Buddhist Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 Okay, So I have a recurring theme in my life. I am continually in relationships with gay men. And before you ask, yes these are fully sexual relationships. These are men who identify as being sexually attracted to men prior to being in a relationship with me. And I think it's happening at work again as a coworker is being particularly weird and short with me despite there being no awkwardness between us previously. Things just got super weird, overnight. My last partner identified as being gay but was in a 2yr sexual relationship with me then afterwards identified himself as being bisexual. What I really want to know is....where the hell does this **** come from? Why? Just why? I have been in one relationship with a fully heterosexual male and it was the worst relationship of my life. I wasn't sexually attracted to him at all. But put a bisexual or gay guy in front of me and it's hormone city. WTF? Does anyone else have this affliction? Does anyone have any sensible idea's about it? I have spoken to other gay men about it and all they can tell me is that for whatever reason sometimes a woman just does it for them and well that's that. Others are adamant that they would never ever be attracted to a woman no matter what. But no-one has an answer as to why this seems to be my speciality.
h0000 Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 Okay, So I have a recurring theme in my life. I am continually in relationships with gay men. And before you ask, yes these are fully sexual relationships. These are men who identify as being sexually attracted to men prior to being in a relationship with me. And I think it's happening at work again as a coworker is being particularly weird and short with me despite there being no awkwardness between us previously. Things just got super weird, overnight. My last partner identified as being gay but was in a 2yr sexual relationship with me then afterwards identified himself as being bisexual. What I really want to know is....where the hell does this **** come from? Why? Just why? I have been in one relationship with a fully heterosexual male and it was the worst relationship of my life. I wasn't sexually attracted to him at all. But put a bisexual or gay guy in front of me and it's hormone city. WTF? Does anyone else have this affliction? Does anyone have any sensible idea's about it? I have spoken to other gay men about it and all they can tell me is that for whatever reason sometimes a woman just does it for them and well that's that. Others are adamant that they would never ever be attracted to a woman no matter what. But no-one has an answer as to why this seems to be my speciality. I don't fully understand your question. Are you asking why gay men are having "sexual relationship" (does that mean you are their F buddy?) with you? So why gay men have sex with women? well just because they are gay doesn't mean they can't enjoy a vagina. Their penis will still get stimulated.
lchf Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 Well sexual attraction can be related to lots of different characteristics of a person aside from physical appearance. A lot of gay men (I don't know any bisexual dudes) I know have a particularly good way with talking to women and possess a certain charm I don't often see in straight guys. Could that have something to do with it? Obviously I'm generalising here. edit: I also am not entirely sure what you're asking.. I interpreted it as you asking why you feel partial to gay/bisexual men... Might need you to clarify.
Author Buddhist Posted October 8, 2015 Author Posted October 8, 2015 I don't fully understand your question. Are you asking why gay men are having "sexual relationship" (does that mean you are their F buddy?) with you? So why gay men have sex with women? well just because they are gay doesn't mean they can't enjoy a vagina. Their penis will still get stimulated. Well it's not a FWB thing, it's a full live-in, committed relationship.
Author Buddhist Posted October 8, 2015 Author Posted October 8, 2015 Years ago, I used to be the only guy who hung out in a group of "lesbians." Most of those women were really bisexual, even though they called themselves lesbians. A lot of them would hit on me, and I had relations with a couple of them. Perhaps, like me, you just spend a lot of time with bisexual people? Yeah I think this might be the answer I'm looking for. A lot of bisexuals will identify one way or the other because being bisexual is pretty much akin to being unattractive to everyone. Yes I do find gay/bisexual men attractive, more so than hetero's. I guess it's the softness of expression that I enjoy which fully straight men rarely express. Okay so it's not such a mystery after all. Thanks.
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