go in there, and she goes in the bathroom, and I sit down at a table. Here's where it got interesting.... So the bathroom is clearly visible from the table I was sitting at, and keep in mind, this is a small shop with 1 bathroom. I was sitting there playing a game on my phone while I waited, and some movement caught my eye. I glanced up and thought I saw the bathroom door closing, but I didn't see her. There is also a 2nd door leading outside, right across from the bathroom door, and I saw that door closing as well.... Hmmm I thought....maybe she didn't see me and thought I was outside. Or maybe I didn't really see any movement on the bathroom door, and she was still in there. Then I thought, there's no way this girl could have just taken off, right? That's not something someone would do, right? So I sat there for about 15 seconds, and thought I'd go outside to see if she did leave the bathroom and was looking for me. I go outside and look around, and the mall is pretty busy so there were a lot of people. But then up ahead I see a girl walking away from where I am, and damn if her outfit doesn't look similar. I think, "no f'ing way.....NO F'ING WAY". At that second I turned into a damn private eye, and start tailing her from a distance and trying to blend into the crowd. I wanted to make sure it was her, and to see if she would look back, or if she was heading to her car, etc. Holding my phone to see if I was getting a call or text, maybe there was an emergency? But it ends up, this b***** just walked off to her car. Then I text her asking if she really just ditched me. And she writes back and says she had a panic attack and left. No apology or anything. So I write back saying I have anxiety too, but I'm not a rude coward like her that would just run off, and basically told her how low class that was, and that I've never seen anything like it. Still no apology, so I'm going to send a final F U message for my own peace of mind. I've been on tons of dates, and have never had someone do something like this. How insane is that?!?!?!? Who does something like that?!?!?! Dating ! You gotta have thick Skin ! Looks like you have just taken a hit , deep breath and move on Obviously didn't have the balls to let you know you looked nothing like your photos and she didn't fancy you Harsh but hey ho that's dating
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