What's The Male Equivalent of an Attractive Woman?

[lollipopspot]

gay men go absolutely crazy for me

 

I think you're probably unwittingly putting off some gay vibe, if you're all that and women aren't interested in you - but gay men are.

[Revan32]

I find it hard to believe that you would get rejected 10-15 times ore more every week if you are like what u said, good looking, athletic, well rounded etc. I'd imagine u would get hit on all the time and girls would try to get with you. unless you are just completely boring and insecure ( we can sense it if you are)

 

I think location has a lot to do with how much girls clamor over guys. I got hit on a lot more back when I was in LA than now being in Austin. Still, you'd be surprised at how little normal good looking guys get hit on. Those 1 in a thousand guys probably get swarmed, but normal good looking not so much. I'm 6'3", good build, decent looks, good fashion, have traveled all around the world, ride a sweet motorcycle, and still can't remember the last time a girl has really flirted with me. (in Austin) (not trying to make a brag post, just a point)

 

You're not dating average males. the 80/20 rule is in strong effect here - you're likely seeing the men who are also seeing 6 other women. Women have no interest in a man unless he's being pursued by tons and tons of other females. It's just fact of life

 

I hate to agree with this, but its amazing how often its true. For me, girls always come in swarms. I'll start seeing one girl, then a bunch of other girls seem to open up to me. Then I go through droughts when it seems like i'm invisible to girls. I've tried noticing if I act differently when seeing a girl but I never notice anything.

 

So Im just saying attractive guys don't have it that hard. I actually think they have it easier when it comes to long term relationships.

If an attractive guy wants to settle, he can find an attractive girl. If an attractive girl wants to settle, 90% of the guys after her only want sex.

 

I disagree slightly. It depends on the type of good looking a guy is. The guys who are the more pretty-ish good looking I'm sure have no problems finding an LTR. Guys who are more masculine good looking often get assumed to be players and are not good ltr prospects. I've had a hell of a time finding an attractive girl to settle down with.

 

Then the only reason I can think of why u don't get as many dates as u should providinG everything u describe about yourself so far, is The fact that you're good looking may just be subjective. Sorry, can't think of anything else, u seem perfect on paper.

 

I believe I've seen OP's pic before. He posts in a lot of different forums. If I remember correctly he's a darker skin color living in a very white city. So he could be good looking in his own way, but still have a very hard time attracting the white women he's surrounded by.

[xxoo]

The equivalent

 

He doesn't have to be a celeb or have abs, but personality counts at least as much as looks. Men don't seem to care as much about personality for sexual attraction.

[clia]

Attractive, charming men have no problem getting dates -- at least none I've ever known.

 

How many women have you actually asked out on a date in the past two months?

 

It's been suggested to you before that you try to get objective feedback about what you are doing wrong in real life -- be it from a woman who will be totally honest with you or from a dating coach. We can't even begin to guess how you come across in real life. My suspicion is that there is something about your attitude that is turning women off -- provided you are truly making an effort to date as opposed to getting mad because hot women won't approach you. For the type of women you want, you need to pursue them. They won't be chasing after you.

 

Also, move to the city. It's crawling with women your age every night of the week. You are limiting yourself by staying in the 'burbs at your age. Most women who live in the city won't date a guy who lives where you live, and most women in their 20s want to live in the city.

[jam.over.jelly]

If I remember correctly he's a darker skin color living in a very white city. So he could be good looking in his own way, but still have a very hard time attracting the white women he's surrounded by.

 

This would be reasonable.

[carhill]

To me, the male version of an attractive woman would be a man who generally lights up the female eyes in any room, has women sashaying over to introduce themselves to him, is genuine in addition to being widely physically attractive and has healthy social skills because, generally, even if a man is attractive, he has to be overt in his attention when he sorts through the admirers to focus on the few or the one.

 

I was fortunate enough to have a young friend like that and watch him grow his milieu to a marriage, which I attended, to a equally gifted and lovely young lady who's, gasp, older than he is and as or more successful in her own pursuits. Both were professional models in their teens represented by national agencies.

 

My friends wives swoon over him, though politely of course, even now that he's married. He's gracious, generous and remembers things about individuals, a key aspect of being personable.

 

I remember a long ago interview with Monty Clift where he opined Liz Taylor could have been the one woman to make him straight (heterosexual). In that era, a lot of women felt the same way about Monty, that they'd have loved to make him straight because he was so beautiful and sensitive and caring. Heh, one young lady I know got her wish, not with Monty but rather with a guy who is straight.

 

From my chair as an older, average, guy with mixed success in relationships and marriage, I can just smile. It's a different world for them. Not perfect, nope, but different. Good on 'em for making the most of what they were given in life.

[losangelena]

To me, the male version of an attractive woman would be a man who generally lights up the female eyes in any room, has women sashaying over to introduce themselves to him, is genuine in addition to being widely physically attractive and has healthy social skills because, generally, even if a man is attractive, he has to be overt in his attention when he sorts through the admirers to focus on the few or the one.

 

Yeah, but the one guy I've ever known like that was/is a complete sociopath. A charming one, but one nonetheless.

 

Go figure.

[SymphonyX7]

This would be reasonable.

 

 

The pictures are misleading, I have a pretty golden complexion in real life

 

 

White people always compliment me on how good and tan I look year round

[Celeste.Carol]

To me, the male version of an attractive woman would be a man who generally lights up the female eyes in any room, has women sashaying over to introduce themselves to him, is genuine in addition to being widely physically attractive and has healthy social skills because, generally, even if a man is attractive, he has to be overt in his attention when he sorts through the admirers to focus on the few or the one.

 

I was fortunate enough to have a young friend like that and watch him grow his milieu to a marriage, which I attended, to a equally gifted and lovely young lady who's, gasp, older than he is and as or more successful in her own pursuits. Both were professional models in their teens represented by national agencies.

 

My friends wives swoon over him, though politely of course, even now that he's married. He's gracious, generous and remembers things about individuals, a key aspect of being personable.

 

I remember a long ago interview with Monty Clift where he opined Liz Taylor could have been the one woman to make him straight (heterosexual). In that era, a lot of women felt the same way about Monty, that they'd have loved to make him straight because he was so beautiful and sensitive and caring. Heh, one young lady I know got her wish, not with Monty but rather with a guy who is straight.

 

From my chair as an older, average, guy with mixed success in relationships and marriage, I can just smile. It's a different world for them. Not perfect, nope, but different. Good on 'em for making the most of what they were given in life.

 

 

Interesting enough (I thought Liz was beautiful) the man who she was so interested in and loved, they kept making and breaking up once quoted she was too dark and hairy as a lady for him. Life is strange.

[carhill]

Yeah, but the one guy I've ever known like that was/is a complete sociopath. A charming one, but one nonetheless.

 

Yes, that potential is always a possibility because our insides, meaning our psychology and emotional styles, are not visible in the room. People observe our appearance and outward behaviors. That's why I smile when I see widely attractive actors plying their trade. Not only are they attractive, one element of gathering the attention of the audience in their particular role as such, they are also gifted in portraying behaviors and emotional styles which may not be authentic and often, are not. They 'fake it' but in a convincing way, professionally.

 

While personalities vary, it is, IMO, fun to watch the physical part, something I did a bit of at the wedding reception of the couple I described above. I watched to see whom gathered the most attention. True to their style, nothing elaborate or fancy, a small group of we older guys did the grunt serving and kitchen stuff for about 200 people, so it gave ample opportunity to see all manner of interactions. I find weddings are a wonderful venue for this because people tend to 'put on the dog' as my exW used to put it, and it can be a sight to see.

 

Guys can be sociopathic, narcissistic, mentally ill in all sorts and forms and fashions. Definitely. Still, they can be initially widely attractive and those psychological conditions don't turn on that wide attractiveness, rather are specific to the individual's brain, which isn't a part of the initial attractiveness. Continuing attractiveness, sure. That's why some widely attractive guys are gods and others are flops, same as with any other guy. We're all individuals.