stevo 123 Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 Hi I was with my girlfriend 2 years off and on . She is very nice but unpredictale maybe. After a couple of months she dumped me on her birthday I was bit gutted and left her alone apart from a text a week after asking was it defo over she said yes. I tried to move on and eventually after around a month she text me wishing me luck with a work thing that the tv probs reminded her about. I waited 4 days and replied and then got sick of meaningless texts back n forth so rang her out of the blue and asked what she wanted and she started giving me objectives like if I stop smoking we could go for meal end of month and see how we get on. I said no we either go out this weekend or I'll find someone else and told her I wanted her! It was all a bit odd and I said I think maybe an ex turned up and thats why she dumped me so sudden on her birthday. She admitted this but said thats buried now (he must have sent birthday message grr). beware of exes I was niave thought 3 months was too long ago to worry about I now think any ex after any time can be an issue lol. Anyway got back together and I had probably the best year of my life but I have a divorce settlement going on in the background and an ex wife who winds me up like a spring which makes this a bit different to normal relationship issues. My kids are up and ex wife left 3 years ago but is very manipulative and she did not with hindsight like me in a long term relationship even though she had lots of fellas. I was stressed and ended up putting doubt in girlfriends heart (big mistake)and eventually she ended us even though I couldnt breath and thought maybe it was for the best. I forgot how bad heartache was and yeah I had less stress but jeez heartach is tons worse. Couple weeks later I spotted gfriend on dating site and asked her out she thought about it but decided the next day NO IT WOULD BE EASY BUT GO THE SAME WAY ! and I was upset. Then few weeks later she got in touch first again and the chase game started again with me stupidly pouring my heart out and her not so much (ego gift or what). I was happy to be back with her but our schedules are difficult and we both have family comitments. I found it hard to feel at ease and she was slightly cocky ! understandably so as I kept being easy to get I guess. She ended us again on phone after month or so I could feel it coming but I was powerless to do anything due to stress from being tired coz of work or she would be tired and the divorce settlement texts and phonecalls from ex wife where building up and kids and leaving my dogs alone too much and work stuff all got on top of me. ANYWAY 3 months no contact apart from her getting in touch for keys which I gave to her brother in law who I told I was dating to get confidence back and so he would tell her (I had 1 date). Also no messages on her birthday which was a downer day for me.. Coincidently my EX WIFE knows we split and not a whisper from her the whole 3 months either lol and I feel a right mug but lesson learned. Anyway deleted girlfriend and her family from fbook changed my schedule so impossible to bump into her and gave her some stuff back that she wanted me to keep (probably upset her) how am I doing or what have I done wrong ? I know I am putting her on a pedastal but we never argued and she is fiery and feisty. She is special to me she had such an impact on my life. She is starting college and needs to get stuck into books which is reason she used to end it which I understand. I was soo close to her guarded cold heart which Im sure is warm inside... p.s the only thing she could do to get my attention through anything was her whatsapp image which she changed to my fave pic of her about a month ago which I got rid of by deleting her from phone..... maybe Im being harsh but NC is easiest and has worked in the past and I'm now worried I may be close to moving on....Barky2 opinion would be great if anybody knows how to involve him ...ty all
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