candie13 Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 I might be the exception but I don't do this with OLD. I find guys more attractive based on chemistry and personality than looks alone so as long as he isn't hideous in his pic I'll give it a shot. The things I want I have to largely access in real life like personality, character, etc. I mostly use OLD to screen out bad behavior, people who seem to have a lot of baggage, people with ideal very different, etc. Now I do believe guys think and act the way you describe. Women are a little different here IMO. it's funny, but I seem to weed men better online than in real life. The stuff they say, the questions they ask... sometimes their character does come across in those few lines of conversation. chemistry, however... man, that is rare. So rare. IRL and online. yeah, one needs face to face meet up for chemistry to happen. It's hard for me to realize online if guys have a lot of baggage. I get a sense of that after a couple of dates, though. Which sucks, because complicated men do have a certain appeal . As for different ideals... man, that's such a tough one. Really important too. People lie. they hide things... or maybe that only happens to me, I dunno. Thing is, in time, truth gets revealed. No one is that good a liar . anyways, OP... I used Tinder and I've had some good and some bad experiences, but all in all, I am really happy to have used it. It is hard to meet decent people. It is hard to get to a third date with a man. I had a long string of meet ups and nothing more... I know I may sound cheap, but it really is a number's game and a matter of pure and sheer luck. And you know how luck works? When you expect it the least. Like... not at all. yeah, it's that complicated ! but... you get to get out of your comfort zone, allow yourself to meet people and be vulnerable to their BS, learn, toughen up and enjoy. I did meet a lot of men and it really was helpful, as I am rather reserved when it comes to meeting new men, in real life.
candie13 Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 Yeah this seems to be dependant on a few things - where you are located, age range and the 'type' you go for. I'd say most of the women I match on Tinder seem to want a LTR rather than anything else. Which is a pain, as I'm not looking for that! jo... there is a reason as to why you're attracting these women in your life. Maybe you're a tiny bit ambivalent about it, yourself...I have an acquaintance who's too good at seducing women... too good. Flirting heavily. Acting endearing. Seducing tons. Giving a little and then pulling back... it's impressive, the girls do fall for that massively. And he's not in a RS with any of them.. but he does lead them on a bit, because he is suggesting that there might be a chance... which is maybe why he's that successful in the first place, hahaha! I dunno, if you're all flirty and seductive and don't make a bit deal about it, I am sure a lot of women would be inclined to come up and play with ya, jo .
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