DirtyBerty Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 I really can't thank everyone here enough. You's have helped me so much already!!! So many nice people. It's good to know you're not the only one going through it isn't it. This happens to thousands of people every day. And they recover and are happy again. You will be good again. You will heal and will gat past this. We all will.
Author Jamesbrown1995 Posted October 10, 2015 Author Posted October 10, 2015 Should I go out on a night out with my friends tonight? Is it a good idea or bad idea? I feel like **** right now but I think a night out might help me. Can anyone help whether I should go out tonight? I might see her friends when I'm out and they might try and talk to me. What should I do?
lchf Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Should I go out on a night out with my friends tonight? Is it a good idea or bad idea? I feel like **** right now but I think a night out might help me. Can anyone help whether I should go out tonight? I might see her friends when I'm out and they might try and talk to me. What should I do? Dude go out and have a good time. Better than being cooped with with your thoughts. I'd probably avoid drinking a lot at this point. Alcohol doesn't do great things in your mental state. Even if her friends try to talk keep it short and polite and just focus on having fun. I wish I had a group of mates when I was in your situation to help take my mind off things.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 Thank you for sharing your story with me. The main thing that I am worried about is seeing her with another man:( Am I best not to text her? Would you have liked your bf to text you after you let him go? You are in the same boots as my gf so what would be the best thing for me to do? No. He did, frequently, and I tried to be understanding and gentle but it honestly got irritating because I felt like I was just repeating myself. In my heart and mind, I was already done. In the kindest way possible, I tried to explain this to him. Him being in quite regular contact after the break-up didn't change how I felt, nor did it change when we eventually lost touch. I really was over the relationship by the time I had the balls to end it. I tell you this not to dash your hopes, but to speak from the other side of the coin. If she outgrew this and fell out of love, it's done. It doesn't mean you did something wrong or that you can convince her to come back; it means her feelings changed and she knew what she had to do. The best thing for you to do is work on slowly letting it go. Resist the urge to call or message her; it's not going to help and it will probably only bring you more pain.
Author Jamesbrown1995 Posted October 10, 2015 Author Posted October 10, 2015 I want to keep contacting her. She was the love of my life:( it is putting me off my work.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 I want to keep contacting her. She was the love of my life:( it is putting me off my work. It's normal. This is a fresh trauma and you will need time to start to overcome it. But I promise you that contacting her is not the way to do so. And I also promise you will meet other girls in the future who will probably make you happier than you have ever been. For what it's worth, the ex I spoke of is now married and has a child with a woman who is probably far better suited to him than I was. He and I are no longer in contact personally, but by all accounts, he is very happy now. You will get there someday too.
man03999 Posted October 10, 2015 Posted October 10, 2015 I feel your pain! My ex also left me 6 weeks ago due to GIGS. She moved to a different state cuz of her new job and think everything is better there. I've had no contact with her ever since and i think she's dating her coworker now. We had been dating for 6 years!
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