Shining One Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 I do not know how old you are, but you will learn attractive does not guarantee a better match even if it garners more matches and attention and in real life, the amount of head turns, whistles, grunts, bows, this is all superficial and while it gets you attention, it does not mean these people want to settle with you, have kids, and make a life with you. It usually is the opposite.I disagree. I see dating as a funnel. The more you have at the top (dating opportunities) the more you will have at the bottom (potential lifelong matches). Of course, with more choices, the chances for bad choices increases.
JasmineJones Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 You are probably the only one who would get less attention online.. Well obviously in person one is animated, moving, talking, laughing etc so that is going to be more alluring than just photos, however attractive the photos. If a person is ugly then I guess they'd be ignored in person and online as well.
Shining One Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 You are probably the only one who would get less attention online..I could see it happening. OLD has filters and if someone has attributes that commonly get filtered out, then that person will get less attention. If those attributes are not readily visible in person, then that same person will get attention. Using myself as an example. I'm an Indian male, which isn't in high demand on OLD in this area. Thus, I did not get approached much online. When I used to go clubbing, several women would mistake me for being Hispanic and come dance with/on me. Thus, I got more attention in person than online.
katiegrl Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 Because OLD is primarily about how one looks, yes I believe how attractive you are there has a direct correlation as to how attractive you are in person. **I have yet to meet anyone from OLD who looked better in person than they did in their pictures.*** How about the other way around, looking worse in person than in photos? I have a friend who is very active on line. She is very photogenic, and with the proper lighting, angle, she looks gorgeous in photos! As a result she gets 100s of messages on line! In real life, her skin is bad, a lot of sun damage, and she has premature wrinkling, so rarely gets approached in real life. No doubt there are others who are also very photogenic, and who get a lot of attention on line but not so much in real life. So IMO, no, one cannot gauge/rate their attractiveness based on how much attention they receive OLD. Photos can be deceiving. It's how people see you IRL that is the true indicator of one's attractiveness.
Celeste.Carol Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 By desirability in real life and the point of OLD is to find your match. At what point to you gauge desirability, attractiveness = meeting the one. I see so many loving couple, holding hands, the majority of the people you see in real life who are quite unattractive if you go by Hollywood standards, but they are together and seemingly in love. I see more average people in relationships than stunning couples. 1
oberkeat Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 By desirability in real life and the point of OLD is to find your match. At what point to you gauge desirability, attractiveness = meeting the one. I see so many loving couple, holding hands, the majority of the people you see in real life who are quite unattractive if you go by Hollywood standards, but they are together and seemingly in love. I see more average people in relationships than stunning couples. Two thumbs up for this comment. I think OP's focus is misplaced. You don't have to be physically attractive to find a relationship. I see people all the time who I find physically off putting in relationships. Finding a partner is really a matter of meeting someone who is compatible with you, not how attractive you are in a superficial way.
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